>>81890 Oh, and on the 600+ lb thing, I have always been very open with my preferences. She always knew that I wanted her to be fatter - back in the day, I would always say that the cure for whatever ailed her would be a thick layer of fat (e.g., she felt cold, so I would say that what she needed was a thicker layer of insulating fat) - and she knows the sort of porn I enjoy, cause I've shown it to her. And she asked once how big I would want her, and I was mostly honest and said about 500 lbs (cause I know that if I said 600+ lbs, that would have started an argument that I wanted to kill her), and she to this day will say that I will never get the 500 lb wife that I wanted. I am not sure whether sharing that was a good move or not. Even back in the day when I thought she was ok being fat, I knew that would never happen, and it was just a fantasy I could discuss, and she was willing to let me entertain the thought because she knew she would never let herself get that big. And this is one of the reasons why, while I do not regret marrying her, if I were to start all over again, knowing what I know now, I probably would have looked for someone different. Though, to be fair, back in the mid-90s, the options to find someone who was significantly larger than 300 lbs - and who was genuinely ok with it and would not object to getting bigger - were more limited, not just because women weren't as fat back then (I would posit that being young and 300+ lbs back then is comparable to being young and 400+ lbs today, in terms of availability), but also because we didn't have the internet to bring people from across the country together, so your dating pool was pretty much all local. That I met someone online was a rarity in 1995 - it was just at the beginning of online dating - and the "simple" fat woman who spent all day eating and who was not bright enough to care about the consequences really was not online at the time (cause it was both expensive to be online and you had to have a decent amount of smarts to even figure out how to get on the basic internet back then), so you had to somehow meet them locally, which was super-hard, as they generally did not want to go out.

>>81892 This is OP you replied to, sadly my wife is on the GLP1 which precipitated the thread.

>>81762 Dude, Jesus christ, get some help

>>81895 Have you considered other means of medical sabotage? There has to be an opposite medication that makes people eat more you could sneak her to balance out having pussed out in the GLP-1 plan.

>>81900 Please do not make someone take medication without their knowledge or consent, especially if they are currently on medication tha could negatively interact with their current stuff

>>81901 I don't know what considered medicine. AOC is taking ketamine therapy. I did my therapy and I have narcolepsy for the job and just need to sleep more and take care of myself as the schizophrenic.

>>81899 Trump is out living Chuck Norris, Muller despite being overweight and subsisting on McDonald's at 80. He's at the age conservatives drop dead but there's fear he'll live to 100 or 110. NYers already live to 100 but you know how glowies are keeping him alive on top of the line medicine.

>>81901 Shut up pussy. This guys fucking nice enough to share photos of his nearly immobile landwhale and you’re messing it up for the rest of us.

>>81908 He's right though. If OP loves this person, then that's a very wicked and unhinged thing to do, not to mention dangerous. Plus, doing so is a felony in many places.

>>81906 When did I even mention Trump? I said you need help, because you posted about volunteering with disenfranchised youth to see who you could potential groom and fatten up for your own pleasure, you fucking pedo

>>81915 I went back to narcolepsy because it's easier. I can only function for five hours. It also means I don't care about the news

>>81917 You mentioned schizophrenia in an earlier post, you may want to try and stick to yoyr med routine, and also go to bed

>>81915 > volunteering with disenfranchised youth to see who you could potential groom and fatten up for your own pleasure Trump would approve of this gameplan.

>>81919 I am still narcoleptic because it's easier than being normal. I am about to go to sleep. Mist of us autistics are going back to hobbies

>>81920 I am the far right disenfranchised thirties. There's nothing bad happening because it's very slow at my art. Even I plan on going in vacation soon instead and getting real OD

>>81891 >I am curious: is your wife losing courtesy of a GLP medication, or is she doing it the old fashioned weigh through diet and exercise? Both. She is slowly losing courtesy of a GLP tablet, but she can't tolerate a high dose so her weight loss is less. She's now out of the pre-diabetic danger zone, so at some point they'll maybe stop prescribing. She has no massive desire to be super skinny, and she knows she wouldn't stick to it if she got so small so being realistic and dieting if she hits a certain figure is her ultimate endgame. I like how she says she's going to stay 'an acceptable level of fat' as it puffs the wrinkles out and keep her looking young. I can relate to your born in the 60s scenario, though I was born late 70s no one was supersized until the early-2000s in the uk. Though I always dated busty chubby girls it wasn't until then that my desired size was seen. I also found that the fatter I dated, the fatter I then wanted. I downsized by dating my now wife, though I hadn't relationship dated in over a year as I felt like everyone I was meeting was mentally unstable or stargazing into a future together after a few dates, so I just stopped. All of a sudden this northern irish woman i'd known 10 years previously invites me to a social media site and once I saw her size we got talking, she came over with her job, we started dating and never split up. That's pretty much why when there's a thread like this I say get out there, learn to live with the fact your dick gets hard for fat and own it. Realistically you're not going to marry and have a 600lbs wife and grow old with her, so all these guys in their 20s, get your fat kicks in now.

>>81955 How do you deactivate her GLP injections? Does it help?

I feel everyone's pain. I had my first gf very late, due to a combination of being shy and introverted and not knowing many fat women. She knew I loved her size and she never even hinted at not liking being big. 2 years into our relationship, out of the blue she told me that she was getting lap band surgery a few weeks later. I felt defeated and betrayed. Here I was, after many years of waiting, I finally had my big gf and now she was getting a lapband, which was a hype at that moment. In the end, she did not loose a lot of weight, because she was constantly trying to cheat on her lapband. At hindsight, I should have suspected that she did not like being big, because she never told me how much she weighted, not before and not after the surgery and she never let me touch her belly. My 2nd gf told me on our 2nd or 3rd date that she was getting WLS a few weeks later. I told her that was very difficult for me, because I am totally not attracted to normal sized women, so that we could not be together, but it was already too late, she was a nice person and looked nice and I was already in love. We got together, and luckily for me, she did not loose a lot of weight and stayed above 250 lbs. The woman I have now been together with for more than 10 years made it very clear that she would never get WLS. As a doctor, she had seen how wrong that could go, so that was such a relief. She know that I like her big, but she also open that she would like to loose some. After the birth of our children, I could tell that she gained quite a lot of weight, but I never dared to suggest to weigh herself, because I knew the result would set her off to start loosing, so I quitely enjoyed what I had. At some point, the unavoidable came and she started on a weigtloss journey and lost from her high of 330 down to 260. I was not too concerned, because she was dong it by herself and genetics are against her, so eventually she regained to 300. Now she is loosing again. I support her to do it on her own, because now with the GLP-1's, the game has changed. So far, she has mainly been trying to find excuses not to jump on the GLP-1 train, because side effects and you need to be on it life long. She tells stories about how people she knows are so sick on them and then gain everything back when they stop due to side effects. But contrary to the WLS, she has not said that she will never take GLP-1s. She mentions them every now and then. I think she is waitng to see how it evolves and my concern is that she will start on them anyway, wehn she did not loose enough weight to her liking and the weight loss is stalling. So I am hoping that she can stay away from the GLP-1s and will stop at a point that is high enough for me, and low enough for her. With regards to everyone who shared their story above: I hope that you can learn to love what is left of whatever highest weight your women were. At least you have the memories of your wife being 385, 450 or even 600. I have come to terms that I will never experience the joys of a woman with a big hanging belly . It would be my ultimate dream of being with a woman the size of yours, but I am glad that I can already get off on a lower weight. If 400+lbs is the only thing that gets you going, it must be hard to see your women rapidly going below that.

>>81909 Can we stop always coming back at the OP for this. He vented his frustrations on his wife rapid's weight loss here, but he made it clear that he never actually wanted to do this. Why do you all keep on bringing this up over and over again?

>>81900 That is just plain ridiculous. If your partner is set on losing weight and somehow you find a way to sabotage her GLP - and setting aside how morally wrong that is, and how it will completely wreck your relationship when she finds out (which she will) - the doctor is just going to up her dose until she does start losing. Only way that you can expect them to stop the GLP diet is if evidence ever comes out to say that they are dangerous. And even then, having had success once, they'll really be searching for the next easy way to lose.

>>81955 You're lucky then with the lower dosage. As mentioned earlier, my wife already has lost the max predicted amount (25% of her body weight) and done so very quickly (40 weeks vs 70 weeks being the norm). Unfortunately, they are unlikely to stop prescribing. It is like blood pressure meds: they manage your blood pressure, but if you stop taking them, your blood pressure is going to shoot back up. Same with the blood sugar and other benefits: you stop taking the GLP, then they'll all go back up again. My wife says the same thing about never being thin, and she is likely right. But she is starting to look like a deflated balloon already, and she's still losing. At, say, 250 lbs - which would kill me as she has always been at least 100 lbs more than me and that would make her the same weight as me - she would still be fat, but she would look terrible. So it's not like I would find her still attractive, if less so. I already have lost my attraction to her, but if she wanted to have a tumble in bed, I would do it for her. But at 250, I doubt I would be pretending any more and would be like no way. Which is sad. You are about 10 years younger than me, so you were lucky to have hit the beginning of the super fat wave. You would have been in the same place as I was in 1995 in 2005, and that represents a huge difference in the BBW scene, going from fat acceptance starting to gain traction to the beginnings of fat positivity and women embracing their fat bodies. People too young to remember these things just cannot fathom the difference the internet made to the scene, and that ten years went from very basic internet - in fact, I had not seen a pic of my wife until I flew out to meet her (digital pics were a real rarity at the time and consumed huge amounts of very slow download time) - with very few people online (or who even had a computer that would let them get online) to the mid 2000s, when computers were very common and internet access was pretty easy (with many more digital pics available), in addition to the greater acceptance of very fat bodies. I always knew the day would come when I would lose my attraction to my wife. I just figured it would not be for another ten years when we were in our mid-sixties, and at a point where I would probably be fine with not being sexually active (and maybe she might have got even fatter in the meantime due to age and a slowing metabolism). And that is really depressing.

>>81977 I feel for you my friend! If her bloodwork gets to the point where she needs to do something - in particular her blood sugars - then she is likely to take the GLPs. My wife was always anti-WLS due to the dangers of that surgery, but I was not sure that she would refuse it forever (which is why I both wanted and did not want her to get bigger than 400 lbs, cause much like the number of her weight has the power to turn me on or turn me off, seeing that 4 in front of her weight would have been huge for her and could have driven her to get the surgery). But the point became moot with tirzepatide, which she suggests has no side-effects, and honestly, I can hardly find any either (and if you do have any, they usually start early on, and even then, they tend to go away after using for a while). I wish my wife was doing it on her own, as then at least I could live in the hope that she would at some point get tired of dieting and bounce back, even if not to where she started losing. And you are right about being to enjoy the memories of someone being as big as they were at their peak. Logically, I know that is how I should feel. But it is tough having spent a good chunk of our married life wishing she could be bigger because of what else I saw out there, and it was tough to come to terms with knowing I would never have my dream. But I could always content myself with "at least I have a very fat wife to enjoy". I think that is why it is so much harder to deal with this, as not only do I have to give up on the dream, but I also have to give up on what made not having the dream tolerable. And, to be honest, I am middle aged, and facing other disappointments in life, in terms of seeing dreams/life goals becoming clearly unachievable (kids I love no longer needing me like they used to; my career hit a setback about 9 years ago and has not recovered, and at this point won't ever get me where I thought I would be at this age, let alone what I would consider ideal). Before, I always had at least I had a loving wife who I thought was hot to make everything better, but now even that is gone. I still love her, but it's not the same not lusting after her as well. (Plus I gotta say she has gotten pretty assertive/intolerant lately: my politics have been always different than hers, and that is ok with me, but a couple months back I thought she was going to divorce me when she found out how I voted in the last Presidential election. Like she was insanely angry about it. This is what I meant by assertive - I don't mean like I only want a submissive woman, but she won't let sleeping dogs lie and wants to discuss things that are not helpful because we won't agree and it shouldn't matter to our relationship that we don't. And frankly, she is becoming a shrill feminist on these things, and is blaming men for every ill that exists in the world. That intolerance is what really worries me in our relationship, cause I don't know when she'll decide she needs to know something and then blow up about it.) I am sure some young guy is (or many are) going to be thinking "what a pussy", but wait, you'll get here too.

Oh, and another thing I find sad: the number of fat models who are starting to lose. People who were at the forefront of the young SSBBW - and then USSBBW - movement who are now getting to the point that they want to lose. You know that at some point the fattening has got to stop for health reasons, but that does not mean that it is any less disappointing when it does and they start losing. Like BigCutie Trysta or BBWSweetPeaOkla or BBWAdeline (RIP) or now Jae. It's depressing seeing this happen and knowing that things are not going to just keep getting better and better.

Man I wish we were able to edit our posts! :D The other thing I meant to mention that makes this problematic is I don't know how much I can trust my wife when she says she has no goal on how much she will lose and that losing is merely incidental. She has always been very goal focused, and while I have no doubt that reducing the blook sugar and other numbers is the main goal, I don't think I really believe her when she claims the weight loss is merely incidental and not part of her plan. (I particularly am less inclined to trust her given all she has said about why she felt so traumatized about being fat - that and being a woman seems to be the things that she claims are holding her back, which is rich coming from a woman who earns a LOT of money in a very responsible position, even though she does seem to have hit a ceiling - and together with her losing more weight than would seem "normal" with the drugs makes it seem impossible to me that she would not be using the drugs for weight loss, no matter what she claims.)

>Date girl with the same body type as Alex Storm >285 when we start dating >Always has been part of the body positivity movement >Eventually weighs 325 >Sex is amazing. >EVERYTHING is amazing >Never even considers losing weight; against GLP-1 for several reasons >Pill form of GLP-1 becomes available >Immediately starts taking it >Down 10 pounds in 4 weeks. >Claims not to have a goal weight; tries to downplay it as not a very effective medication >Literally eats 1/4 what she normally does I'm trying not to be weird about it, but I'm privately hyperventilating over the thought of not being attracted to her anymore and I feel awful for being like this.

>>82040 FWIW, I feel exactly like you. Not sure that helps much, but do know you are not alone. It shakes you to your core, knowing that someone you love is making themselves unattractive to you. And that they do not care, preferring their own affirmation and those of society to their partner. It truly is horrid.

>>78709 For fucks sake, don't be evil Most women care more about their social appearance than you ever would and they think that they'll just get universal applause for losing weight. Meanwhile, their partner, who is dating them in part because they are fat, is just going to lose attraction to them. This is often mortifying and something they don't even consider half the time Yes, this is a wife, but you need to make it clear that you're not going to be attracted to her if she loses so much weight. The ball is in her court, she can do what she wants, its her life, but ultimately you need to be prepared for a dead bedroom and a collapsing marriage over this. YOU also need to be prepared to follow through on this. You're not attempting manipulation, you're letting her know that you have a desire for her and that will in part diminish if she keeps doing it. Itll probably break your marriage, but thats on her.

>>82070 Shut up faggot she’s not going to fuck you for white knighting. Nothing the OP said he’d do was that bad and frankly we’re all rooting for him to pull it off and get her bigger.

>>82070 You're not wrong. Just the willingness to walk away from what is otherwise a good marriage on a point of principle, even if she is in the wrong, is damn hard. And to be fair, it is her body and she has to live in it. Which is the conundrum I face, and there is blame to go around on all sides: I am expecting her to live in a body 24/7 just to fulfill my fantasies, but she is expecting me to be happy that she is destroying a big part of what makes me love her and that, frankly, had she told me early on in our relationship what she told me now, namely that she hated her body and wanted to lose, I would have ended the relationship then and there so that I could find someone to be my life partner whose beliefs were more in line with mine.

>>82077 Why are you being evil? >>82086 We all make shit decisions, you need to decide whether you're going to deal with that or leave.

>>82086 Exactly this fat whore knew what she was doing. You really think some Chan loser is the first FA to tap her fat ass? This guy wins the award for falling for it. Now she has this beta losers support and health insurance to lose weight. She’s your wife, it’s your choice to support her weight loss or support your own sex life. But she knew what she was doing.

>>82096 Say you are single without saying you're sungle

>>82099 Beta cuck. What’s it like wifing up some roast beef to have her use your resources to lose weight?

>>82103 Feels good to feel the touch of another, thanks. You'll know that when you get caught for medical tampering, and put in prison, dumbass

>>82099 Kisame here. Why bother with fetish art when Mandami can make mukbangs for free?

>>82122 Medical fatties don't last long especially when NYC is cutting NYU stuff. They just averted a strike. Let's face it RFK and Mandani are the new mukbangs. Especially now Miami and Daytona are killing spring break

>>82096 Dude doesn't know what he is talking about. My health insurance won't pay for this - most won't unless it is prescribed due to existing diabetes (being pre-diabetic is not enough). And even if it did, being with me for nearly 30 years and gaining 90 lbs in the process makes this one of the worst ways ever to get someone to pay for their weight loss. Plus, she earns about 70% of our household income, I can pretty safely say that she is paying for it herself. (Only thing I feel cucked about is that I probably would be acting somewhat differently if the financial roles were reversed and I didn't have quite as much to lose.)

>>82160 Have you thought of other ways to advocate for yourself pharmacologically? Apetamin is pretty easy to get drug that’s supposed to be good ant increasing appetite. It contains cyproheptadine, lysine, and vitamins. Nothing to hard to get and sneak in her food, I’m sure she’s eating all the time anyway

>>82160 Health Insurance is being denied because the president slashed funding for the grants to pay for the military budget. There's also a doctor shortage combined with the economy. The market reset back to 2000s with mortality rates. I am pre-diabetic.

>>81842 Its funny that this post could work for a woman getting fat or skinny. Also if u need to be physically attracted to your wife by keeping her trapped in a layer of fat, break up.

>>81842 > Do I still wish that she had hit 500 lbs and stayed there, even if it meant we had less time to spend together and she had mobility issues? Tough, but if you were to ask me what I felt in my heart of hearts, I would have to answer yes. (And I would have been ok us both getting really fat and happy, even if that shortened my life, but that is another story. Bottom line is that I value quality over quantity, even though in this case it is the volume of our bodies that I characterize as "quality" of our lives (and quantity would be the length of our lives).) what you've just said...is one of the most insanely autistic things I've ever heard. At no point in your rambling incoherent response, were you close to anything, that could considered an empathetic thought, everyone in this room is now less human for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may god have mercy on your soul. >>82173 > It’s funny that this post could work for a woman getting fat or skinny. Well, except for the part where he wished his wife an early death and tampered with her medication to try to cause her further disease and disablement.

>>81842 I haven't read the other responses to this post so I might be repeating other people here, but in general, if there's something that would have been a dealbreaker before you got together, regardless of the specifics of what that thing actually is... you should probably get divorced. 30 years is a big investment, but I still think you would be much, MUCH happier if you left her. Even if there wasn't a dealbreaker like that in place without you knowing about it though, I still think you would be way happier if you get divorced. Like, infinitely happier. We're men we can't help but follow our instincts, like breathing and sleeping we have no choice but to value attraction in romantic relationships. Maybe it's a flaw of the gender, maybe not but that's beside the point. The point is, you will never be attracted to her again. It's just not going to happen. And that's including even IF she gains weight, which will almost certainly not happen. So you can make that compromise, give up that whole part of life (being attracted to your romantic partner), and grow old together, and if you think the net happiness is worth that sacrifice then that's your decision. But you're posting here for advice so my advice is, dude it sucks but you will be happier if you leave her. Okay I read the other responses, yeah they're about as unhelpful as I thought they'd be. Get the divorce, move on, be happy again. You deserve a woman who loves herself completely.

>>82183 Actually I misread like half the responses and they aren't unhelpful at all. I'm just dyslexic and stupid and can't read lol. People are being helpful which is good. You'll be happier when you leave her man seriously

>>82173 Easier said than done (breaking up). Firstly, when you have been together more than half your life, there's more than her being fat that keeps us together. Then there's the lack of alternatives. If I thought I could move on and find a loving 500+ pound behemoth who was happy to stay that way, hang the consequences, then maybe I would leave. But they are incredibly hard to find - unlike what some of the incels here seem to think - and I am at a point in life where I cannot just move and start all over again. And even if I did find someone better, who's to say that in a few years I don't find myself in the same situation all over again and have someone who feels the need to lose for medical reasons? It used to be that you could pretty much count on women who lack the willpower to not get huge are pretty much stuck that way, with the only easy way out being WLS, and that had its own dangers that made it undesirable for them, so they stayed heavy but maybe only lost a bit, or they lost a bunch and then gained it back. But now the GLPs make it so easy for anyone to lose massive amounts of weight, because it both stimulates weight loss and turns off the voice inside them that drives them to eat, and as long as they stay on it, they keep off the weight. So it's not worth trying to find something better when I still do mostly love her, just don't lust after her.

>>82163 How the hell do you come up with these ideas? That is banned in the U.S. and I am a middle-class white guy, so how the hell would I know how to procure something like that (and not get caught in some sting operation). And while I would be willing to do something to counteract the GLPs, I don't want to secretly give her something that could make her sick and potentially die (other than maybe an excess of food - lol).

>>82184 There's two factors - in addition to mostly loving her still - that keep me in place. One is that I don't want to mess up my relationship with my sons. They are young adults and still live at home, and even if they did not, there's not really a good way to spin this story that would not make me look like a heel. (I mean, other than for FA's, who is going to think a guy is noble for leaving his wife because she lost weight for health reasons?) Same goes for our mutual friends, as in ones that are close enough to her for her to tell them the reason we broke up. So it's more than her I would be losing. And the other thing is she holds the golden leash - she makes a shit-ton of money, so I would be giving up a nice lifestyle if I moved out on my own. That one is less of an issue, and I know that I would be happier in a lower income relationship (not low income - I still make decent money myself and have good benefits) with someone who was fat and happy. But there is no guarantee that I would meet someone else (and a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush), and I would rather live a sexless life with someone I love but am (physically) turned off by than all alone, alienated from my sons. It's a shitty dilemma!

>>82209 Dude you are literally giving up the perfect woman wtf

>>82209 I see. I may have missed it, but I don't think you mentioned having 2 sons with her yet. If I had known that, I wouldn't have suggested divorce. Yeah, it's a really shitty situation. Unless you undergo like intensive therapy to reshape your sexual preferences and don't need fat for arousal anymore.... it's looking like the physical aspect of romance is in the rearview mirror for you. That sucks. I wish you the best with everything

>>82208 > I am a middle-class white guy Why do you lie? There’s no was you’re middle class with some retarded behemoth of woman with no self control because of childhood “trauma” that’s totally not rape… OK buddy, if you say so.

>>82210 > Dude you are literally giving up the perfect woman wtf No offense she sounds like a cunt and this guy sounds like a pussy no on could ever like. Both people sound miserable with each other and themselves, there’s no love in this relationship and I can’t imagine what it feels like to build a life with someone you’re only with for superficial reasons.