>>78709 Yeah dude dont accidentally kill your wife just talk to her

>>78709 Remove yourself from your fetish and genuinely from an outside perspective consider what you were about to do.

>>78723 Thanks for the perspective guys. I probably won’t do it.

>>78728 Wuss

How would she react if she found out? Pretty negatively, right? Are you willing to do something that she'd feel like that about? How do you think the police would react? How do you think a regular random person would react? What you're suggesting only makes sense if your fetish is so important that you would do things for it that would horrify nearly everyone else.

>>78756 I mean, no one would know if I did it or it was heated in shipping. Or was a faulty batch. Or just isn’t working with her (as I’ve read a lot of women GLP1’s don’t have a huge effect on). I was hoping on the latter being true…until this week she is definitely showing side effects. She threw up her lunch which was a normal amount of food. Either way, I’m not going to do it. I’ve loved that she’s gained so much back, but I know she needs to make some changes or will be either immobile or worse in the near future. It’s hard to keep the fetish in check though. 🤣

>>78709 Dear God please tell me this cunt LARPing

>>78760 Damn. She's huge. Whatever you decide to do, please post more pictures of her at her high weights here.

Don't sweat it dude. The glp1 is gonna go the same route as the bypass: it's gonna work for a little while but the fat will win out

>>78709 If you were/are seriously considering this, get help for yourself. That is a terrible idea to execute on someone you supposedly love simply for your own gratification. Get off this site and go talk to her or a professional

To be real, I kinda get the temptation OP, my girl is much smaller she weighs around 320lbs but I often find myself sweating over everything she eats or every lb she gains/loses. Like last week she told me she hadn't eaten all day and of course as her boyfriend I was concerned for how she's feeling, but also as someone with this fetish I started having a mini-panic in the back of my mind about how I hope this doesn't become a trend.

dude your wife is already a fat fuck and will still be a fat fuck even with glp1. you're fucking with her health behind her back just to satisfy your dick, which is pretty shitty. do you see her as a person or as a sack of lard with a little fuckhole for you?

>>78779 In case you didn’t see my replies I’m not doing it. I had an intrusive thought that I didn’t act upon. I’ve seen plenty of guys on here have panic attacks when their favorite model loses 10-20 lbs. I’ve already seen my wife go from 640 to 370 and am struggling with realizing I might have to go through that again. It’s miserable fucks like you that made me stop posting about her on here.

Holy tism. These poor unfortunate people who are partnered with scheming psychopaths. Please do not tamper with your wife's medication ffs just jerk off or take viagra and fuck her or something jfc

>>78785 You whiny fucks ruined it and now I don't get to see more pictures of this guy's fatass wife. Damn whiny bitches on here

>>78709 >I had an intrusive thought that I didn’t act upon. No, you created a thread on a website and attached a pic of your actual wife to it. I get where you're coming from with your struggle to reconcile your sexual preferences with your wife quite rationally not wanting to be 500+. Except for the incels we all deal with some version of it. But don't fucking pout when people act like human beings and steer you away from your darker impulses.

Best thing to is divorce her because you clearly don't respect her and maybe get some therapy to help with your thoughts

>>78709 >GLP-1s I cannot fucking wait for every doctor that has suggested this to have their medical license suspended. GLP-1s are ABSOLUTELY dangerous, I mean it comes from a literal fucking toxin! I also hate how "Doctors" are down playing the very SERIOUS side effects of shit like Ozempic. Did your doctor let you know that: She's at risk of Thyroid Tumors? Especially if Dr. Dumbfuck didn't check her for pre-existing thyroid conditions? Kidney injury because it causes dehydration? (Ever wonder why the look like they age 20 years after being on it? There are tons of cases of it causing permanent Pancreas damage? That it has been recently liked to Vision lost, specially NAION? That is has been liked to Gall Bladder disease? That is has definitely been liked to Hypoglycimia, and the risk is higher than other diabetes medications? You're wife is playing with her life here. If weight is a problem, she needs to fight her urge to snack, and drink more green tea which has been linked to PROPER weight loss. Every wonder why Asians are rail thin? It's all the ketones the pass from drinking green tea all day.

>>78799 What this guy said. Its not a miracle drug Just injecting lizard venom to make yourself sick. Will either damage your health or not help you lose weight. And the effects are not much different than if you just made yourself smell something gross when you got hungry. Nicotine would legit be a better way to make yourself nauseous. That being said messing around with something already dangerous wouldnt be a good idea

>>78799 And the docs will argue any side effects are negligible compared to what obesity does to peoples' bodies. My big reservation (besides being an FA who selfishly wants women to be as big as possible) is that you have to stay on this shit forever. No one knows what it does after 5, 10, 20 years and the sociopathic US Govt has immunized (npi) drug companies against lawsuits. So there's little incentive for them to grab all the cash and worry about mass disasters later. The stop snacking/green tea stuff is bunk tho. If it were that easy GLP-1s wouldn't be 60% of Denmark's GDP right now. I reccommend keeping that shit to yourself if you want to be an effective anti-GLP-1 advocate.

>>78793 On the contrary, he may actually be protecting her by nullifying the drugs. They're dangerous, untested products designed to extract even more wealth from us.

>>78804 >Untested They were first approved 20 years and ago testing has been happening for at least 30 years

>>78785 im certainly not miserable enough to want to fuck up my wife's health against her wishes just to get hard. go fuck yourself, hope she finds a better man

>>78808 Oh. Nvm they're tested

As someone on a GLP-1: i lost 70 lbs, then my body got used to it and i've gained back 20. She isn't going to drop much weight from it and eventually her body will get used to it and she'll gain some back. She won't be at her max weight ever again probably but she's not going to slim back down nearly as much as she did when she had the surgery. Oh, also what you're suggesting is a felony. Don't do it.

>>78812 I’m not, but thank you for the possible light at the end of the tunnel.

>>78802 >green tea stuff is bunk tho idk Gym rats drink tons of it to burn off fat ketones all the time. Helps with thyroid too I'm told. Just reporting what I've learned. But I will add the NPI drug company lawsuit stuff to my notes on this. Thanks!

>>78808 What was the sample size? Who was tested? What was the alpha value of the test data? Testing a drug doesn't mean shit. People's body chemistry varies to a degree that it's hard to determine anything. We've had Flu shots in the past that were tested to be safe, and had to get pulled after 10 people ended up with adverse reactions (I think it was the first time H1N1 hit in the 80s), and thankfully the second time around it was much safer. A study over in Britain even showed that eating ice cream put on weight and spiked glucose levels in some people in Britain, and not others. They study was talked about by Dr. Mosley.

I have enjoyed OP’s previous posts and definitely fapped to pics of his wife before but lmaoooo @ him being a weirdo in here In all seriousness my wife is also on one of these and it is working but the side effects are taking a serious toll. Does anyone has any advice for combating the constant nausea and fatigue she’s been dealing with?

>>78908 Just pray that she decides the side effects are too much and taps out haha

C'mon you fuckers, it's not an actual extracted venom, it's a synthetic re-creation based on what they saw in the saliva of a Lizard. And yeah, to the OP, don't be a cunt. Looking at your photo, she's quite tall, if she's 370, she'll probably get back to 450 before she wants to lose again. I get it, my wife is 5"5 and got to 440 before losing down to about 280, which she seems happy with, though 250 is her goal to realistically stay at. Your wife has got enough going on, she knows it's impacting her health , she doesn't need you being a feeder fag and sabotaging. You really should go get help, even if you just go and have a chat with grok, as grok will talk to you straight and tell you to nut one out to superfats online and appreciate you still have a 400lbs trophy wife.

>>78802 I know 2 people who took it for a while to lose some weight,stopped, and they're fine. neither gained the weight back yet.

>>78908 OP here. I admit I had a bad day with the reality of the GLP1 side effects starting and as others said I probably could use some therapy. Hoping to enjoy her at her current size as much as I can. It’s crazy how much less she can do for herself at 500 compared to 400. Like use toilet paper (luckily we have a bidet), wash herself in the shower, or even put on socks and shoes. I’m sure subconsciously I’m loving how dependent she is on me now.

>>78914 >>recommends using Grok as a therapist You have invalidated everything else you said, and everything else you ever will say. Jesus fucking christ the west is cooked

>>78920 Direct us to those links or post more content of her. No one gives a shit about this depraved Ozempic denaturing scheme.

>>78929 Not a lot I can post that I already haven’t. Here’s one with her ass and back fat hanging out.

>>78954 Geeeeeezz that back fat is beautiful

Can you just kill her already and let me fuck her corpse?

>>78954 You forgot to blur out the photo of you two. And what I said yesterday still stands. Get your wife off that shit. If she really wants to lose weight though, tell her she should do the low glucose diet. It's healthier and it won't poison her. GLP-1s are poisoning her. This isn't even about liking fat women anymore, this about the fact that GLPs are literally made from a Toxin that kills you. Why do you think people don't want to eat and the feel like shit? Because they're body is fighting off a foreign invader that is trying to kill them.

>>78979 Mild Norwood but mid to high tier normie for sure. Brought to chad from the confidence in having a gigantic wife.

>>78979 Why would I blur an already blurry photo in the background. It’s not like I’m embarrassed to be married to her or something. Trust me, if I could talk her out of taking it I would dude.

>>78986 We will find her. I’ve been saving the photos and as soon as AI hits its next breakthrough I’ll be at your doorstep with dominos.

>>78979 Can confirm this is true no lie detected

>>78987 If you’re bringing Dominos I’ll invite you, no AI or detective needed 🤣

I can see the desire and I get it but when the fetish has pushed you to be so selfish and destructive it reminds me more of addict robbing houses to get next fix…. Wanting your partner to stay over 500 pounds—and actively interfering with medication so she can’t lose weight—is not just a fetish. It has real, permanent consequences. At that size, every extra year carries serious risk: heart failure, infections, loss of mobility, and early death. As she gets older, pushing her toward 600+ pounds doesn’t just shorten her life—it can end it. You also need to think beyond the fantasy. If she realizes her medication was tampered with, screenshots it, or tells a doctor, that’s not just betrayal—it’s evidence. And if something happens to her, you don’t just “lose the relationship.” You live with the fact that your actions played a role, and your children grow up without their mother. Desire doesn’t erase responsibility. There’s no scenario where this ends well.

>>79000 You type like chatgpt

I went to college and beyond.

>>78954 Do you have any pic of her with any normal sized person where we can see her body compared in real life ??

>>78954 Off topic but the fuck happened to the wall? Is she so fat that everytime she sits on the sofa it damages the paint?

>>79006 The couch she’s sitting on used to be against that wall and she plops on it full weight. Sort of surprised it’s still standing but it’s pretty collapsed in the middle. When she’d plop on it the couch would ram against the wall. Haven’t gotten around to fixing it yet. >>79003 Honestly almost all my pics of her with other people have kids in them. Here’s one from Disney I’ve posted her before that shows people in the background.

>>79000 Thank you, I’ve come to most of those conclusions and came to my senses.

>>79024 Please do post her pics regularly your wife looks cute as well Btw do u have any pic of her standing like from the front side one the back one is already there I know if yeah please do post it Thanks for all of this though

>>79026 Don’t have much just straight on standing from the front. Posting these for those who haven’t seen them (sorry they’re dups for those who have)

>>78986 >Trust me, if I could talk her out of taking it I would dude. What a limp wristed pussy you are. Quit nursing your fucking pussy, and tell you wife this shit. You're in a marriage, put your fucking foot down. This is how you sound to everyone: "Hi! I'm a limp wristed pussy who has no balls and would rather let my wife literally inject poison into herself that will shorten her life instead of acting like a man, and if her still wants weight loss, to do it the healthy and smart way by changing her diet." Bro, I'm going to tell you something, she might die from being obese, yeah we know that, but GLP1s? She WILL die young from this shit. Put your foot down, tell her if she still wants it, change to a low glucose diet. And if she still says no? You leave for awhile. Stay in a hotel for a few days, don't answer your phone. That's not being emotionally distant or abusive, that's being a man. I can't believe how far you Americans have fallen. 250 years ago, you would have gone full "WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU SAY TO ME YOU LITTLE BITCH!?", and now it's "OH NO SHE MIGHT NOT HAVE SEX WITH ME IF I SAY SOMETHING!"

>>79030 Jesus Christ, it’s 2026 not 1826. Let me guess, single?

>>79030 >>least brainwashed westerner Not to derail the thread completely, but 250 years ago Americans would have done nothing. I know this because that's exactly what happened. Other than a few temper tantrums, the American colonists did nothing and would the revolutionary war would have been a genocide, IF the other european powers didn't intervene. France and spain saved our ass. They fought off the british while we took all the credit. Americans have been pussies since the beginning, we don't have a revolutionary bone in us, we're just descendants of the inbreds from across the pond but without the accent.

>>79027 Thanks man really appreciate for your uploads if u have some more interesting ones then please do reups since I haven't seen previous ones as I'm new Thanks again

>>79027 And yk if u have some SFW (in a normal dress)ones as well then I would appreciate as well I usually prefer those cause I want to fantasize in that way first and then something else Really appreciate for your uploads thanks again

>>79042 Here’s some clothed ones from before she had WLS.

>>79043 Damn she looks so different back then

>>79043 Btw do u have instagram where I could ask u something

>>79035 America is the only place you can carry a gun. End of argument.

>>79035 > France and spain saved our ass. They fought off the british while we took all the credit I think the ocean may have helped.

>>79043 Do you have any recent pics of her like literally the most recent ones and some sizzling hot ones too

>>79071 As you mentioned she goes to office , in which sector is she currently working in and what's her job there Do you have any pics of her in office dress , if yes then please do share it up here and it would be great if u have it in multiple dresses

>>79071 Do u have any more pics or video of her to share up here??

>>79103 I don’t have much more than what I’ve posted. I’ll try to take some new pics of her soon.

>>79071 Love these photos with her face clearly visible and both eyes facing the camera. Need maybe. 2 or 3 more please.

>>79105 Here’s a good one of mostly her face

>>79106 You lucked out with her. Absolute knockout. Here's hoping she embraces a much fatter future again.

>>79105 >face clearly visible and both eyes facing the camera. >*Need* maybe 2 or 3 more. Yeah that's creepy. Could just be some schizo shit but someone could use those photos to make a fake profile with your wife. Take that with however many grains of salt you want, you've posted her body and stories of her here before, but maybe be careful with posting her face on here.

>>79147 Yeah good point, thanks.

>>79147 >>79027 There seems to be a frame of your children in the third photo. We have a lot of sociopaths on here. You do not want the same thing to happen to you which happened to housecow a while back

>>79158 Never hurts to censor shit like that out with black boxes or a select + blur filter. Takes less than five minutes in Gimp. If you're on a phone, you can either scribble the photo out or crop it. No need for AI, just the human drive for self-preservation on the interwebs.

>>79158 >>79159 Embarrassed I missed that, thanks for the tips

>>79161 Yep you should blur the face 'cause identity theft is much common up Here and it might affect your real life too . Be careful with what you post do blur the unnecessary Infos like face , any pic of somebody or any item which is of personal use or something like that

>>78824 I don't sit around reading research papers all day so I have no idea what alpha value of the test data is, nor I don't pretend to be a pseudointellectual on the internet like because I heard that term mentioned on the Joe Roan experience once and know exactly what it means so I can't answer that question. As for the test size, a quick Google search shows that for drugs to pass FDA approval they have to go through 4 stages all include an increasing amount of participants who all have the 'disease/condition' (diabetes) by the final stage. The amount of people in the final stages is only listed as several thousand so through all the stages it's safe to assume that at least 5,000 participants were apart of the trials for diabetes management. As for GLP-1 drugs for weight loss, they also undergo trials so again we can assume that at least 5,000 people have been tested and every time they make a new variant of the drug it is tested. For example, a pill version was approved by the FDA in December and it would have gone through the same amount of testing as other forms of the medication. Hope this helped

>>79104 Did you got some new photos of her??

>>79182 Kisame here, MAHA is recruiting Mike Tyson to tell fatties to lose weight. To be fair, he's traumatized by the slate of bad fat women like Mo'nique and Norbit and Tyler Perry so I don't blame him.

>>79172 >>Yep you should blur the face 'cause identity theft is much common up Here and it might affect your real life too . Dude already showed his wife's face 11 times. He doesn't care if her identity's stolen. He could've have taken the 5 seconds to blur out her face before posting. Just straight up recklessness.

>>79043 You are so lucky to have ever had that, my friend! But I hear you about the weight loss on GLP. My wife is on a health kick and taken terzepatide, and she has gone from 375 down to 330, and I hate it. Every fucking pound. So I can only imagine how much it hurts going from the height of her weight down to 370, seen it go back up a bit, and now she wants to put you through that heartache again. Frankly, I wish we could have an open marriage. I love my wife and am generally ok with what she is doing for her health. But for sex, I really do need a huge woman. I would be ok if she wanted to look around too. if it was reciprocal. That to me seems like the best outcome - i.e., I get a fat chick, she gets to lose weight - but I also know there is no way I could raise it with her, as that would be a deal breaker. But if looked at objectively, it would solve everybody's problems.

>>79316 Give it a rest

>>79289 No no no no no! Take my advice do not do this. Learn from me, I did, ruined my marriage. I was the one who found another and it became a nasty disaster after disaster. Find ways to make sec work, trust me you do not want to lose your marriage based on this.

>>79327 The marriage was long gone the moment he chose a fetish of his wife's health.

>>79327 His girl injecting herself with concentrated toxins. These GLP shots are experimental rat poop.I mean anyone who knows how to use reverse AI face search. She needs to know. OP do you have the balls to denature some proteins? 84 decrees g oughta do it.

>>79319 ??

Stop being a terminal fucking cumbrain and cope with the situation instead of fishing for confirmation biased responses on a porn board. Seriously man, get some self awareness and realize that you are scheming like a fucking addict to sabotage your wife's agency over her own health and body. Get professional help immediately.

>>78709 I only see one reasonable thing to do here, destroy the pens and tell her she's only ment to get fatter and she'll never loose weight again

>>78709 You partially answered your self in own post. 1.) She eat herslef up to 600 lbs (no one does this, if they are not actively feeding themself, either with help or not.) 2.) She had a WLS and it STILL WASNT enough and probably regardles of WLS or GLP she would end up on 600 mark. 3.) Whether you broke them or not, she wont be skinny. Ever. She can only get sick as bonus from this and you should confront her about it.

>>79456 It's these kinds of rambling pointless drug addled brain rot takes that keeps me coming back to bbwchan. Bro what the fuck is you even talking about yo. Take your meds homie!

Glad you decided not to fuck with her meds. Truth is she's still going to be super fucking fat. If it makes you feel better, I'm bummed out because my girlfriend is trying to lose weight. She's 5'4 probably 160 lbs. I've tried best I can for years to get her to gain but I think she probably peaked at 165. Your wife on GLP-1s will still be twice the weight of my gf lol.

>>79538 I think getting a second chance at having her mega huge again was just messing with my head the day I made this post. While I love her at this size (and even more when she was over 600), I know how much she hates it. Her mom is over 500 and is pretty much immobile and I think it terrifies her. She’s already to the point she needs scooters everywhere. I know I’m lucky I still get a huge wife who’s 2-3 times the size of most girls, even after WLS and GLP1’s. Hope you are able to get yours to gain more.

>>79538 Her trying to lose weight at 160 is rough, that's not even close to an obese bmi. Does she know you're into her being a bit bigger?

Mine was 370 at her peak and we’re both on the shot. Do I see a difference? Yes. Is it drastic? Not when they start that high. The shots work, but there’s also habits, exercise, and actual choice of food to consider. If she started at 500, I’ll bet she settles around where mine was. Besides, if you love her, that’s the main thing to focus on. Being a size king works better for hookups than a marriage

>>79539 Did you have any more pics please? like its been so long since you last posted it

>>79613 I wish the British still had a presence in India so we could make you lick cow fat off bullets and then shoot you with them.

>>79614 No wonder you all don't have any glorious past and you all just suck other countries wealth and bring in your museum and be proud of your theft Lol country with no glory is trying to glorify their sins , damn such an irony of you shitty Britishers Haha lol😂😂

>>79620 You guys can't even win Governor of Ohio, run South Carolina, or even the FBI despite it easy to do with tons of meathead

>>79614 Oh dear god. I think I just ruptured my optic nerve from rolling my eyes so hard. The irony of someone from a country so sad, so ruined, so disgusting, reminiscing on the days of colonization when you yourself have been ruined by it. Have you nothing else to identify with? Nothing else to think or care about? Your cities are filthy outdoor pig dens and you countryside is a wasteland. You apparently don't have building codes, as all your buildings are moldy and rotting to the ground, which is uniquely british as all the other Europeans figured that out centuries ago. It never occurred to you people to try to keep the moisture OUT, I guess, and the mold seems to have rotted your minds. Putting every single one of you down would be a courtesy to the rest of the world, just for the accent alone, let alone having to see any of your revolting inbred faces anymore. Jesus Christ, I think the british are actually starting to have LESS self respect as time goes on, if such a thing were possible. I haven't seen anything so sad in a long time, and the empire I live in is collapsing all around me as we speak.

>>79621 Well if you dont know the top most companies are led by current Indian CEOs itself so atleast you dont tell me what we can do or not Just have some actual knowledge instead of blabbering around

Hello people, in a situation and i dont know what cards to play tbh. I need somone to be my jiminy cricket. Recently met and have been talking to a local girl i met off of feabie, we havent met in person yet but weve been texting frequently, calling every night, and plan to meet up very soon. For hindsight, shes over 400 pounds and just VERY recently found out about feedism and has some interest in the kink but it doesn't come to her naturally. Im the first feeder shes ever really engaged wirh and she is frequently still unbelieving that i actually like fat girls lmao. Shes just shy or whatever and wants to take it slow so obv im going along with that whatever. Shes sweet, and has a nice personality but to be entirely honest, aside from some similar video game interests, were like polar opposites. Shes about to be 26, (im younger) shes unemployed and still lives with her parents. Her everyday consists of her waking up at 2-3pm, then just playing video games or mozing around in her pajamas. This is really fucking hot to me, but on one end, the moral implications start to sit in. Because as we get to know eachother more, shes been sharing her childhood traumas and her health conditions etc, basically the reason she is a huge shut in. My brain is telling me im horrible for enabling her to get fatter and maybe take advantage of the situation shes in? Im not doing it on purpose but i cant help but think it to be manipulative to sort of.. keep her where she is? If that makes sense? Ive never been with a feedee and ive wanted to my entire life. This girls appetite is fucking INHUMAN and this is her not even trying. Shes showed interest in gaining but like, this is wrong if i continue to engage right? Idk

>>79629 Bro she's a fucking wet dream of a feedee, you'd be doing a huge disservice to this community if you don't make her gigantic! She's fucking bread to grow, every part of her, and her life, her personality has led up to her gaining, she sounds like feedee grade A prime, think with your dick and make her fucking gigantic

>>79629 I'm in a very similar scenario, my girl is she's well over 400 but very much in denial about how much she enjoys the lifestyle If I were you I'd go for it, realistically if there aren't many people who're that size and open to gaining more, so I would take the opportunity while it's there

>>79631 Alright maybe i needed to hear this... lmfao. A little more context, she got a bad knee injury in highschool because of an accident and its permanently damaged so she literally could not run even if she was thin. She was diagnosed with binge eating disorder at a very young age and just generally has a lot of emotional baggage. Shes like 405ish rn and She has playfully indulged me and said that shed gain to 500, but then shed want to lose the weight. But like, lets be honest, someone like this does not lose the weight. They are unfortunately (not unfortunately) setup to be fat their entire lives unless someone in their life actively takes action to intervene. Idk, my dick is definitely telling me to just stop fucking thinking about it and go along with it, but the more i get to actually know her personally the more i feel like a fucking devil entering her life 😭

>>79634 You're better off letting her enable herself, man. You don't want to get tangled up in her baggage. Leave out snacks and stock her surroundings with sodas & shit, but don't show up with enough fast food to feed a family. She'll get to 500 without your help and you get to enjoy the show.

>>79634 Go be the devil, regardless she's going to blow up, so enjoy your self and held the situation along what else dose she have in her life aside from you and getting fatter for you, don't pay any mind to her just focus on fattening her

>>79629 >>79634 Dude, it really depends on how you feel about her/about how far the relationship is going to go, but you don't need to keep her where she is if it's fucking with you mentally to do so. You said they're set up to be fat their entire lives unless someone in their life intervenes, if you're fucked up about being "a devil entering her life" just don't be that. Get her to walk around at least once every few days and take her to some fast food restaurants to get her a minimum wage job (with discounts on said fast food). You can still be physically active enough to be mobile and gain weight, we've seen it with boberry. Judging by the answers you've already gotten the coombrains here will disagree, but being a feeder doesn't mean you have to be a bad person, a feeder/feedee relationship can still be a relationship with all of the helping each other that signifies. Of course, all of this depends on how much you want to put in the relationship, you've yet to meet each other in person, so you don't even know if the chemistry is going to be there irl like it is over the phone. However if you want to be in her life while having her life be a feedee one, there's ways to do it. It takes work, and how much work it's going to take depends on how much you want to put in, just like any other relationship. Oh right, people come here to jerk off. >This girls appetite is fucking INHUMAN and this is her not even trying. What does that look like? How much does she eat? Go into obscene detail I don't want to annoy the original guy with the wife that made this thread.

>>79641 Finally a rational fucking comment. Dude feed her if it makes you happy and she is cool with it but find ways to help her move around. If there is a pool take her to it. Just take her out get some air, some healthier sleep patterns light exercises. Literally anything. You are not an asshole for your desires but if those desires override her agency then your going too far. Since your so concerned unlike some of the fucking coombrains I would say your fine. At least help her.

>>79620 Yeah, a guy who goes onto a chan to harrass a stranger for pictures of his wife's face is hardly in a position to lecture about fallen glory...

>>79654 >>79625 >>79620 >>79614 Both of you should go fuck yourselves.

>>79654 First of all , you dumb ass i wasn't harassing and i wasn't asking for her face and mind it if u dont that this site is made for these things and ofc not only me but the whole world knows about your thefts and fake glories

It’s funny how much people overthink this stuff. Just be fair, open, and respectful of the person you’re dating. Just because you have a sexual connection over food or fat doesn’t mean all the normal rules about how sex works in a relationship go away.

>>79665 DO NOT REDEEM SAAR

>>79681 Yes saaar

>>79665 We’ve got enough face photos to use ai to fill in any details needed. Hope homeboy lays the pipe because I don’t know how many men are ready for the competition that comes with your 500+ pound hog getting found by feeders.

>>79744 > how many men are ready for the competition that comes with your 500+ pound hog getting found by feeders. It’s absurd that you have to be 6 feet tall with a six pack and a trust fund to date fat women with a mild case of Down’s syndrome. And people will judge you for it here like you’re the bad guy.

>>79752 My girls cuckoo for coco puffs and someone here told me I’m preying on the mentally incapacitated

Just wanted to throw a few words of praise to the OP. I always think your posts are so hot, no matter what anyone else thinks. I dated a girl in the high 500s and you really capture the dangerous little thrills that accompany dating someone so huge. With my ex there was always the push and pull between pleasure and health, and she knew this. The classic example is gorging herself, knowing it’s unhealthy but giving into the pleasure of it and eating even more. Or sitting on me until it really felt like she might damage my internal organs and feeling the squash for a week after. We would both have the biggest orgasms centered around that. The danger is part of it.

>>79634 Kinda sounds like she's going to 500 no matter whar you do. Just keep talking to her, be nice to her all the time and bring her food whenever she asks you to.... she will ask you to eventually. Give it time. You have to mentally let go of the destination in order to reach it. The more you push for it the farther away it will get. Just let her be and she'll be 500 before you know it

>>79788 Idk. Dudes showing her face and trying to tamper with her medication. The moral thing to do is reach out to her in case she’s experiencing any health effects from this sick fucks felony level medical tampering.

Does anybody know if it's possible to reverse diabetes without significant weight loss? Google always equates the two. My gf's A1C indicates diabetes but she's not even 300lbs. It would really suck if she ended up back at 200lb or lower.

>>79634 This genuinely sounds like my ex, I'm almost curious. Southeast US?

>>79806 I had a friend get type 2 diabetes and they didn’t even get past 150. It’s from all the sugar intake with no breaks. You don’t get type 2 from being massive you get it from over indulgence with sugar. Because my girlfriend is passed 300 and has no issues with diabetes like my friend got who never really got that fat. I make sure she eats a lot of savory foods and avoids really ever eating deserts or sweets with lots of sugar.

Not sure if this is the right thread but I’m not sure where else to ask for advice. I don’t have any FA friends to talk to about this IRL. I met my wife in high school and she was a beautiful girl, 5’2” and about 150 lb. She was just a little chubby at that weight. Over the next 8 years or so she got up to about 275. She was actually at her fattest on our wedding night which was extremely hot. About 2 years ago she started on a GLP-1 and it didn’t bother me. I think I was in denial. Shes now at just under 200 and plateauing a bit but still shrinking slowly. I’m ashamed to admit that I am not nearly as aroused by her as I used to be. I think it’s a combo of her being smaller and also the idea of her continuing to lose weight and wanting to be smaller. I love her dearly and I’m not sure what to do. I’ve never explicitly told her about feedism because honestly I’m more into just fat girls and weight gain. Breaking up is off the table. This is the woman I want to grow old with. Wtf do I do?

>>80374 I have no idea wha this means friend

>>79634 > she got a bad knee injury in highschool because of an accident and its permanently damaged so she literally could not run even if she was thin. She was diagnosed with binge eating disorder at a very young age and just generally has a lot of emotional baggage I think this dude and the guy dating the retard with Willis leader syndrome need evil feeder faceoff.

>>80373 Does she know you like her fat body? I assume she must've at least figured that out, right?

>>80382 That’s been no secret. I’ve always regularly told her how beautiful she is. I’ve straight up told her I love her belly specifically. When it was big enough she used to let me fuck under her belly hang and really seemed to enjoy it in the moment at least.

>>80376 >Willis prader syndrome No idea what this is, half these girls look at least a little downsy, Foxy roxxy being the most famous example. Which model are you referring to

Apropos of the subject, everyone here is fucking retarded. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prader%E2%80%93Willi_syndrome

>>80415 I mean, compared this this guys retarded freak eating herself to death to deal with “childhood trauma” is it really that wrong to date someone with PWS?

>>80382 Unfortunately, hearing it from us is not the same thing as believing and internalizing it. My wife has 30 years of me telling her how hot she is and how much I love her being fat and that I wish she were fatter. She knew that before she became my wife, and I have not changed since. Yet she still shocked me the other day with how traumatized she is from being fat. We bought one of those small trampolines to help her do some exercising. I don't love that - she's also on tirzepatide, which I hate, and has been losing weight - but she does need to work on her balance, and it will help with that. So we were having some sexy time til I made the mistake of asking her to jump naked on the trampoline. That set her off and she became like a mad woman. She was bawling and saying how could I ask her to do something like that. Now, in my defense, I had talked about liking that previously - so it was not like it was a total surprise - and she had always just playfully called me a perv (which I get called a lot, which I both mind and don't mind - I am a perv, it's true and I don't mind admitting it, but what bothers me is that she thinks I am a perv for liking her fat). So I was not at all prepared for the waterworks coming on and her sobbing about how terrible it was for me to ask her to do something like that, and then all the fat shaming trauma came out. It is terrible that she ever was fat shamed, but what gets me is that it seems to matter not one little bit that her husband thinks she is hot; it is the opinion of others that matters most to her. That is another bone of contention of ours: I would do pretty much anything for her. I don't mean that in the romantic way, so much as if she wanted me to gain weight, I would, or if she wanted me to engage in threesome (I mean two dudes and her, not two chicks plus me - latter is kinda obvious, so I mean it in the way that would be all for her and not for me) or whatever, I would. And if she told me she liked me a particular way, I would do my darndest to make that happen, and would be happy to do it. I don't expect her to change herself physically for me, no matter how much I want that, but I would like her to at least value my opinion sufficiently that it offsets all the crap others have given her about her weight, and at a minimum in our bedroom if not elsewhere. Sorry for venting, but it is nice to be able to at least tell someone who would understand me what I am going through. It really is frustrating to effectively have your views totally ignored by someone who is supposed to love you fully and completely. And back to the original message: just cause you tell your wife/gf that you find her attractive, it does not mean that she will internalize that and believe you.

>>79807 This is either an insane fucking coincidence or youre too close for my own comfort lmfao. She told me shes only dated 2 other guys before in her life and neither were into feedism. (That she knows of ofc)

>>78709 You should file for a fucking divorce if you cant control your fetish and actually want to sabotage your partner.

>>80470 >What is it with you people and this obsession with consent?

>>80470 You sounds like a creep and an idiot. I literally can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic or not.

>>80429 >but I would like her to at least value my opinion sufficiently that it offsets all the crap others have given her about her weight, and at a minimum in our bedroom if not elsewhere. If you lived on a deserted island, she would probably not mind, but now she has to go out of the safe haven to go to work, visit friends and family, go to the store etc. As FAs, we only see the beauty of fat, but we have not lived in a fat body and have not grown up fat, so it is diffcult to understand what that fatphobia does to someone. My wife also knows and loves that I love her big body, but I keep my fantasies in check. Sometimes I just want to say how big and fat she looks, but I don't because I know she cannot see it as a compliment. She also wants to loose some weight. She is down from 330 to 285 already and wants to loose some more but assures me she never will be skinny. In my ideal world she would be much bigger, but I try to enjoy what I have, and I don't worry about the weight loss because there is still some margin for her to loose some weight and there still be enough for me.

>>80376 Yo chill 😭😭 im the dude who posted that. Not that it was solicited, but we just met up recently for the first time and thought that id maybe come back to update for anyone who cares. TL;DR: she is a walking weight gain deviantart story and ill prob be breaking things off soon because i cannot deal with the guilt or resist the urge to enable her. Ik im shitty im dealing with it. So, our first "date" was to go see avatar fire and ash per her request. She really insisted on this because she said shes been wanting to see the movie but to be honest, i could tell she just wanted an activity where we were in the dark and didnt have to talk or look at eachother the whole time because shes shy. Didnt bother me to be honest i love the movies. When i go to pick her up, i ring the doorbell and her grandma opens the door (owner of the house) we meet and have small talk and then she tells me that shes waiting for me in the living room. When i go to finally meet her im actually fucking shocked. Shes fucking enormous i couldn't believe my eyes. She told me she was 405 but there was just 0 way. After some small talk we got in the car. I drive an SUV and i had made sure the passenger seat was as far back as possible before i picked her up. Still wasnt enough room and i could tell she was cramped. Shes genuinely heaving out of breath and sweaty just from this short walk and maneuver. Then asks if i had a seatbelt extender and when i said no she said she was too lazy to get hers from her car and that we can just go without it. Fumble on my part i know. Im in fucking awe. I genuinely could not believe this was real life. Otw to the movies she tells me that shes sorry and she lied about her weight because she was afraid tbat if she was too big she would scare me away and admitted that shes actually pushing 490ish. Of course i expressed that it was all a good thing lmao. Anyway, were talking but the entire time i can tell shes super nervous and insecure and constantly trying to hide her stomach with her hoodie and shit yadda yadda. She doesn't get out much. We got to the movies and before i could park she had me drop her off at the door because she said walking too much would make her sweaty. Adorable. Anyway, i implore her to order whatever shr wants from ghe concession stand. 2 beers, large caramel popcorn, mozzarella sticks and m&ms. We make it to the theater and its completely EMPTY, we were the only 2 in there. Shes completely overflowing in the seat next to me pounding back the concessions while we have casual conversation since nobody else was there. After it was over, i pulled the car around, and then she very reluctantly asked if she could actually sit in the back seat for space reasons because she was uncomfortable on the drive over. To be honest, this put me off at first. Idk, we were kind of on a date and just starting to really warm up with eachother and then i was gonna like, uber her. But ofc i accommodated and said yes. But to be honest? It ended up being kinda fucking hot. We still had great conversation. She was a little tipsy and hungry so we went to a steak n shake. She orders huge and was telling me that we can eat the food when we get back to her place. I hand her the food in the back, we start driving back. Im talking to her, then i start to realize that shes picking at a fry or 2. Then more. Then taking the carton out of the bag and eating it. Then its gone. Its like she didnt even realize it?? She then apologizes for eating in my car, when i told her it was 100% okay, she said "okay!" And then finished literally everything else before we even got back. We smoked a joint, talked some more, and really got to know eachother. But even after all this, she still tells me that she sincerely does want to get thin for her health but "isnt motivated right now" and "wants to have fun" but like. This is a slippery fucking slope?? You dont start having fun at nearly 500 idk 😭 her weight is literally the turn back before its too late red flag. And as much as i want to be with her i just dont know if i can win the battle of brain vs dick. I dont want to fuckup this girls life. I feel awful enough already but we genuinely did have an amazing time. Havent done anything yet but well see what happens

>>81017 Also, i had never hugged a girl that i couldnt fully wrap my arms around. That shit hit like a fucking drug. I got a rush like crack you guys have no idea. God bless obesity

>>81017 You need to think about whether her losing weight would make you hate the relationship. If she would lose the weight but you would still want to be with her, than just stay with her and help her lose the weight. Otherwise, just break it off in a way that's as close to "normal person breaking off" as you can manage. You really don't need to go all in on enabling her gain, just like you don't need to go all in on hardcore weight loss. She "she sincerely does want to get thin for her health", so ask her when she would want to do that. Once she wants to do it, just do light shit like swimming or walking, if you want to be with her enough buy her a treadmill/walking pad so she can walk and still be a neet. Same in the other direction, you don't need to be giving her 20,000 calories a day, just keep getting her the food she was getting anyway. You never elaborated on how much she can eat re: "This girls appetite is fucking INHUMAN and this is her not even trying.", (I still want you to elaborate) but no matter how much she can eat, if you both start to care about her weight you can have her just switch out some food for healthier alternatives to eat alongside her main meals, just for starters. I think you really just have to ask her more questions dude, what weight does she want to be for her health? Does she kinda know when she's gonna want to start? How much effort is she willing to put into it? And you gotta ask yourself some questions, because you pretty clearly think "If I'm not her angelic weight loss savior I'm the devil from the bible", when you can realistically be somewhere in the middle, step up when the time calls and don't when it doesn't. If you think the time should call sooner than make it, if not don't.

>>81020 Yeahhh youre honestly completely right man. Tbh, i really did have a great time and ive been thinking more and more about just manning the fuck up and doing the right thing. Which is essentially what you said. Sucking it up and supporting her on either side of the spectrum etc. Also, you wanted me to elaborate on her appetite. I can talk about that rq. Leading up to us meeting i had been pretty frequently buying her meals and restocking her snack drawer in her room (all per her request). At first she was really bashful about it but once we warmed up she was pretty much asking me everyday. Typical meal for her is like 45-60 dollars depending where its from. For some examples, i remember one meal she ordered was from a Japanese place. She got 6 rolls of sushi, 20 teriyaki wings, a miso soup and 2 slices of fried cheesecake. This is like, normal filling meal for her. One night we were up all night playing games together vis discord. I ordered her a pizza and cheese bread around 12:45ish-1am, then around 3-4am she was sheepishly hinting that she was hungry and asking if she could maybe get something else. McDonald's. 2 double cheese, 2 mcchickens, 40 piece nugget, large fry, drink, and 4 pies. Then she falls asleep on mic almost immediately after and snores. Like this is my fucking dream girl?? 😭 i hate being so conflicted about this relationship because this is EVERYTHING my 14 year old brain was wanting. Idk, those were 2 instances off the top of my head but tbh ive fed her online so many times atp they blur together. Really waiting for the IRL feeding opportunity ngl. Thats gonna be my lebron moment fr

>>81017 Nah you're fumbling the bag. Your story comes off that you aren't prepared to date obese women. This is a feedee in the making who is so close to 500lbs. Let her be with a real feeder if you can't understand and be prepared to date ssbbw's. Always always have a car large enough and a seatbelt extender.

>>81044 Well he said he's never hugged a girl he couldn't fully wrap his arms around, this was his first time dating obese women. You can prepare as much as you want beforehand, but you're also allowed to learn as you go. He can buy an extender now. The backseat is fine for someone he just met, and if he wants to upgrade the relationship he can upgrade the car when he pleases. Not everyone is born with the knowledge of ssbbw dating, everyone's got a first time and he can learn as he goes. Besides she "VERY recently found out about feedism". This is two people new to the life experiences that they're participating in. If he can get through this without abusing her, moderation and all that, it'll be fine, and we'll get some fun stories out of it.

>>81045 Thank you for defending me glorious anon. I couldn't agree more. I literally already ordered a seatbelt extender on amazon and plan to come way more prepared for our next hang. This was a first time for me, im only 21 and have barely been in any relationships, let alone a feedist centric. Im super stoked tho. I think im gonna see where things go with her. Were going on another date tomorrow before i have to leave for a trip. I have tons of pics of her and of meals shes fucked up and other things, i just would ultimately feel the lowest level of shitty on here sharing those types of things lmfao

>>81053 Hell yeah, don't share any pics of her without her consent (and probably don't ask for a looong while). Pictures of her food, probably wait a long time and still probably ask consent. Hope the next date goes well.

>>81045 Sorry, but you cannot say that just because it was the first time he couldn't fully wrap his arms around a woman that it was his first time dating an obese woman. You have to be pretty huge to be that big - my wife is a 350+ lb pear, and the only place I even come close to that is her hips/belly, and even there I can touch fingers. I've only ever gone out with a woman like that once, and I have dated plenty of obese women in my time, so that is a ridiculous metric to say he never dated one before. And to OP, I gotta say that is a pretty mature attitude for someone only 21. I would NEVER have felt conflicted like that if I had found someone who shared my proclivities - hell, after 28 years of generally happy marriage, I still sometimes feel like I wish I had found someone who was maybe a little slower and who was 400+ lbs already and/or who would have enjoyed getting fatter. Never underestimate the need to be turned on by your partner, even though women will try to tell you that loving "who they are" should be enough. So maybe keep trying with her and see how things go before making a decision on what you should do longer term? You might find you are not compatible and no matter how hot she is, you don't enjoy your time with her. But you might find that she is "the one" for more reasons than just her smoking hot bod, and then you can better determine what you need to do to make the relationship work.

>>81070 You're right, I should've said dating a woman *that* obese. And to >>81053 (who isn't actually the OP of the thread, just the main subject of conversation rn), wait until tomorrow's date and see how you feel about her, and maybe confer with us considering how conflicted you seem to be.

>>81053 This is sick you guys are as bad as those feeders preying on women with Down’s syndrome and stuff that makes them perfect feedees

>>81017 Honestly, as long as it’s two consenting adults, I’d say go have fun. Just because you *like* that she’s fat doesn’t mean you’re the reasons she’s fat. In all likelihood, someday they’ll have gone their separate ways and she’ll have lost tons of weight. I think it’s awesome they get to do all this exploration and have a good time while they’re young.

>>81081 Ehh, just got back from our second "date" and it wasnt as great as the first time idk. Wasnt a total bust, i had fun and it was definitely much warmer than last time but she just kept bringing up how she has been wanting to lose weight forever and she really wants to lose 100 pounds because her back kills her and she cant walk short distances without getting sweaty and out of breath etc. idk. I have a feeling shes been talking to her close friends about me and maybe even some of the feeder stuff and theyve been telling her that its a bad idea lol. She was kinda hinting at some convos or something. Might be over in that department. She kind of repeatedly told me that she wants me to actively help her diet and say no to her cravings because she has no self control and shes scared that being with someone like me will cause her to gain super rapidly. Idk. Conflicted about all this. Tbh i was a little crushed seeing how kinda adamant she was about it because last time (literally a few days ago) she seemed pretty open to at least "having some fun" with the feedist stuff. Im kinda at a crossroads. I do enjoy her personality, and we have good chemistry but im not in love by any means. Not yet at least, were still getting to know eachother. A really big part of me wanting to see her was because of her weight and like, i dont know 😭 a part of me wants to wait this out to see what actually happens and the other part wants to sort of let it fade out before im in too deep and kinda committed to like, reverse feeding her lmfaoo. I just wish she could see herself how i see her. Shes literally the most gorgeous woman ive ever laid eyes on. But she doesnt even have this kink. To her, fat is ugly and she sees herself as completely undesirable to any human being. Its like shes ruled out the possibility of someone ever finding her attractive in her life and has just given up. Its honestly really sad to me and it breaks my fucking heart. Every fucking birthday wish since i was 11 was for a girl EXACTLY like her to enter my life. She is 100% my type physically and we do get along very well on top of that. Idk guys. It might be over. Is there any world where i can show her that shes perfect exactly how she is or do i need to wrap up the delusion and circus act

>>81130 Also maybe it means nothing, but to follow this up, after i dropped her off at home she sent me a lengthy text apologizing if she came off as rude or abrupt in some moments and thanked me for taking her out and explained that she had a rough morning etc. idk. Could be the case but there was 100% truth behind the words

>>81130 Well, if you think you can have some fun with her in the meantime, why not. But don't go for helping her lose unless you truly love her for her and not her looks and you want to be with her, no matter what her body does. I don't think it would be bad though to be honest with her - assuming this is how you feel - and tell her that you love her the way she is and that you want to be with her, but you are not in the right place right now to start a relationship with someone who does not love herself and wants you to fix them. I fully understand how this sucks - I have been in several relationships with women whom I thought were gorgeous but who did not love themselves for various reason, but all hated that they were fat and could not accept that I thought they were beautiful. Believe me, it won't end well. Better to be honest even if that means ending a relationship now than trying to be something they want but that is totally not you just to keep the relationship going.

>>81142 Thanks man. Really insightful. I think the biggest thing im conflicted about is the constant mixed signals im getting from her. Like even after posting all this, just 5 mins ago she texted me asking if i can get her doordash because she wants to stuff her face??? Then when i brought up the weight loss shit she just kinda got kinda sheepish and said "ill start another day when im motivated" but like 😭 wtf do i do here?? Every feeder instinct in me is telling me to enable, but then another side of me just feels like shit because of what she was saying to me earlier. She obviously genuinely doesnt have any self control when it comes to food, and now the ball is in my court to play angel or devil. Fuck this man i might have to get out

My main concern in this situation honestly is the financials, ie that she's just using you as a meal ticket. You keep putting quotations around "date", why do you need to feel the need to do that? But assuming you make a decent salary and you're on board with that (it's kinda hot), then have at it. But you are clearly more interested in the morality of the situation. My 2 cents: she's gotten to this point without you, most likely because her family is full of enablers? She is not suddenly going to "be more motivated" unless they start taking drastic steps to cut her off financially. I feel like you owe it to yourself to enjoy the situation. As long as you're not forcing anything and encouraging quality food, the moral calculus seems very similar to some of the government programs that provide clean heroin to addicts.

>>81146 I totally get the frustration with the way the conversation went. Weight loss talk, especially so early in the relationship can be a total mood killer. If I were in your situation, I wouldn’t give up just yet. Since so many other things are lining up well, I would see how all this plays out. She’s never really been with someone like you, so she probably doesn’t really know how to quite feel about everything. A lifetime of people telling you that you’ll never be happy if you stay fat doesn’t just go away after a couple of nice dates. In terms of the morality, I definitely think you’re overthinking it. She’s going to be fat with or without you—but with you it actually might be fun.

>>81146 Honestly this message was the most revealing of her mindset and yours as well. She'll always want to lose the weight, she's concerned enough with it to want to hide her weight in the dark on her best days, and say that she wants to lose weight on her worse days. And yet, she's fine with not doing anything about it and knows that she's with someone (you) who will enable it. 1). She's always going to say the things she said on date #2, and date #1 shows that she really does believe it (wanting to have a movie date to be in the dark and not be looked at). 2). And yet she's always going to be addicted to food, and she's going to use you to sate that addiction. If 1). didn't exist and she had made peace with her addiction, whether as a feedist or not, indulging her addiction would be somewhat morally fine. It would be two consenting adults continuing a transactional relationship. But 1). does exist, she pretty clearly hates her body and wants to change it, but doesn't have the willpower to. Frankly, I think you should get out, because of one sentence you said: "another side of me just feels like shit because of what she was saying to me earlier". 2). shows that she's never going to stop saying these things, 1). shows that she earnestly believes all of it. You saying that this makes you feel like shit is a bad sign because it's not going to stop happening. This situation is going to continue for a long time unless you curb it right now, one way or the other; either by getting out, or enforcing that she takes the weight loss thing seriously. And really, you've only been on two dates with this woman, the second of which you didn't describe any of what was actually done in the date other than the parts that made you feel like shit, which was evidently all of it other than looking at her. If you this two dates, one of which was bad, is you knowing her enough to double down and help her lose weight, go right ahead, but as >>81070 said, "Never underestimate the need to be turned on by your partner". If you help her lose weight you stop being turned on by her as much, but if you don't you're constantly going to feel like shit because today and tonight are going to become regular cycles with her. Unlike you and nvr2fat I'm pretty bitchless, but I'd like to think anyone can figure out that "Damned if you do, damned if you don't" is a terrible saying to base a relationship on.

I'm just wondering how the hell you guys met, considering she doesn't leave the house by the sound of it

>>81171 Feabie, according to >>79629

>>79629 > Because as we get to know eachother more, shes been sharing her childhood traumas and her health conditions etc, basically the reason she is a huge shut in. Imagine finding a child rape victim and destroying her body to fit your fantasy. No better than that guy feeding his retarded wife to death.

Jesús Christ you guys, give the girl a chance. Anon said she was awesome to connect with generally and she’s got the body he’s been wishing for his entire adult life. They’re young and this is their first time doing anything like this. Let her find out if she can warm up to this type of relationship and let Anon get some experience with an SSBBW.

>>81146 Welcome to dating women! :D Seriously, though, fat women go through a lot because of their size. There is so much hatred thrown their way because they are fat, and someone who is supersized even more so. When they hear the message ever since they were a kid - not talking parents, though they can help screw things up to, but their peers at and outside school, as well as in social media - that fat is bad and they are ugly because they are fat, that it is hard for that message not to become ingrained with them. Did you get ever get the impression from her that she liked being fat and getting fatter? From what I could gather from what you said, it sounds more like she likes eating a lot and enjoyed you helping to finance that. Again, from what I am reading here - and I know that we don't see the full picture - she probably doesn't like being fat but doesn't care enough to do anything about it, but there still is an underlying desire to cave to society's pressure to lose weight. And if there is always that voice inside her head, there is nothing you can do about it, and you're going to have to deal with that as her real desire. You may luck out and she yo-yo diets her way to even bigger than she is now before she just gives up, or more likely, once she can afford it, she is going to go on semaglutide or do WLS because she feels too fat. Her doctor will frankly play a big part in this too: if she keeps getting the same message about how better she will feel and how much her health will improve if she just loses 50 lbs, then your voice will ultimately mean nothing and she'll decide to lose. Unless she is kinda slow and eager to please/afraid to lose you so that she is more inclined to be fat and happy with you than risk your relationship on getting thinner as she thinks she wants to be, her weight loss is always going to be out there somewhere. (And by "slow", I am not talking like this moron who keeps saying we want to fatten retards; I just mean someone who doesn't think too much about the consequences about what they are doing to their bodies long-term.) She may keep it buried deep inside and not talk about it, but at some point it will bubble up to the surface and become an issue. And honestly, someone that big at some point will have to face losing weight for medical reasons, whether it be joint pain or mobility issues or diabetes or high blood pressure or whatever. Humans just aren't made to be that big long-term. (I am not one who thinks that anyone 500 lbs is going to be dead within 2-3 years, and I am one who really loves USSBBWs, but I am also realistic enough that someone who reaches 500 lbs in their 20s and then never gets smaller is not going to have a really long life.) Now, one thing you have to weigh against this slow-burning desire to lose weight - and I am surprised nobody has raised the issue yet - is the probability of finding someone her size again. Unlike what some of the idiots here will say about how easy it is cause they could do it no problem, it is VERY difficult to find a woman who is in the 500 lb range. (Even more so at your age.) And don't expect to find a 300 lb woman who is going to be fine gaining up to that size or that this will happen "naturally". There just are not very many of them out there. And to find one with the self-confidence to not care about her size (as opposed to one, like your gf, who seems to have been beaten-down by all the negativity and bought into it) or who actually loves it/loves gaining? That is like expecting to find a unicorn. So pretty much any 500 lb woman is going to be like this woman you are dating, and it's going to be a crapshoot whether/when they will start losing. (And unlike say someone in the 300s, they really will need to do so at some point for their health/mobility.) You really should give this more time and try to make it work, or at least see if it will. You may find she gives up on trying to lose and accepts who she is and enjoys eating, and you'll enjoy some great times together until she decides to start losing. Or you may find that not too long it becomes a deal-breaker and you can no longer stand the self-pity and drama (or possibly she is a very weak personality, since she seems to want you to help get her to lose cause she cannot do it by herself, which can be a turn-off). I just hope we'll get to continue to hear your story and maybe at some point get a pic of you two.

>>81191 yea no this thread is a reminder for me not to let this retarded fetish control my life these dudes are insane

>>81202 >>81204 Men on this site literally coach each other into poaching young women off the short bus or in doctors offices. They call it the “retard pill” and blame feminism for their inability to score non-disabled women they can control.

>>81130 >I have a feeling shes been talking to her close friends about me and maybe even some of the feeder stuff and theyve been telling her that its a bad idea lol. Judging by her change in manner on your second date I'd say she has discussed it with someone. There's some great advice in this thread, I'm shocked it hasn't gone the other way. For what it's worth, I'd cool it with the feeder stuff and concentrate on the relationship and getting intimate. The relationship you have now is basically transactional, you're buying her food and getting a casual girlfriend type vibe from her through digital contact and a couple of dates, that you referred to as a "date". Find an actual relationship out of what's currently there, it sounds like there could be, just steer it away from the feeder/feedee set up you currently have, cos she's not really onboard with it. She'll still stay incredibly fat. At nearly 500lbs, if she loses 50lbs it isn't gonna make any real difference to you, and as you haven't had any sexual encounters with her you've nothing to base it on. At this minute in time tho you're a free meal ticket and her muse. Get something more out of your situation, cos this isn't a relationship the way it stands. Hope you haven't gone in too high. I had a few 500lbs flings 20 years ago (500lbs is fucking rare in the uk even now), and it was hard sizing down, I basically stopped even trying to date after the 2nd girl as the fatness had rotted my brain for a while. Whatever you do, enjoy, you're 21, there'll be plenty of other fat girls out there if she isn't the one, but for yourself, get more out of your current situation or get out and plough the field. Best of fucking luck to you man.

>>81191 Dude jumped straight to childhood rape. “Childhood trauma” could just as easily be parents getting divorced or a brother getting paralyzed in a car accident. Sometimes I can’t tell if dudes here like being as judgmental about women’s weight for sport or if they’re actually just as ignorantly self-righteous as a local Karen.

>>81210 Exactly. I suspect they're typing with one hand and jacking off in the other hand. There are some sick little puppies about on this place that have never so much as put a hand on a pair of tits since the fat teenage girl from next door used to babysit them as kids.

>>81210 Virgin incel comment. Totally common for rape victim to pack on the pounds out of ptsd and an attempt to be too ugly to rape. I’ve gotten with my fair share of models and women in the scene. It’s so common. (I mean this is the thread where the guy doxxed his gf while soliciting advice on tampering with her medicine to sabotage weight loss in a hyper obese person?)

>>81218 It's also common for kids of divorced parents and people who's loved ones got paralyzed to stress eat, because that's how trauma works. There's no reason to off rip assume it's specifically childhood rape. And the thread's OP didn't dox his wife, just both of their faces, which was foolish but not malicious. And he didn't do anything to his wife's meds, just told us it was something he was thinking of doing, and proceeded to not do once people with cooler heads told him off. You seem pretty aggro in this thread, but you gotta believe that people can change and be better than their worst day.

>>81223 What is it with you MAGA FAGGOTD and down playing child rape?

>>81230 Kisame here, MAGA is obsessed with the war. I think we're post Charlie Kirk, Tucker Carlson. I watch Fox News.

>>81230 It's because undereducated Americans never learn critical thinking skills, so they interpret their own cognitive dissonance/ learning new information that changes their opinions/outlooks is a negative thing, so they engage in this cult-worship behavior and double-down, even when it means supporting someone who was a proven pedophile, rapist, conman, and liar well before the Epstein files proved it quite literally thousands of times over. Again. That, or they'll lazily just lean on the fact that conservatives have co-opted Christianity, despite the large majority of them exhibiting the antithesis of Jesus' teachings (going back to their whole 'lack of critical thinking' above). I just hope they eventually learn it's not about right vs. left, their squabbles & fears are all fabricated social issues whose flames are fanned by corporate-owned media channels. Trans people, immigrants, queer people, and 'wokeness' are all paper tigers they've made to distract their target audience from the fact that their own government is run by corrupt pedophiles (or, pedophile apologists) that are robbing them, their communities, and their children's futures for their own monetary gains. Republicans AND Democrats. MAGA isn't a disease, it's a late-stage symptom of an entire government that prioritizes corporate & foreign interests over the lives of the people it governs, and it's not even particularly good at hiding that fact. This is precisely why the country is becoming more and more of an AI-powered surveillance state pointed at its own citizens; because of their own carelessness, we're the closest we've ever been to class consciousness... and they're terrified.

>>81236 I am far right Kisame and I don't have time to read this monologues. I hold down a part time job as a fry cook. I don't know why people keep going in a screed. It's Tuesday learn to chill

>>81236 >That, or they'll lazily just lean on the fact that conservatives have co-opted Christianity, despite the large majority of them exhibiting the antithesis of Jesus' teachings (going back to their whole 'lack of critical thinking' above). The prevalence of religion in these communities cannot be overstated. It's not simply a belief system, it's EVERYTHING. It's community, it's authority, it's conformity. Even among the people who "aren't religious, but spiritual", they won't give up all the baggage that comes with Christianity. It's pervaded their families and communities. And the kicker? Their church and figureheads have told them Democrats are wrong. They're evil. They're scum and unsafe and they're coming for everything you have. Reasonable people know they're not, hell Christianity isn't a voting block. But to go against their families, their church, their communities? May as well go against God. It's a huge cult in terms of conformity and you aren't allowed to question it or bring reason into the conversation. The problem they can't shake is Donald Trump is the furthest thing from Christ-like but he's the head of the Republican party and Jesus is a Republican. So you get to live with the cognitive dissonance and hear them spout absolute insanity trying to justify the Republican agenda against the Bible. It'd be hilarious if it wasn't horrifying.

>>81238 I go to church and it's rising among zoomers who think the city is a scary and lonely place..l

>>81238 I don't know why people are having this discussion of politics on a fetish board. I thought Paxton got kicked out of the primary along with MTG cause they don't want to bomb Iran

Jesus fucking christ i step away from the board and mfs are talking about childhood rape?? Wtf did i say that hinted that 😭😭 she just had a deadbeat dad and her mom died very young so shes lived with her grandparents her whole life and they dont get along, amongst some other things. Holy fuck some of you guys are rotted. As for the people who gave kind and genuinely reasonable advice, thank you! Were working things out slowly but surely. Im easing up on my feeder pedal (or trying my hardest) because we genuinely do just get along rlly well. I think we have great chemistry. And this is gonna sound shallow as fuck of me but even if she absolutely stays adamant about not participating in feedism shit, id still rather be fucking a fat girl whose not into it than a thin girl whose not into it lmao. Someone here made a comment about how im getting in the game at too high a weight and im not gonna be able to go thinner after we break up because the fat will corrupt my brain lmfaoo. I thought that was funny. Also someone else asked to post pics of us. Funny enough, im not super thin myself. Im like 270 pounds, but standing next to her actually makes me look like a fucking twig 😭 its kind of hot. I rlly wanna post pics of us or her but i think thats crossing a line morally that will eat me up inside. Because i know some of you fuckers are gonna be wacking your shit to my girl and i genuinely dont even blame you. Pushing 500 at 25 is deadass like finding a unicorn like someone said. She also dresses like fucking morticia im actually obsessed. She is the type of girl i made birthday wishes about when i was 10. Anyway, nuff said about that. Well go on more dates, and were taking a trip upstate in may together. Soooo, ill update if i feel like theres something to update, but thank you all for your insight and help thus far. Definitely found things worth value in this thread. Wasnt expecting such a huge amount of people to respond Additionally, i said "date" in quotations because it was really just us taking my dog to the dog park and then getting ice cream after. Idk, more of a hangout imo but i could see people calling it a date. Also you gotta be the lowest level of retard to spew your unwanted political views on a fat fetish board

>>81207 >There's some great advice in this thread, I'm shocked it hasn't gone the other way. I jinxed the fucking thread, completely derailed! To the guy who hijacked asking for advice, read the better advice given and find where you sit in all of this. If it ain't going anywhere, go somewhere else. Don't waste a summer in your 20s, the grass is greener elsewhere for a good few years if you want it

Eh fuck it. Snapped this pic when we were at the movies the other day. Literally cant see her face or anything of notoriety soo like whatever lmao. Shes fucking huge. Overflowing out of those recliners. What a babe

>>81268 Cool you commented again. Yeah, that was me, re fat rot. Maybe hyper size escalation sounds better. Basically the fatter they are, the fatter you want, lost track of the 2nd B in SSBBW. It's kind of porn addiction but fat infactuation. FWIW, UK FA approved. Enjoy

>>81268 Is she the one with the deadbeat dad who touched her when she was young? Nice score either way.

>>81272 Shes never even met her dad mate but whatever u gotta tell yourself to get off ig

>>81276 Sorry man. I can’t keep track if your tragic lolcow was touched by her dad for grandpa. Any advice on finding women with these kinds of emotional issues? She sounds like the submissive feedee jackpot and will do anything for attention.

>>81272 >>81279 Yeah, keep your weird ass incest fantasies off this board. You all already ruined /elite 🤮

>>81313 How come everyone on this board has an emotionally fragile socially isolated mentally challenged woman they get to feed past the point of no return. A lot of us are freakin jealous.

>>81332 That’s not me. I have a happy fat wife that I’d describe as opposite to that in every way. Honestly not jealous of feeders with unidimensional relationships.

>>81388 > I have a happy fat wife that I’d describe as opposite to that in every way. That’s fine for you and we all should aspire to that. Reality is I’ve never had that chance and will continue to agree to date the women who will date me which at age 32 is 1 mental disease (anxiety) and two learning disabilities. I thought I’d die a virgin and almost ropped myself a few times before cutting myself enough slack to shack up with fellow retards like myself.

Think im gonna break things off when i get back from my trip. Idk. I wish it could have worked out but its genuinely getting to a point where its almost like she hated that i like her? I dont fucking get it. Its like she thinks that its all one big prank show and im secretly making fun of her behind her back to everyone i know. Shes irrationally insecure to the point where she lashes out on me because she genuinely thinks that im full blown lying to her face when i tell her i like that she eats a lot or i like that shes big? Like she thinks im insulting her. She also wont stop bringing up about how she HATES that im into feedism and she cant be around me without her thinking that im just fetishizing her?? She jumps back and forth between these two extremes of me objectifying her or me fucking lying about everything. She kinda himted at some of this in the past but ever since i left on this trip its all she wants to fucking talk about?? Its driving me insane. I send her a goodmorning text and i get back some bs like "so youd never be with someone thin?" I really thought shed kind of let her guard down at this point but its just making me feel like shit. Thanks for all the help but i mightve bit off more than i could chew. Fucking sucks i rlly thought i mightve won the lottery.

>>81496 Hahaha what a fucking pussy. You tried to manipulate an fragile woman into killing herself for your enjoyment and it didn’t work out for you… whomp whomp.

>>81496 Well I'm sure it's bittersweet, but I'm glad that you figured that you would rather leave a situation that sucks than stay in it, even if it happened like that. For what it's worth I was rooting for your happiness no matter the outcome, I just stopped talking in the thread because the schizos taking over is pretty discouraging (Being called MAGA sucks, but I've been here for long enough for bbwchan to worship at MAGA's feet, so them being seen as the "down playing child rape" party on this website of all places gives me hope). For what it's worth, I agree with EU guy and nvr2fat, you have the rest of your 20s ahead of you and more time to look for others than you realize. You seem to want to be with a fat person more than someone willing to fatten up from starting skinny, but maybe think about going with that if the chemistry is there. If someone's trying to take advantage of you for food, you should recognize it and cut it off (even though I don't think that was what was happening this time, it's advice for the future). You're always welcome to talk in gen about any future partners, even if the schizos are discouraging. You noted this woman's appetite, so if you continue to describe people's large appetites you're in my good graces, and others too surely.

>>81503 What the blazes is this malarkey?

>>81503 > There's no reason to off rip assume it's specifically childhood rape. >OP didn't dox his wife, just both of their faces, which was foolish but not malicious. And he didn't do anything to his wife's meds, just told us it was something he was thinking of doing My god, who could have mixed up the guy emotionally supporting a man committing felonies to his wife to sabotage her health was mixed up with reasonable social conservatives. You pervs are just as bad as the LGBTQ grooming kiddos.

>>81508 I am an excessive spender and bipolar as Kisame17.

>>81496 You didn't bite off more than you can chew mate, she's clearly got more than self esteem issues, anyone who has normalized being a shut in and accepting living with their parents, not working and playing video games isn't the catch you might have first thought her to be. You've realized just because your dick gets hard for her being a super fat there is more to having g a relationship. More power to you for working that out. Just a word of advice which I think you've probably already realized, don't ever play the feeder card up front, very few women are into it, let them figure out your kinks as you go along. Get out there and enjoy fucking a shit tonne of fat girls whilst you figure what you like.

>>81520 > anyone who has normalized being a shut in and accepting living with their parents, not working and playing video games isn't the catch you might have first thought her to be. I’ve dated fat models, fat doctors and fat borderline retarded shut ins… no one makes a better feedee than the later, people like that have a special gift for packing on the pounds to please their partner.

>>81496 Sucks. I’ve dated some women like that before. It sucks because 1) it gives you no options to continue the relationship in a way that they’d be happy, and 2) they’re ultimately worse off than you are because you can move on and they’re stuck with this impossible self-deprecating logic. I’d say slow everything down a bit, stay quiet on the fat stuff for a while, and see if her brain can catch up. A lifetime of assuming you’re shit for being fat doesn’t go away in a few weeks. No matter how brilliant we’d like to think we are to date. >>81520 >Don’t play the feeder card up front That’s probably good advice. Unless you’re dating on a fat app or at a bash or something—and even then you’ll earn points for not objectifying—fat and definitely feederism should take a backseat until you get a bit deeper into building the relationship in other ways. People want different things out of relationships, but if you’re going for ‘the full package’ then sex/sexuality has to be important but just one component of things.

>>81611 > Sucks. I’ve dated some women like that before. It sucks because 1) it gives you no options to continue the relationship in a way that they’d be happy > and even then you’ll earn points for not objectifying—fat and definitely feederism should take a backseat Empirically, this if fine advice but lacks any methodology. I think we should just call a spade a spade. —There are no attractive 300+ women who haven’t been fucked by a Chad feeder or two in his life. We’re more confident than you losers and more social, these women also make it easy. — She’s probably got experience with gym bros making fun of her with buddies but half of those guys is in her DMs trying to tap her massive ass. If you’re a loser, short, bald or just not in great shape you shouldn’t in any way expect to get a fat woman who wants to stay fat. They’re dating you for stability while they lose weight. You’re supposed to be the bitch and dote on her… not treat her like an object of your pleasure, nothing grosses women out more than being objectified by a loser.

>>81630 >lacks methodology I’d argue that for most of us, we don’t need to buy into an Andrew-Tate-esque game plan to attract the opposite sex. Hot fat chicks are easy to spot—they are the bigger ones—and then you just chat them up. It’s not rocket science lol >nothing grosses women out more than being objectified by a loser This part is spot on. And true for all women probably, actually, not just the hot fat ones.

>>81611 >I’d say slow everything down a bit, stay quiet on the fat stuff for a while, and see if her brain can catch up. A lifetime of assuming you’re shit for being fat doesn’t go away in a few weeks. No matter how brilliant we’d like to think we are to date. Not a bad option if you think there's something there. Go right back and leave it with a hey how you doin in a months time. Something might come of that. >>81630 >If you’re a loser, short, bald or just not in great shape you shouldn’t in any way expect to get a fat woman who wants to stay fat. 100% this. We like fat girls, they're not always that keen on it, you gotta look your best for her to realise she sees you as a catch, then they relax and realise there are guys who aren't complete losers or creeps who like fat. I pulled my back at 23 and bulked up at the gym and right at the time I realised I wanted far fatter than regular fat my confidence and demeanour transformed. Suddenly you're a confidence shield for them and you liking them for being 450lbs plus isn't an issue (just don't start creepy feeder vibes from the outset, especially if you want a proper loving sexual relationship)

>>78799 >>78801 >>78802 >>78804 You guys talk about ozempic the same way that anti-vaxxers talk about phizer, holy shit. Is this an FA board or a schizophrenic telegram group? At least OP's insane ass is in good company, I guess.

>>81332 > How come everyone on this board has an emotionally fragile socially isolated mentally challenged woman they get to feed past the point of no return. A lot of us are freakin jealous. Volunteering with disadvantaged teens is a good way to check out the new crop of moldable adults. Trying to find some bitter used up 30+ year old Becky is just asking for trouble. >>81611 >That’s probably good advice. Unless you’re dating on a fat app or at a bash or something—and even then you’ll earn points for not objectifying—fat and definitely feederism should take a backseat until you get a bit deeper into building the relationship in other ways. See above. You just need to find someone whose brain is extremely trainable and open to suggestion.

>>81762 I had thought about it and I am going to get therapy next week to figure out my personality. Kisame's going away forever

>>81762 Turn off your Internet.

>>81763 Good luck, Kisame. Wishing you the best

>>81780 I already got my medical bills covered so my schedule is clear till May

>>81769 I want to travel this April hopefully around NYC and Jersey before trying DC

>>81750 Big deal I have narcolepsy and don't need to be medicated but leave it too Americans to need doctors

>>78709 Going back to the original post, I am having my own marital crisis here. I forget what exactly was the pretext, by wife decided to get into her own weight loss journey with me, and it was horrible. I knew she had lost weight, just not how much. And it's funny how knowing the exact number makes such a huge difference. Maybe I was deluding myself, but I thought she had lost maybe 40-50 lbs at most. Turns out she has lost 90 lbs, starting at 385. (As an aside, I never knew she was that big - I thought she maxed out around 375 and wondered if I was being optimistic at that, but we never talked about her exact weight because I did not want to have the ensuing conversation about her being so big she wanted to lose weight.) And she does not intend to stop losing. First off, I am shocked that she lost nearly 25% of her size within 10 months of starting on tirzepatide. I thought people lost maybe 10-15% of their starting weight, though since read it was up to 20%, but it took more like 14-17 months to do that. And that then they plateau. But this is one of the things that I know about my wife and is sometimes good, sometimes bad, but when she puts her mind to something, she goes full bore into it and nothing will stop her. And she evidently has been taking that approach here. I get the need to be healthy, and her numbers - blood glucose and something else were concerning - have reached really good level. And she has been exercising more and dealt with her balance problem. But even though she is now healthy, she still wants to keep upping her dose and losing more weight. So we got into this, and one of her beefs was that she was unable to celebrate her victories with me. I told her that not talking about it was meeting her halfway (obviously this is the Cliff notes of our conversation - there was a lot more going on) and she thought that was still strange. One of the biggest challenges I feel we have in discussing this is that she is not very good at seeing things from another perspective. She feels that if I love her, then this should not matter. And from her perspective as a woman - who do not care as much for the physical attraction side as men do - I get that. But I also feel that I have to be honest and tell her that her losing so much weight hurts me to my core, even though I love her and her being alive is more important than my "fetish" (which she calls it, and in some ways it is, but I think she packs a lot of negativity into that and I resent her using it that way), so I cannot celebrate her achievements in the way she wants. I didn't think about this until afterwards, but honestly her wanting me to celebrate this is akin to me asking her to mourn the loss of what I find most physically attractive in her. I would not expect that of her - though I wish she would at least recognize how I feel - and so that is why us not talking about it to me is a good middle ground. Knowing how much she lost and that it is not over really hit me hard. I guess I had been in denial about how much she had lost, and honestly, it surprised me that she was still so big after losing so much weight. And I would have been ok if she never told me this and she plateaued where she is. Would I still miss her being as big as she was? Yes. Do I still wish that she had hit 500 lbs and stayed there, even if it meant we had less time to spend together and she had mobility issues? Tough, but if you were to ask me what I felt in my heart of hearts, I would have to answer yes. (And I would have been ok us both getting really fat and happy, even if that shortened my life, but that is another story. Bottom line is that I value quality over quantity, even though in this case it is the volume of our bodies that I characterize as "quality" of our lives (and quantity would be the length of our lives).) So now, thanks to her need for us to talk about things to "celebrate" her achievements (instead of letting sleeping dogs lie), I feel like shit. I don't want to end our marriage - and I think that she doesn't either, though she was super upset about my reaction to her news - but for the first time since we got together have I felt that I wish we never had. This also stems from a hidden hatred of being fat that she had never mentioned before. I understand the source of it - after being together for over 30 years, she had never told me about some of the stories of when she was young and how she was treated and how she felt it had affected her at work - but she has never talked about it before, and quite honestly if she had opened up earlier on in our relationship, then I can guarantee you we would never have gotten married. The relationship I had with the woman I was with before her was that way, and I eventually realized that I could not be with a woman, no matter how much I loved her and found her attractive, who did not love herself as a fat woman. I don't think my wife was deliberately trying to deceive me by any means, but I had always thought she was ok with her size. (Not that I ever thought she loved it - and I knew she hated getting any fatter, cause sometimes she would say if she saw the pics of some of the 600+ lb women that I liked that she would slit her wrists before she let herself get that big, which always bothered me, both because I thought it horrible to be so mean about being that fat as well as how insulting it was to me and my preference - but she never let on how much she disliked her size and how traumatized she was by it.) And it's not like I figured she would keep on growing - I always had a love-hate relationship with her getting over 400 lbs, insofar as I would have been so turned on if she had done so, but I also knew that seeing that number would have got her on a weightloss journey (I figured though it would have been WLS, as the horrors that those accursed GLPs have wrought were not even an inkling in my mind, and I also hoped her fear of something going wrong with WLS, as so often it does, would overwhelm her desire to get WLS as long as she stayed under 400.) But I never had any idea how much she disliked being fat and wanted not to be. That would have been the dealbreaker early on, and if I am being honest, were it not for the kids (who are old enough to be on their own at this point, but who I fear would side with her if we divorced) - and if I am being brutally honest, the fact that she makes nearly 2.5 times what I do now (situation used to be reversed but I hit a rough patch in my career and am making less than half what I used to while she has thrived and is making big $$). I am not sure it will not become a relationship breaker now. Unfortunately, you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube or un-ring the bell, and she told me what she did and cannot unsay it. If she respects my desire not to talk about this anymore and plateaus, I think we can make our way out of this. But if she keeps on wanting to talk things out and starts looking like a deflated water balloon (she looks a bit deflated now, but not too bad), then I don't know where things will end up. I already feel so conflicted and shaken to my core, but I still love her and cannot imagine not growing old together. But I also think maybe I still am thinking of the "old" her, by which I mean someone who was ok with who she was and did not hate herself as much as I now know she did. Someone who I would have wanted to start all over again with if I could magically go back 32 years, before I met her. But that conversation she forced did so much more than bother me about her losing weight (which I always knew would eventually happen, as I know you cannot be nearly 400 lbs without any health issues as you get older, which we are, and I would probably not be so upset if she was trying to lose more weight because she needed to for medical issues, though that is no longer the case). It shook me to my core that we had been living a lie about her being ok with her size when all along, she had been like the woman whom she knew I broke up with for self-loathing (to be fair, though, she was much more open about that - best example of that was that my previous gf had very fat legs, which I loved, and refused to wear shorts because she did not like people seeing her cellulite, but then wore leggings that did nothing to hide the cellulite, lol) and who sadly, I now think I would never have gotten together with had I known what she was thinking as I would like to have found a woman who loved being fat, or at least who genuinely was comfortable enough with herself that she did not mind it. That said, I did get two amazing sons who I love to bits and I cannot imagine a world without them, so there is that. Pardon me for rambling so much, but I wanted to offload about this and this was the only place I could think to do it where I would not be judged for my lust for fat women, and where I know there are others suffering through similar troubles.

Post script: am I the only one who hates that there is no way to draft messages here than the tiny box we have? It is so hard to look back on what you have written to see if it reads well when you can only look at about one sentence worth at a time.

>>81508 > the guy emotionally supporting a man committing felonies to his wife to sabotage her health Lore? That’s hot at Hell.

>>81843 I just type in google docs first if I care enough to make a comically long text post, just copy paste after. >>81842 As for said long post, I can't really say anything but lament your situation. You've been with her for longer than I've been alive, and despite the lamentations still do love her. I could say some shit that you probably already considered like couples therapy, but you know better whether that would help you or not. Either way, I'm wishing you the best in getting through whatever happens with her.

>>81857 OP stands for Original Poster, the guy who started the thread asking about whether or not he should fuck up his wife's weight loss meds. He doesn't name/title himself and his ID changes a bunch but you can get enough context clues to know who is and isn't him. TLDR he didn't go through with it, no one committed any felonies. The guy you replied to is talking about me because I said OP isn't a conniving horrible person for thinking about doing it. To be clear I think if OP went though with it that he would be a revolting piece of shit, but he didn't, so it's just a thoughtcrime.

>>81862 Thanks for listening. It was good to get it off my chest, and the idea of couples therapy is one we have discussed, but quite honestly I am not convinced that we would find one who is not going to automatically agree with my wife and think I am wrong for wanting her to be unhealthily fat (let's face it, 500+ lbs is unhealthy in the long run) and for finding her unattractive as she loses weight. Plus there is a lot I could not open up about in front of my wife; no matter how "safe" the space, she would hate so much of what I believe that I don't see how it would not permanently affect our relationship. (Much as she says she believes in being open, reality is that she is very judgmental of things that do not conform to her views. Heck, she was seriously thinking of breaking up with me because of my vote in the last Presidential election.) That is one of the reasons I believe in compartmentalizing things in a relationship - not talking about something, like my intense lust for extremely fat women, is often far superior to talking it out, where the other partner is going to be disgusted and judge you for something that ultimately does not have to affect the other 95% of your relationship that is perfectly good. And it's not like she doesn't know about my preference - I have been open about it from day 1, and she knows that it was because in her match.com profile (that was how we met back in 1995, believe it or not) she noted that she was 295 lbs that I even reached out to her - but we just don't talk about it because what I find so attractive disgusts her. And now, having been forced to talk about her weight loss cause that is what she wanted, I now am facing the greatest crisis ever in our marriage (instead of just letting me live comfortably in my state of denial). As an aside (but related), just thinking about how we met and what I am facing now all relates to that one number, 295. I mean, it's funny how the little things like that can make a difference: just putting her weight in her profile resulted in marriage and two great boys. And now forcing me to face that she is back to that number has thrown me into a tailspin in a way that not knowing her weight did not. I guess the difference is that back then, 295 lbs was comparatively pretty big - back in the 80s and 90s, we did not have the internet and overall women were not as huge as they now are - and I was full of hope that she would get bigger, whereas now in a world of 400+ lb. women you see regularly IRL and 500-600+ beauties you find online, and facing the number 295 - and the probability of it shrinking further - sounds horrible. (And as for doing in google docs first, I sometimes do in Word first, but my concern is that my wife will somehow find the post - she has access to my computer and works from home while I am in the office all day - and if she does, then I am not sure how we could survive her reading my raw thoughts that I could never express to her.)

>>81864 OP here…thank you for understanding my expressing my intrusive thoughts is not the same as doing it. It hit me like a ton of bricks that day that she was officially losing weight again after getting to enjoy her pre WLS gluttony one more time. FWIW she’s losing like 5-7 lbs a week, which is insane to think about. She essentially eats the same amount I do now, regular sized meals with no snacking. It really goes to show how much extra calories it takes to stay that size, let alone gain. I think she’s down to about 475 now and have mostly come to grips that she needs to do this for her health. >>81842 You seem to be going through the same mourning, I can only imagine after that many years…I’ve only been with my wife for around 7. It feels like a fire is being put out in your soul.

>>81875 I fully concur with what you are saying. Especially the part about a fire being put out in your soul. I don't know if your wife is easier to talk to about this, and if so, then it will be a lot easier to deal with. And if not, my heart goes out to you. Cause I know there is part of me that wishes there would be a study that shows these accursed GLP drugs were somehow dangerous to the people taking them so that she is forced off them, fully realizing that they do bring incredible benefits for her (e.g., after years of being pre-diabetic, she finally has her blood glucose in check thanks to these drugs). And we need a place to be able to talk about these things without being judged by others for merely having the thoughts. Hell, that is part of the purpose of these bbw chans, so that we can have a safe space to talk about our deepest fantasies without being judged for them, and hopefully to connect with others who share them. Or in this case with someone going through the same thing so that we don't go through it alone.

>>81877 She has been pretty understanding about my fetish and has fulfilled a lot of my fantasies (feeding her, weighing and measuring, squashing etc). But I do know she hates being the size she is, me having to do so much for her and having much diminished mobility. We’ve talked about that it makes me sad that she’s losing again, but kind of left it at that. I want her to be happy in the end, and if that makes me less happy so be it. I found her and fell in love with her at 650 lbs, so she knows my preferences of her staying big. Hoping she loses to maybe 400 and the glp1s stop working…I feel like at that weight she had the mobility and could do things like put on socks and shoes and wash herself in the shower, two big things she’s extremely embarrassed about.

>>81877 Actually, I just thought of a question for you: do you still feel sexually attracted to your wife? Do you think there will come a point where you are not? It's easy for me to look at things from my perspective, thinking I would dream for my wife to be 475 lbs, so at leat you would still find her sexy, but it would be completely fair for her losing weight to turn you off. In my case, I still thought she was fine until we had the big "discussion" where she asked me to celebrate her having lost 90 lbs. Did I like it when she was fatter? Sure, but she was still fat, so I was ok with it. But between finding out she was now sub-300 lbs and that she has never been comfortable in her SSBBW body, I feel a sense of maybe what I could describe as disappointment at a minimum and betrayal to a degree, but it has really turned me off. That, plus my thoughts spiral into a dark place when I am forced to confront how much she has lost - both looking at her naked or even with fat porn now (not because I don't find it a turn on, but more because it serves as a reminder that the dream is gone and then that starts me down the road to dark thoughts). And regarding the dark place, I don't mean suicide, just I am a middle age man who is not content with how certain things have turned out in life and that things no longer can be expected to get better s they did when I was younger (and as we age, you really start to realize that things only will go downhill from here), and it makes me feel unnecessarily depressed. Which is part of the reason I really wanted to avoid the discussion, cause what I expected did come of it, though I guess it is worth because of what it did to my lust for my wife and fat porn...

>>81881 I forgot to add what triggered me (god, that makes me sound like some Gen Z snowflake): her telling me that she was taking a bath. I know that sounds weird, but she has gone through menopause and has zero sex drive. Before this latest situation, if I heard the bath running, I would come running cause it was one of the few times I got to see her naked. (Not that she hides herself, just there is no reason for her to be naked and she would never strip down for me, or at least not lately.) So she told me that she was going to take a bath, which was nice of her, but it forced me to go see her naked when I did not want to, because if I did not go, then that would devolve into another discussion about whether I did not find her attractive anymore (which as I said, I do not at the moment), and this would be a case where actions speak louder than words and I could not sweep things under the rug by just saying "of course I do" (since it would be just totally out of character if I did not go have a look). I know, there are men out there who would die to have my problem of having to look at their 300 lb wife naked, but where I am right now, it just sucks.

>>81881 Am i currently, even though she’s losing? Yes. She hasn’t reached a deflated look yet, still has a huge ass and the legs I love, still has the great belly. Was I as attracted to her when she had gotten down to 370 before? Not at all…at that point she did have the deflated look.

>>81884 What's her relationship like to being fat? Does she love it and mourns having to lose for health reasons? Hate it and glad to be losing? And how open is she to you being saddened by her having to lose (or her success at losing, if that is her perspective)?

>>81888 She’s always been relatively accepting of her fatness. She’s always been the fattest one in everything she’s done. She was shopping in plus size women’s clothing starting in 2nd grade, and in the 400’s in high school. She’d tell me stories about breaking desks, having to have special accommodations for seating throughout school. However, when she lost down to 370 the first time after WLS, I feel like it was her first taste of being “normal fat” as opposed to circus fat lady sized fat. She had never been able to buy clothes as an adult in regular stores (at her fattest she was too big even for Torrid, needing 8xl), so once she could buy in Target/Walmart she was ecstatic. She’s now sized out of them again. She left Target crying yesterday because they didn’t have a single thing she could wear. So while she loves food, and was for the most part accepting of being huge for most of her life, I know deep down she hates it and would be thin if she could. And part of me thinks she resents me for liking her fat.

>>81882 > I know, there are men out there who would die to have my problem of having to look at their 300 lb wife naked, but where I am right now, it just sucks I think we can all relate to that, you're not alone in seeing your wife lose weight and miss the fat. My wife is now 270 and was 450 at her peak. I completely get her reasons for it, she was pre-diabetic and her blood pressure shot up courtesy of work stress. The doctor was obviously going to get their teeth into hardcore dieting and weight loss advice. Ultimately that's the curse of the fetish isn't it, being an SSBBW fat isn't slightly healthy. I'm surprised she's so aware of your preference, as much as my wife knew I obviously fancied her and get hard within seconds of engaging in any sexual activity I've never really had a conversation about my true preference for 600lbs porn or having dated 500lbs girls when I was younger. That's pretty much what's saving our sex life, the thought of 600lbs women whilst fucking. She's still just fat enough (and once she hits 250 she'll no doubt put back on, if she stays at 300 I'll be more than happy). Yeah, it's sucks when they get too small.

>>81890 Thanks for sharing your story! Your story sounds very similar to mine, down to the fact that she is under a lot of stress. My wife suffers from IBS pretty bad, and her gastro-enterologist said she should retire so that she can get rid of the stress that is causing it. That would be nice, and she is certainly of the age for early retirement, but financially we cannot afford it, so that is a non-starter. I am curious: is your wife losing courtesy of a GLP medication, or is she doing it the old fashioned weigh through diet and exercise? That is one of the challenges as I see it to what I expected (pre-GLPs) would be some sort of yo-yo dieting where she would lose and then gain back, or god forbid WLS, but even then I figured she would lose a lot then gain some back. With these GLP "forever drugs", as I call them - in that they have to stay on them forever or risk losing the benefits (so more akin to my high blood pressure meds that I'll take probably for the rest of my life than something you take for a while to drive the numbers down and then go off the medication) - I don't see her gaining back after losing the weight. And I have no idea where she'll plateau as she already has lost more weight than I would have expected on the drugs and more quickly than what the literature says. One of the more interesting (and from my perspective, optimism-killing) things she told me was that as soon as she started on the tirzepatide, the voice in her head that was always driving her to eat and think about her next meal was silenced, for the first time in her life. She had never talked about this before, so while I knew she enjoyed eating, I did not know about this drive to eat. So not only does being on these drugs make women not feel as hungry, it removes the desire to eat that helped them get to be SSBBWs. And all this is why I feel so depressed, as I don't see a particular end to the weight loss, particularly since she is responding "better" to the drug than what I see she should be (and they keep upping the dosage), and even when it does end, I don't foresee any rebounding because of the appetite-suppressant effects of this drug. (Makes me feel like I got screwed over being born the late 1960s: I didn't get the benefit of the body positivity movement in my dating days - I feel that if I was in my 20s now, I could find a much fatter woman than my wife - and now I am getting the shitty end of the stick when medicine seems to have come up with a weight loss cure with no apparent side effects at the time my wife should have been getting gradually fatter at best or maintaining at worst.

>>81889 That is good, though seven years in, I believed that my wife was relatively accepting of her fatness too. I can sympathize what you are going through with respect to her being frustrated at being too fat to shop in stores. I know my wife would have been exactly that way too if she could not buy anything, and that would have no doubt motivated her to lose weight if that had ever happened (at least in more recent times - at one time it was hard to find size 30/32 in stores, and most of what they did have was pretty dowdy, but that changed probably 20+ years ago, I think because being that size in the 80s/90s was primarily for older women, but then in the 2000s or so, you started getting women in their 20s and 30s who were in that size range and they demanded better clothes). For me, it would have been SUCH a turn-on for her to need a mobility scooter, but I was a realist and knew that would never happen because if she ever started to need something like that, she would be going in for WLS lickety-split. I just hope your wife never discovers GLPs - or if she does, you cannot afford them. That is the problem for us, insofar as we can afford the $200 or so per month she spends on them. (And I don't foresee a future date when our finances would force her off them).

>>81890 Oh, and on the 600+ lb thing, I have always been very open with my preferences. She always knew that I wanted her to be fatter - back in the day, I would always say that the cure for whatever ailed her would be a thick layer of fat (e.g., she felt cold, so I would say that what she needed was a thicker layer of insulating fat) - and she knows the sort of porn I enjoy, cause I've shown it to her. And she asked once how big I would want her, and I was mostly honest and said about 500 lbs (cause I know that if I said 600+ lbs, that would have started an argument that I wanted to kill her), and she to this day will say that I will never get the 500 lb wife that I wanted. I am not sure whether sharing that was a good move or not. Even back in the day when I thought she was ok being fat, I knew that would never happen, and it was just a fantasy I could discuss, and she was willing to let me entertain the thought because she knew she would never let herself get that big. And this is one of the reasons why, while I do not regret marrying her, if I were to start all over again, knowing what I know now, I probably would have looked for someone different. Though, to be fair, back in the mid-90s, the options to find someone who was significantly larger than 300 lbs - and who was genuinely ok with it and would not object to getting bigger - were more limited, not just because women weren't as fat back then (I would posit that being young and 300+ lbs back then is comparable to being young and 400+ lbs today, in terms of availability), but also because we didn't have the internet to bring people from across the country together, so your dating pool was pretty much all local. That I met someone online was a rarity in 1995 - it was just at the beginning of online dating - and the "simple" fat woman who spent all day eating and who was not bright enough to care about the consequences really was not online at the time (cause it was both expensive to be online and you had to have a decent amount of smarts to even figure out how to get on the basic internet back then), so you had to somehow meet them locally, which was super-hard, as they generally did not want to go out.

>>81892 This is OP you replied to, sadly my wife is on the GLP1 which precipitated the thread.

>>81762 Dude, Jesus christ, get some help

>>81895 Have you considered other means of medical sabotage? There has to be an opposite medication that makes people eat more you could sneak her to balance out having pussed out in the GLP-1 plan.

>>81900 Please do not make someone take medication without their knowledge or consent, especially if they are currently on medication tha could negatively interact with their current stuff

>>81901 I don't know what considered medicine. AOC is taking ketamine therapy. I did my therapy and I have narcolepsy for the job and just need to sleep more and take care of myself as the schizophrenic.

>>81899 Trump is out living Chuck Norris, Muller despite being overweight and subsisting on McDonald's at 80. He's at the age conservatives drop dead but there's fear he'll live to 100 or 110. NYers already live to 100 but you know how glowies are keeping him alive on top of the line medicine.

>>81901 Shut up pussy. This guys fucking nice enough to share photos of his nearly immobile landwhale and you’re messing it up for the rest of us.

>>81908 He's right though. If OP loves this person, then that's a very wicked and unhinged thing to do, not to mention dangerous. Plus, doing so is a felony in many places.

>>81906 When did I even mention Trump? I said you need help, because you posted about volunteering with disenfranchised youth to see who you could potential groom and fatten up for your own pleasure, you fucking pedo

>>81915 I went back to narcolepsy because it's easier. I can only function for five hours. It also means I don't care about the news

>>81917 You mentioned schizophrenia in an earlier post, you may want to try and stick to yoyr med routine, and also go to bed

>>81915 > volunteering with disenfranchised youth to see who you could potential groom and fatten up for your own pleasure Trump would approve of this gameplan.

>>81919 I am still narcoleptic because it's easier than being normal. I am about to go to sleep. Mist of us autistics are going back to hobbies

>>81920 I am the far right disenfranchised thirties. There's nothing bad happening because it's very slow at my art. Even I plan on going in vacation soon instead and getting real OD

>>81891 >I am curious: is your wife losing courtesy of a GLP medication, or is she doing it the old fashioned weigh through diet and exercise? Both. She is slowly losing courtesy of a GLP tablet, but she can't tolerate a high dose so her weight loss is less. She's now out of the pre-diabetic danger zone, so at some point they'll maybe stop prescribing. She has no massive desire to be super skinny, and she knows she wouldn't stick to it if she got so small so being realistic and dieting if she hits a certain figure is her ultimate endgame. I like how she says she's going to stay 'an acceptable level of fat' as it puffs the wrinkles out and keep her looking young. I can relate to your born in the 60s scenario, though I was born late 70s no one was supersized until the early-2000s in the uk. Though I always dated busty chubby girls it wasn't until then that my desired size was seen. I also found that the fatter I dated, the fatter I then wanted. I downsized by dating my now wife, though I hadn't relationship dated in over a year as I felt like everyone I was meeting was mentally unstable or stargazing into a future together after a few dates, so I just stopped. All of a sudden this northern irish woman i'd known 10 years previously invites me to a social media site and once I saw her size we got talking, she came over with her job, we started dating and never split up. That's pretty much why when there's a thread like this I say get out there, learn to live with the fact your dick gets hard for fat and own it. Realistically you're not going to marry and have a 600lbs wife and grow old with her, so all these guys in their 20s, get your fat kicks in now.

>>81955 How do you deactivate her GLP injections? Does it help?

I feel everyone's pain. I had my first gf very late, due to a combination of being shy and introverted and not knowing many fat women. She knew I loved her size and she never even hinted at not liking being big. 2 years into our relationship, out of the blue she told me that she was getting lap band surgery a few weeks later. I felt defeated and betrayed. Here I was, after many years of waiting, I finally had my big gf and now she was getting a lapband, which was a hype at that moment. In the end, she did not loose a lot of weight, because she was constantly trying to cheat on her lapband. At hindsight, I should have suspected that she did not like being big, because she never told me how much she weighted, not before and not after the surgery and she never let me touch her belly. My 2nd gf told me on our 2nd or 3rd date that she was getting WLS a few weeks later. I told her that was very difficult for me, because I am totally not attracted to normal sized women, so that we could not be together, but it was already too late, she was a nice person and looked nice and I was already in love. We got together, and luckily for me, she did not loose a lot of weight and stayed above 250 lbs. The woman I have now been together with for more than 10 years made it very clear that she would never get WLS. As a doctor, she had seen how wrong that could go, so that was such a relief. She know that I like her big, but she also open that she would like to loose some. After the birth of our children, I could tell that she gained quite a lot of weight, but I never dared to suggest to weigh herself, because I knew the result would set her off to start loosing, so I quitely enjoyed what I had. At some point, the unavoidable came and she started on a weigtloss journey and lost from her high of 330 down to 260. I was not too concerned, because she was dong it by herself and genetics are against her, so eventually she regained to 300. Now she is loosing again. I support her to do it on her own, because now with the GLP-1's, the game has changed. So far, she has mainly been trying to find excuses not to jump on the GLP-1 train, because side effects and you need to be on it life long. She tells stories about how people she knows are so sick on them and then gain everything back when they stop due to side effects. But contrary to the WLS, she has not said that she will never take GLP-1s. She mentions them every now and then. I think she is waitng to see how it evolves and my concern is that she will start on them anyway, wehn she did not loose enough weight to her liking and the weight loss is stalling. So I am hoping that she can stay away from the GLP-1s and will stop at a point that is high enough for me, and low enough for her. With regards to everyone who shared their story above: I hope that you can learn to love what is left of whatever highest weight your women were. At least you have the memories of your wife being 385, 450 or even 600. I have come to terms that I will never experience the joys of a woman with a big hanging belly . It would be my ultimate dream of being with a woman the size of yours, but I am glad that I can already get off on a lower weight. If 400+lbs is the only thing that gets you going, it must be hard to see your women rapidly going below that.

>>81909 Can we stop always coming back at the OP for this. He vented his frustrations on his wife rapid's weight loss here, but he made it clear that he never actually wanted to do this. Why do you all keep on bringing this up over and over again?

>>81900 That is just plain ridiculous. If your partner is set on losing weight and somehow you find a way to sabotage her GLP - and setting aside how morally wrong that is, and how it will completely wreck your relationship when she finds out (which she will) - the doctor is just going to up her dose until she does start losing. Only way that you can expect them to stop the GLP diet is if evidence ever comes out to say that they are dangerous. And even then, having had success once, they'll really be searching for the next easy way to lose.

>>81955 You're lucky then with the lower dosage. As mentioned earlier, my wife already has lost the max predicted amount (25% of her body weight) and done so very quickly (40 weeks vs 70 weeks being the norm). Unfortunately, they are unlikely to stop prescribing. It is like blood pressure meds: they manage your blood pressure, but if you stop taking them, your blood pressure is going to shoot back up. Same with the blood sugar and other benefits: you stop taking the GLP, then they'll all go back up again. My wife says the same thing about never being thin, and she is likely right. But she is starting to look like a deflated balloon already, and she's still losing. At, say, 250 lbs - which would kill me as she has always been at least 100 lbs more than me and that would make her the same weight as me - she would still be fat, but she would look terrible. So it's not like I would find her still attractive, if less so. I already have lost my attraction to her, but if she wanted to have a tumble in bed, I would do it for her. But at 250, I doubt I would be pretending any more and would be like no way. Which is sad. You are about 10 years younger than me, so you were lucky to have hit the beginning of the super fat wave. You would have been in the same place as I was in 1995 in 2005, and that represents a huge difference in the BBW scene, going from fat acceptance starting to gain traction to the beginnings of fat positivity and women embracing their fat bodies. People too young to remember these things just cannot fathom the difference the internet made to the scene, and that ten years went from very basic internet - in fact, I had not seen a pic of my wife until I flew out to meet her (digital pics were a real rarity at the time and consumed huge amounts of very slow download time) - with very few people online (or who even had a computer that would let them get online) to the mid 2000s, when computers were very common and internet access was pretty easy (with many more digital pics available), in addition to the greater acceptance of very fat bodies. I always knew the day would come when I would lose my attraction to my wife. I just figured it would not be for another ten years when we were in our mid-sixties, and at a point where I would probably be fine with not being sexually active (and maybe she might have got even fatter in the meantime due to age and a slowing metabolism). And that is really depressing.

>>81977 I feel for you my friend! If her bloodwork gets to the point where she needs to do something - in particular her blood sugars - then she is likely to take the GLPs. My wife was always anti-WLS due to the dangers of that surgery, but I was not sure that she would refuse it forever (which is why I both wanted and did not want her to get bigger than 400 lbs, cause much like the number of her weight has the power to turn me on or turn me off, seeing that 4 in front of her weight would have been huge for her and could have driven her to get the surgery). But the point became moot with tirzepatide, which she suggests has no side-effects, and honestly, I can hardly find any either (and if you do have any, they usually start early on, and even then, they tend to go away after using for a while). I wish my wife was doing it on her own, as then at least I could live in the hope that she would at some point get tired of dieting and bounce back, even if not to where she started losing. And you are right about being to enjoy the memories of someone being as big as they were at their peak. Logically, I know that is how I should feel. But it is tough having spent a good chunk of our married life wishing she could be bigger because of what else I saw out there, and it was tough to come to terms with knowing I would never have my dream. But I could always content myself with "at least I have a very fat wife to enjoy". I think that is why it is so much harder to deal with this, as not only do I have to give up on the dream, but I also have to give up on what made not having the dream tolerable. And, to be honest, I am middle aged, and facing other disappointments in life, in terms of seeing dreams/life goals becoming clearly unachievable (kids I love no longer needing me like they used to; my career hit a setback about 9 years ago and has not recovered, and at this point won't ever get me where I thought I would be at this age, let alone what I would consider ideal). Before, I always had at least I had a loving wife who I thought was hot to make everything better, but now even that is gone. I still love her, but it's not the same not lusting after her as well. (Plus I gotta say she has gotten pretty assertive/intolerant lately: my politics have been always different than hers, and that is ok with me, but a couple months back I thought she was going to divorce me when she found out how I voted in the last Presidential election. Like she was insanely angry about it. This is what I meant by assertive - I don't mean like I only want a submissive woman, but she won't let sleeping dogs lie and wants to discuss things that are not helpful because we won't agree and it shouldn't matter to our relationship that we don't. And frankly, she is becoming a shrill feminist on these things, and is blaming men for every ill that exists in the world. That intolerance is what really worries me in our relationship, cause I don't know when she'll decide she needs to know something and then blow up about it.) I am sure some young guy is (or many are) going to be thinking "what a pussy", but wait, you'll get here too.

Oh, and another thing I find sad: the number of fat models who are starting to lose. People who were at the forefront of the young SSBBW - and then USSBBW - movement who are now getting to the point that they want to lose. You know that at some point the fattening has got to stop for health reasons, but that does not mean that it is any less disappointing when it does and they start losing. Like BigCutie Trysta or BBWSweetPeaOkla or BBWAdeline (RIP) or now Jae. It's depressing seeing this happen and knowing that things are not going to just keep getting better and better.

Man I wish we were able to edit our posts! :D The other thing I meant to mention that makes this problematic is I don't know how much I can trust my wife when she says she has no goal on how much she will lose and that losing is merely incidental. She has always been very goal focused, and while I have no doubt that reducing the blook sugar and other numbers is the main goal, I don't think I really believe her when she claims the weight loss is merely incidental and not part of her plan. (I particularly am less inclined to trust her given all she has said about why she felt so traumatized about being fat - that and being a woman seems to be the things that she claims are holding her back, which is rich coming from a woman who earns a LOT of money in a very responsible position, even though she does seem to have hit a ceiling - and together with her losing more weight than would seem "normal" with the drugs makes it seem impossible to me that she would not be using the drugs for weight loss, no matter what she claims.)

>Date girl with the same body type as Alex Storm >285 when we start dating >Always has been part of the body positivity movement >Eventually weighs 325 >Sex is amazing. >EVERYTHING is amazing >Never even considers losing weight; against GLP-1 for several reasons >Pill form of GLP-1 becomes available >Immediately starts taking it >Down 10 pounds in 4 weeks. >Claims not to have a goal weight; tries to downplay it as not a very effective medication >Literally eats 1/4 what she normally does I'm trying not to be weird about it, but I'm privately hyperventilating over the thought of not being attracted to her anymore and I feel awful for being like this.

>>82040 FWIW, I feel exactly like you. Not sure that helps much, but do know you are not alone. It shakes you to your core, knowing that someone you love is making themselves unattractive to you. And that they do not care, preferring their own affirmation and those of society to their partner. It truly is horrid.

>>78709 For fucks sake, don't be evil Most women care more about their social appearance than you ever would and they think that they'll just get universal applause for losing weight. Meanwhile, their partner, who is dating them in part because they are fat, is just going to lose attraction to them. This is often mortifying and something they don't even consider half the time Yes, this is a wife, but you need to make it clear that you're not going to be attracted to her if she loses so much weight. The ball is in her court, she can do what she wants, its her life, but ultimately you need to be prepared for a dead bedroom and a collapsing marriage over this. YOU also need to be prepared to follow through on this. You're not attempting manipulation, you're letting her know that you have a desire for her and that will in part diminish if she keeps doing it. Itll probably break your marriage, but thats on her.

>>82070 Shut up faggot she’s not going to fuck you for white knighting. Nothing the OP said he’d do was that bad and frankly we’re all rooting for him to pull it off and get her bigger.

>>82070 You're not wrong. Just the willingness to walk away from what is otherwise a good marriage on a point of principle, even if she is in the wrong, is damn hard. And to be fair, it is her body and she has to live in it. Which is the conundrum I face, and there is blame to go around on all sides: I am expecting her to live in a body 24/7 just to fulfill my fantasies, but she is expecting me to be happy that she is destroying a big part of what makes me love her and that, frankly, had she told me early on in our relationship what she told me now, namely that she hated her body and wanted to lose, I would have ended the relationship then and there so that I could find someone to be my life partner whose beliefs were more in line with mine.

>>82077 Why are you being evil? >>82086 We all make shit decisions, you need to decide whether you're going to deal with that or leave.

>>82086 Exactly this fat whore knew what she was doing. You really think some Chan loser is the first FA to tap her fat ass? This guy wins the award for falling for it. Now she has this beta losers support and health insurance to lose weight. She’s your wife, it’s your choice to support her weight loss or support your own sex life. But she knew what she was doing.

>>82096 Say you are single without saying you're sungle

>>82099 Beta cuck. What’s it like wifing up some roast beef to have her use your resources to lose weight?

>>82103 Feels good to feel the touch of another, thanks. You'll know that when you get caught for medical tampering, and put in prison, dumbass

>>82099 Kisame here. Why bother with fetish art when Mandami can make mukbangs for free?

>>82122 Medical fatties don't last long especially when NYC is cutting NYU stuff. They just averted a strike. Let's face it RFK and Mandani are the new mukbangs. Especially now Miami and Daytona are killing spring break

>>82096 Dude doesn't know what he is talking about. My health insurance won't pay for this - most won't unless it is prescribed due to existing diabetes (being pre-diabetic is not enough). And even if it did, being with me for nearly 30 years and gaining 90 lbs in the process makes this one of the worst ways ever to get someone to pay for their weight loss. Plus, she earns about 70% of our household income, I can pretty safely say that she is paying for it herself. (Only thing I feel cucked about is that I probably would be acting somewhat differently if the financial roles were reversed and I didn't have quite as much to lose.)

>>82160 Have you thought of other ways to advocate for yourself pharmacologically? Apetamin is pretty easy to get drug that’s supposed to be good ant increasing appetite. It contains cyproheptadine, lysine, and vitamins. Nothing to hard to get and sneak in her food, I’m sure she’s eating all the time anyway

>>82160 Health Insurance is being denied because the president slashed funding for the grants to pay for the military budget. There's also a doctor shortage combined with the economy. The market reset back to 2000s with mortality rates. I am pre-diabetic.

>>81842 Its funny that this post could work for a woman getting fat or skinny. Also if u need to be physically attracted to your wife by keeping her trapped in a layer of fat, break up.

>>81842 > Do I still wish that she had hit 500 lbs and stayed there, even if it meant we had less time to spend together and she had mobility issues? Tough, but if you were to ask me what I felt in my heart of hearts, I would have to answer yes. (And I would have been ok us both getting really fat and happy, even if that shortened my life, but that is another story. Bottom line is that I value quality over quantity, even though in this case it is the volume of our bodies that I characterize as "quality" of our lives (and quantity would be the length of our lives).) what you've just said...is one of the most insanely autistic things I've ever heard. At no point in your rambling incoherent response, were you close to anything, that could considered an empathetic thought, everyone in this room is now less human for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may god have mercy on your soul. >>82173 > It’s funny that this post could work for a woman getting fat or skinny. Well, except for the part where he wished his wife an early death and tampered with her medication to try to cause her further disease and disablement.

>>81842 I haven't read the other responses to this post so I might be repeating other people here, but in general, if there's something that would have been a dealbreaker before you got together, regardless of the specifics of what that thing actually is... you should probably get divorced. 30 years is a big investment, but I still think you would be much, MUCH happier if you left her. Even if there wasn't a dealbreaker like that in place without you knowing about it though, I still think you would be way happier if you get divorced. Like, infinitely happier. We're men we can't help but follow our instincts, like breathing and sleeping we have no choice but to value attraction in romantic relationships. Maybe it's a flaw of the gender, maybe not but that's beside the point. The point is, you will never be attracted to her again. It's just not going to happen. And that's including even IF she gains weight, which will almost certainly not happen. So you can make that compromise, give up that whole part of life (being attracted to your romantic partner), and grow old together, and if you think the net happiness is worth that sacrifice then that's your decision. But you're posting here for advice so my advice is, dude it sucks but you will be happier if you leave her. Okay I read the other responses, yeah they're about as unhelpful as I thought they'd be. Get the divorce, move on, be happy again. You deserve a woman who loves herself completely.

>>82183 Actually I misread like half the responses and they aren't unhelpful at all. I'm just dyslexic and stupid and can't read lol. People are being helpful which is good. You'll be happier when you leave her man seriously

>>82173 Easier said than done (breaking up). Firstly, when you have been together more than half your life, there's more than her being fat that keeps us together. Then there's the lack of alternatives. If I thought I could move on and find a loving 500+ pound behemoth who was happy to stay that way, hang the consequences, then maybe I would leave. But they are incredibly hard to find - unlike what some of the incels here seem to think - and I am at a point in life where I cannot just move and start all over again. And even if I did find someone better, who's to say that in a few years I don't find myself in the same situation all over again and have someone who feels the need to lose for medical reasons? It used to be that you could pretty much count on women who lack the willpower to not get huge are pretty much stuck that way, with the only easy way out being WLS, and that had its own dangers that made it undesirable for them, so they stayed heavy but maybe only lost a bit, or they lost a bunch and then gained it back. But now the GLPs make it so easy for anyone to lose massive amounts of weight, because it both stimulates weight loss and turns off the voice inside them that drives them to eat, and as long as they stay on it, they keep off the weight. So it's not worth trying to find something better when I still do mostly love her, just don't lust after her.

>>82163 How the hell do you come up with these ideas? That is banned in the U.S. and I am a middle-class white guy, so how the hell would I know how to procure something like that (and not get caught in some sting operation). And while I would be willing to do something to counteract the GLPs, I don't want to secretly give her something that could make her sick and potentially die (other than maybe an excess of food - lol).

>>82184 There's two factors - in addition to mostly loving her still - that keep me in place. One is that I don't want to mess up my relationship with my sons. They are young adults and still live at home, and even if they did not, there's not really a good way to spin this story that would not make me look like a heel. (I mean, other than for FA's, who is going to think a guy is noble for leaving his wife because she lost weight for health reasons?) Same goes for our mutual friends, as in ones that are close enough to her for her to tell them the reason we broke up. So it's more than her I would be losing. And the other thing is she holds the golden leash - she makes a shit-ton of money, so I would be giving up a nice lifestyle if I moved out on my own. That one is less of an issue, and I know that I would be happier in a lower income relationship (not low income - I still make decent money myself and have good benefits) with someone who was fat and happy. But there is no guarantee that I would meet someone else (and a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush), and I would rather live a sexless life with someone I love but am (physically) turned off by than all alone, alienated from my sons. It's a shitty dilemma!

>>82209 Dude you are literally giving up the perfect woman wtf

>>82209 I see. I may have missed it, but I don't think you mentioned having 2 sons with her yet. If I had known that, I wouldn't have suggested divorce. Yeah, it's a really shitty situation. Unless you undergo like intensive therapy to reshape your sexual preferences and don't need fat for arousal anymore.... it's looking like the physical aspect of romance is in the rearview mirror for you. That sucks. I wish you the best with everything

>>82208 > I am a middle-class white guy Why do you lie? There’s no was you’re middle class with some retarded behemoth of woman with no self control because of childhood “trauma” that’s totally not rape… OK buddy, if you say so.

>>82210 > Dude you are literally giving up the perfect woman wtf No offense she sounds like a cunt and this guy sounds like a pussy no on could ever like. Both people sound miserable with each other and themselves, there’s no love in this relationship and I can’t imagine what it feels like to build a life with someone you’re only with for superficial reasons.