>>80819
My in laws are very friendly people and we get along very well. In a lot of south east Asian cultures they are very blunt about telling people they are overweight (especially women). Even before I met my wife her mum and some of her extended family used to comment on her being overweight at 5'2" and 60kg, saying she'll never get a husband and she doesn't look very attractive. The first time I met one of her aunties was a couple years after we were together and she just straight asked me "why are you are you with [my wife], she is so fat?". The conversation basically continued with her being genuinely shocked that I could possibly find her attractive at all, then she started showing me pictures of my wife when she was a teenager commenting "look how thin and beautiful she is". I always explain that I love my wife and she is very beautiful, but they just cant seem to process that information. I think if I ever tried to tell them we both enjoy my wife's size and actively try to make her fatter then their minds would melt.
They never seem to accuse me of fattening her up however, it's always my wife's fault that she got so fat. We've talked about it a lot because I'm always concerned she gets upset with the constant comments and judgement. Her response is that it doesn't bother her because no matter how thin she got they would just fond something else to criticise. For me it seems like a very toxic culture and/or family dynamic but I don't concern myself with it because its unlikely to change. She's since moved to the UK and we're both happy, we only see her family once or twice a year after she's gained another few kilos.