>>87584 Dude, you're a gigantic faggot holy hell lmao

>>87584 You should go for the girl that you are most compatible with, on all fronts. Feedism can be part of that, but should not be the only aspect. Having said that, from a purely feedism perspective, I would go with the current gf: she is already chubby,you mention she is fully in it and has gained already 40 lbs. Therefore she certainly has the potential already. You're 18, so I suppose you are not living together yet. Once you live together for sure it is going to be easy to add some more relationship weight to that and even more when you would get married etc. The online girl is really skinny, so far all you know she may have a crazy metabolism and have difficulties gaining, or maybe she will not like it when she starts, or her idea of gaining is only 10 lbs or so. No guarantee of success. Of course, it is different if the relation with your current gf is already at a dead end. But if not, I would go with her.

I’ve (34M) been seeing someone (32F) for about 3-4 months. This is a long distance thing which works out for me but only for the moment as my career is getting to a point where I’ll have some decent financial stability and be closer to 6 figures. At that point I will want to get closer to this person. This wasn’t already super feasible though as she has $150k in student loans she wants to work through and things are kind of up in the air on her end in that regard. My lease ends in just short of a year and she was living about 3-4 hours away. This was fine for a short time because she also was willing to get hotels and whatnot the three times she’s visited me which I do appreciate and see the value in her doing. I have visited her twice already as well. I just got my CCNA and I’m currently studying for my AZ-104 for cloud engineering and my resume is good and I just need to apply for more jobs right now. I have a job and I work full time but I could get a lot better. Needless to say, my life is about to launch in a big way. She is: Funny Pretty (7/10, if she was thinner and grew her hair out a bit maybe an 8) Charming Good spirited Smart A good listener Spiritual Loyal Kinda hot not super duper but gets the job done, she’s kinda chubby rn but nothing too crazy, she does put forth an effort in taking hot pics for me and does vore RP decently well though Friendly Even tempered And as time has gone on I’ve been wanting to get closer to her and spend more time together as she is extremely romantic and I like that and want to give that a try. She just got a DUI. She will Maybe lose her nursing license Lose her current job Already totaled her car So I’m going to see her less for the foreseeable future. It was already starting to get difficult as we started to get closer. I hadn’t seen her in several weeks and hadn’t had sex in like a month or so it seemed. She’s a really nice girl. Dating is fucking horrible. The apps are dogshit. Meeting people just doesn’t happen, my town is a major city but finding wife material is a laughable Sisyphean endeavor. Anyone remotely worth my time doesn’t live in my city. It makes me sad to think that I should have to hold out for this. It was worth it pre-DUI and kind of romantic in a way to have longing for someone but now that shine is gone and what was something I would pine for is now another object of stress and something I just have to deal with on the side. It’s shitty now and I just feel really like blindsided by it. My mom tells me to stick it out but my mom really doesn’t know shit about relationships. Also for as much as I like my girlfriend she talks a lot which is typically a good thing that I like but I mean like she doesn’t shut up. And though she’s pretty she doesn’t really super do it for me. I’m not like obsessed with her. Am I in love with her? No Do I love her? She’s a sweetheart and maybe I could if we got closer but this is pulling us further apart. I mean there’s a lot to love and it’s a little hard to say but like idk, the last time I went to see her it was dinner with her, her sister, her sisters boyfriend. I just sat there as her and her sister yapped the whole time. To make matters worse, as we were leaving I saw her sisters body and big swollen hanging belly and pretty big ass…. Really bummed me out tbh I’m getting older sure but like the thought that I should really fight hard and waste like 6m to a year for something I’m not super into because I’m getting older just doesn’t sit right with me. It’s a very depressing thought. I’m 5’9”, in shape not washboard abs but thin in the hot way, industrial/gothy style but like cool, heavily tattooed, doing not great but not terrible and about to be doing well and buying a house in the next year or so, I think I’m a really cool guy in terms of what I bring to the table in lived experiences I’ve been on tour and signed to a record label, most people seem to like me, I have friends, I’m interesting, I am romantic, I’m generous in the sack and out of the sack too, I would say I’m like a 6/10 as a guy which my personality makes up for the rest of the way kinda. Yeah the hairline is receding a bit and I have some grays coming in but I’m not like some hideous piece of shit who can’t pull women. Even if I was I’d rather be alone. My last LTR I stuck around way longer than I should have and it was a disaster. I don’t want to make the same mistake twice. I’m afraid of wasting time. To be fair, I hesitate to throw this relationship away because she is very special but she really done fucked herself right now. Also despite her being special I don’t feel like… the spark. I don’t feel like excitement or butterflies and I know as you get older that shit goes away but like yeah I don’t feel even like stoked to hear from her or anything. Sometimes a little bit like hardly at all but it was a lot better before the DUI. Thoughts?

>>86372 Who do I ask to add ban reasons and warnings? I get posts taken down and myself banned so often literally everywhere it'd be nice to know why.

I've been married for 10 years to an SSBBW but her weight is now being a problem. I still find her hot as fuck, but I want to travel, have kids. She tried ozempic but came off it after getting ill and every time I come home from work there are cakes, cookies, chips etc. Thinking about getting a divorce.

>>88409 Damn, I want to hear more. There's never enough discussion about being that size 10+ years on, it's always when they're huge but still in their 20s living on borrowed time

Been living with my girlfriend for just about a year now but thinking about breaking up. Her depression and sudden mood swings are just too much and I often feel like there’s nothing I can do to keep her happy. She takes fairly good care of herself, is on antidepressants, sees a therapist, but frankly I don’t know if any of that makes a difference lately. I’m just tired of being dragged down in it with her even though I love the person she is on her good days.

>>88438 Honest question: Have you tried talking to her about your feelings? Just dropping the breakup onto her is not going to do y'all any good, I fear.

>>88439 You are absolutely correct and I should state that it’s not my intent to drop it on her without warning. Admittedly I have been struggling with telling her how I feel lately for fear of making her depression worse. Working with my therapist on that but it’s been a slow process.

>>88441 Honestly I don't think there's an ideal way to break the news to her, but if I were you I'd not lead with negativity or even the threat of leaving her, but rather have an open and honest conversation about her feelings in general. Like, idk "How your depression been lately?" to ultimately lead to her recording her thoughts about the mood swings and you twerking her that you don't know for how much longer you can handle those etc. Trying to establish common grounds and not devolving into the typical you vs me bullshit, but rather y'all realizing some stuff together and working to together though the depression (I a meaningfully different/improved was from whatever y'all being doing until now...)

>>88441 If you want a very fat partner, some mental health changes are part of the deal. Dunno if it's worth it for you, but perfect mental stability doesn't lead to a hundred plus pounds of extra fat. Navigating some bullshit is part of the package.

>>86400 Yes. We had a marine arrtty guy who is a violent, racist bpd patient who harasses people on the site for being poor, and says they're beneath him.

>>88409 Stay with her lad.

>>88441 You not from Ohio are you? Not a joke I just wanted to know for my own reasons

>>86953 Ask her to marry you

>>86683 Lol yes

>>87551 Dude you sound like a bpd patient. Jae iis an abuse victim with bipolar. She is being bullied by horny entitled creeps when she left the scene.

I cannot read, write, or even create art my existence is not of daydream. I enter summer in the sense of malady as I need assistance with the bills and withdrew from society. I am watching the golf games with my job reducing my pay to roughly three days. I watched Masters of the Universe and it's a long droll film. I ate the fried apple pie from McDonald's and miss being able to cook. I plan on going back to watching movies.

>>86953 Sunken cost fallacy: https://asana.com/resources/sunk-cost-fallacy

>>87612 This guy is right.

>>87621 Hopefully this was cathartic to write out. I hate to say it, but you don’t really seem that truly into this girl. Even DUI aside, it seems like she only half checks the boxes for you—you’re just tired of trying to date. That’s just not a good reason to stick it out with someone who isn’t a good match. Go get the job that pays well and challenges you. Get some nice clothes, a good haircut, and decent cologne—whatever makes you feel confident in your own skin. Get out with friends more and don’t hesitate to introduce yourself to any cute fat chicks you’re lucky enough to encounter. Or, do like me, and go to a conference about something I care passionately about and pick out the cutest fat chick there and wind up falling in love.

>>88558 Don’t!

>>88409 If you can’t handle that, you should not have married a SSBBW and then dump her like trash! Support her in her weight loss instead of divorcing her.

>>88409 >>88556 >>88683 I agree 100% with this, you should stay with her instead of divorcing her. You married her because you loved her so much and you even started a family with her. You shouldn’t throw 10 years of a marriage just because she’s starting to lose weight. Be there for her and continue to love her with all of your heart. Don’t leave behind everything, I recommend staying with her.

does anyone have any advice for fat girls?

>>88694 that's a very broad question

People complaining about my schizo rambling but Trump spent a hour talking.

Hey everyone! My life has been a little boring lately. Recently, my girlfriend and I went on vacation to Destin, Florida, to figure out where I’d like to live down there. Most of the apartments we visited were fine, but there was one that truly astonished me. It was so shocking to learn that this complex didn’t have ceiling fans in some of their units—that shit blew my mind. We are in Florida, right by the equator; how the fuck do you not have fans? Lmao. I was excited to tour that complex because my boss recommended it since he used to live in the area. The Destin/Fort Walton Beach area is beautiful. There's not much to do, but honestly, I don’t get out much anyway. I don’t have any close friends who live near me currently—all of my friends still live in our hometown—so I mainly just stick to my hobbies. I spend my time playing Helldivers 2, bouldering, going to the range, and hanging out with my girlfriend and dogs. I think some people would find that sad, but honestly, I enjoy my nice, simple life. I only say this because my girlfriend has family in the area, and when they asked what I do for fun, it made me realize, “Damn, I have no friends. Oh well.” While I was down there, I got to meet my new supervisors and had a chance to figure out what I’ll be doing. It wasn’t what I initially expected, but ultimately, it’ll be better for my career progression to do different jobs instead of just sticking to what I’m already good at. Spending quality time with my girlfriend was great. We saw all the apartments we wanted early on in our weeklong trip, so the rest of the time was spent going out to eat and shopping. Unfortunately, we didn’t get to hit the beach until our last day since it rained so often.We still had a great time, and I definitely couldn’t be happier seeing my girlfriend eat whatever I put in front of her. She’s not into feedism, but she knows I love fat women, and she doesn’t seem to be in a rush to lose weight. One night, I said, “Fuck it, let’s get two meals each from Chick-fil-A,” lol—we definitely pigged out. Spending so much time with her was amazing. I really want to start a family with her. She’s a little hesitant because she never imagined being a mother. I don’t plan on getting her pregnant anytime soon, but hopefully we’re in a good place 3–5 years from now where we can

>>88720 it is. sorry about that. I think I just want to vent. I’m in a really weird place. I used to be huge (around 320 lbs maybe? I never really wanted to weigh myself) and lost around 100 in late 2023 after the stress of a mild health scare (weird skin thing that turned out to be eczema) and then breaking up with my then-boyfriend. I’ve been fat for most of my life and I don’t hate it, but I don’t love it either. I don’t like feeling my stomach tucked away under leggings. I’m still trying to lose weight. I don’t wanna be skinny. I dream of being a bottom-heavy bimbo. my goal weight is 155 lbs. I’m currently a top hourglass (?) at 215ish lbs. experimenting with diets and I think low-carb works for me and my excess androgens - about to get on spironolactone (privately, the NHS is a joke when it comes to women’s healthcare), PMDD and fibromyalgia - which interestingly developed after the first wave of weight loss. I wish the architect threads were brought back so I could talk to people about my goals in-depth. I heard frozen bovine ovary was good for tiddies. I’m kinda saggy now lol. also trying to get my hands on relaxin and try heavyweight lower body exercises to see if I can build my hips more (widen the ilium ideally.) also gonna have to do something about the loose skin. anyway. I don’t know why I’m here. whispering into the void. maybe I’m lonelier than I want to admit. it’s reassuring knowing there are people into fat women, even if I don’t want to be fat anymore. and I’m not as fat as I used to be. I’m just living the intermission right now.

>>88886 If this isn't a larp, you are in the wrong place. This is a forum full of degenerates objectifying fat. The underlying person is secondary and discarded when the inevitable weight loss occurs. Your current size is near the floor is what's of interest.

>>88888 …why would it be a larp? are you trying to bait me into posting pics? does nobody here like mid-sized women?

>>88891 215 is pretty small. 155 is downright skinny. I don’t think anyone here would refer to you as midsize.

>>88894 but I’m 215 and I feel huge?

>>88896 Don’t make me repeat myself

>>88900 okay, so I’m “small” but guys on here like “small” women with big boobs and/or butt, the latter being what I’d like for myself. I just have to get there. sigh.

>>88917 It's funny you think we like small women here. Honestly, a diabetic at a candy convention would be less out of place.

>>88919 am I being gaslit? how am I small?

>>88921 Me no likey migrants

>>88921 Dont listen to the retard. Some people here will claim you are bordering anorexic if you aren't almost immobile. You have lovely boobs btw.

>>88924 I don’t really like em outside of a bra and want a lift at some point but thank you hehe

>>88925 Well let's see em. Some of us love tits.

>>88921 You baited yourself into posting a picnic one asked for

>>88921 Hips smaller than shoulders… too small for your frame. That body is built to be twice your size.

>>88921 >>88886 You look really nice! I do hope you will be able to reach the goals you want to achieve, always as you being comfortable with yourself and your body, I also wish you to have a good life ma’am! While I don’t know much about you, you seem like a very nice person and I know with enough effort and dedication, you will achieve the things you want to achieve!

Moments like this I’m embarrassed about my peers. You got some bloke so worried you’re a “migrant” so he can’t even hear your question, and another dude who has whatever “body dysmorphia for other people” is. Go you. You’re fat. You’re gorgeous. Go get ‘em.

>>86372 I probably won't post lewds here. maybe not until I've had my lift. >>88934 I was gonna post a body pic anyway ̄\_(ツ)_/ ̄ >>88935 yeah and it sucks. I don't think my actual hip bones are narrower than my shoulders, it's just this fuckass fat placement ;-; >>88939 thank you! maybe I'll make a thread when I have updates further along the way. >>88950 to be honest the "migrant" thing made me giggle. I love how it's being used as a catch-all for anyone not white in England. I'd rather just be called a slur (since that's probably what the person saying it really wants to do.) my family have been in England since the 60s (if not before) and have fought on behalf of this country but clearly I must've just come here yesterday because my skin is brown. alright Connor I'll get back on the dinghy xx even if I had to do the going-back-to-where-my-ancestors-are-from stuff my time would be split between Scandinavia, Portugal and East Africa. pretty inconvenient tbh and regarding that other guy. even if I wanted to gain (I don't really) I'd probably have to fix the hormonal stuff before attempting. and do something about all this sag. if I was one of those pear-shaped goddesses who managed to have a skinny face and amazing hair at pretty much any size I wouldn't mind being bigger. I don't always feel gorgeous but I'll try to be nicer to myself, thank you (ꈍ ꒳ ꈍ✿)

>>88896 Why are you here?

>>88961 Again you don't want to be here. You're getting two responses: 1. Degenerates calling you names and giving honest answers about wanting you too fat for life 2. Degenerates saying what you want to hear, in hopes your vulnerability will lead to regaining the lost weight. Some of them are excellent at this. Sharks with fricking laser beams. L Run girl. While you still can.

>>88968 There is a third type of person here as well. Those of us that just love fat chicks. Zero fucks given about gain or loss.

>>88974 And I’m just someone trying to be positive and kind to people the best I can. I just want to be nice to people.