I fully intend on taking this secret to the grave

I mean it's not something I tell people but it's not something I hide either. Most people are too busy with their own lives to care too much about you anyways. The previous 3 girls I've dated have all been short, fat blondes my own age & ethnicity, then one of my closest friends wants to introduce me to this girl who he thinks I'm gonna like.. she's a significantly younger tall skinny girl with dyed read hair from a completely different place in the world???

Is like autism and special interest, you like something it but you know it will bore people or make you feel weird because is out of the norm. I'm happy just enjoying it by myself with the casual online discussion/conversation.

Not really. As a bigger guy my partners have all been bigger women so people don't bat an eye when they see us together

>>54272 There's this real big dude in my hometown, and we've dated at least 3 of the same 300+ pound girls No idea if he's got the fetish or if he's just really into looksmatching, I guess that's at least the bonus of being a fat guy if you're insecure about it.

Most people who know me well have figured out I'm an FA and I've told a few outright. Though I admit I've downplayed just how far my preferences go. I'm not proud but I find it embarassing to admit 350+ lb women turn me on. To me that's where "preference" edges into "fetish," and most people don't share their fetishes with anyone but their intimate partners. And anonymous freaks like you guys lol. The outright fetish aspects — WG and feedism — are strictly confidential. I've never shared them with anyone IRL, even LTRs. Not just out of embarassment but because I think they're sadistic and morbid and I don't want to be thought of as a sadistic or morbid person.

Well yeah, specially since am on the feedee side of things. Iveen in this fetish since i was like 13 or 12 (although i already had a serious weight issue) and i have grown stupidly obese over time, they cant fuckin know iveen gaining on purpouse, they tried to get me to diet so many times and to get into excersize to no avail. Hell, i used to join /fit/ servers to get off their mockery and from getting tired after a 2 minute walk. Had they known im this obese for such a dumb reason they probably would have been more strict, maybe. I dont know if theid understand these days, they are sorta open minded and they love me enough to still not putting any limits to my gluttony, maybe they would if i avoided talking about it as a fetish and instead did so as some plus size body liberation thing?

>>54402 Are you male or female?

>>54402 How much do you weigh?

>>54414 female >>54415 a shitload

>>54310 Exactly the same for me. I have only had big girlfriends, so if people should have figured it out by now. Told some people (and my gf’s) that I love big girls. Not told anyone just how big I like them, that’s none of their business. I also don’t need to hear what they like in the bedroom.

>>54402 Do you think anyone in your social circles has ever suspected anything about the reason behind your gains? Or on the servers, for that matter?

>>54422 Can you put that into a more precise number?

bro i just came back to this thread wtf are y'all doing

>>54226 I'm married to an SSBBW, but I told her my parents are dead so she doesn't ask to meet them, and I play a sort of asexual/closeted gay act around my parents so they don't ask questions about why I'm still "single". I'm taking this shit to the grave.

>>54531 Nice LARP.

>>54531 if true, i feel sorry for you. a grown "man" so terrified of his parents he's a living and walking lie... sad, disgusting and off-putting... these words come to my mind when i think of people like you. i feel even more sorry for you wife, she deserves a better partner than the cowardly wimp you are. maybe the baseness of the majority of humans will never cease to baffle me? what a world. if bait, well played sir

>>54534 Couldn’t agree more. I couldn’t be more proud to be married to my wife, who is both a SSBBW and the most beautiful woman I’ve ever known. To be so ashamed of her to lie about your parents being dead…wtf are you even married to her? Disgusting.

>>54535 I'm guessing it's a larp too, and yes, I too married a woman who veered into SSBBW category for a while but now is staying around 300 for health and mobility. I've never outright said to anyone, but they must have known. I've been lucky enough to have been in a few relationships who actually liked being fat and they clearly got the message. Ultimately it's your life, live it how you want it. If you like fat girls, date fat girls. Just don't be an ass to them and treat them well.

>>54540 >If you like fat girls, date fat girls Easier said than done. But I agree with the sentiment. Grow the fuck up.

>>54482 somewhere around 580 or 590 lbs not kilos, if that wasnt clear.

>>54551 pls dont get any ideas tho, im a huge degenerate and amnt looking to do porn

>>54544 The 'easier said that done' is all in your head. It's your own determination to be public about who you like. Be brave enough to date who you like. It's really not that fucking hard, it's not like telling your parents you're gay, you're just saying this is the type of girl I want to be with. Then when you're really connected you might find she puts on 100lbs just by being comfortable with you. The getting off on 600lbs models, that's just for me and my SDD, no one else needs to know that.

>>54559 What I meant by “easier said than done” was more in reference to actually finding fat girls to date.

All the girls I have dated have been chubby. Nobody that huge. Perhaps I am the outlier here, but I think there's more satisfaction and better results if you date somebody chubby and fatten them up. Dating somebody who is 350 pounds feels like all the work has already been done, lol.

>>54580 You’re assuming the end goal is 350 pounds 🤣 some of us are shooting for much higher son

I hide the weird feederism part, but do not hide liking fat chicks

>>54581 Keep up with god's work, good job. I once seriously dated a 500lbs girl, she was the one who really outted my preference, being young and having the fucking crazy notion of career advancement I fucked that relationship up. I didn't actually introduce her to any family and had different friends by way of living away from my hometown. Stuff I could openly do and be encouraged by her to do sexually that just never got done since. That girl sure loved her fat.

>>54580 yeah ngl, amnt even a feedee, more like a foodie, i dont wanna gain any more, and im lowkey trying to lose some (and sorta failing, but slowint down the gains enough). Tho i think at my size i already eat enough food to enjoy the act of feeding, its just i wouldnt see the aprt of progressigely putting on more weight. I wish i still had some ground to get fhubbier without becoming immobile, maybe if i conntinue to put on muscle under the flab ill be able to gain 100 more (thatf be overkill ngl, but its not so impossible) >>54593 what a tragedy anon, i hope you find another landwhale some day

Never told my friends/family my actual kinks. They just know I've fucked a few fat girls but they've never met any of the really big ones between 300 and the high 500's. I used to cycle between being in a relationship with a conventionally attractive girl, losing interest, downloading dating apps and banging a bunch of fatties, then getting in another relationship with a normal looking one again. Friends and family only met the serious ones, so no ssbbws. Biggest they met was maybe 240. But the current actual relationship is pretty good, she checks all my boxes without being a whale, which is fine because she has a super thick ass. That's enough for me to hang onto lol

>>54601 I did, my post above re marrying is me, mobile data is changing my IP each post. >>54604 Pretty similar to many of us I guess. My wife hovers around 300-320, I won the lottery with her, she is much fatter than her weight suggests, and she doesn't really diet til she gets to 350 so she's often a little bigger in winter. She's borderline 3x to 4x in size, on account of huge breasts.

>>54601 I'd say you still count as a feedee even if you're not actively gaining, if you still enjoy stuffing yourself and fantasize about getting bigger and such. Though putting on muscle does sound like a good idea, especially at that kind of size

So after being straight up called out by a family friend on my preference for fat women a couple of days ago I feel like it's time to list some notable events and how much people in my life might have been able to figure out. Quick background info on me: I'm a 23 yo male (5ft 8, 135lbs) socially awkward and never had any romantic relationships happen. 3 years ago after having finished school I decided to pick up art/drawing as a hobby which I have grown quite fond of. So as some of you might be able to guess by now this comes with my love of fat women and drawing human bldeis resulted in many drawings/sketches of chubby/fat women. Turns out that despite being very bad at art class in school, my first drawings didn't suck as much as I would have though and thus my parents started to catch on. Seeing how I had not much other interests/hobbies going for me I was asked to show my artistic creations to family and friends quite often. This then lead to a number of weird situations which I will outline in the following: 1. My mom This was right at the start of my drawing hobby as I recall just having bought some professional grade colored pencils. I was sitting peacefully at my desk making a colored pencil drawing of a fat/chubby girl in black underwear (I can't recall her plus size modeling Instagram or her name for the life of me). This was also the first my mum had ever seen of my new hobby (which she didn't even know I had started). So there goes me keeping my hobby a secret but worse me keeping my preference for fat women secret. This then started my mum's interest in my artistic creations going forward and lead some surface level questions and comments i.e. "Do you find women like this attractive", "This girl is way to fat for her young age. (imagine if she were to gain some after marriage...). (I believe this was said after me looking at a reference picture of @nerdycurvyandthriving on IG in underwear, to do a drawing of later (which never happened))" which I more or less brushed off. 2. Visiting family in Poland One time I was staying over at my grandfather's house in Poland to visit him and my aunt and her husband. My mom being my mom wanted to show off my newly discovered artistic talent made me show them some of my drawings. After getting bored with nothing to do, I started doing a large amount of chubby fat girl 5-10min sketches while over there. My hyper fixation with the fat female body at that time didn't go unnoticed. This resulted in my mom asking why I only drew larger ladies, to which I made up the lie that soft flowy lines on the body where easier to draw (looking back at these sketches I was once proud of I also believe that the fatness hid some major anatomical and proportional mistakes). My aunt's husband straight up asked me "Do you like women like this?" to which I gave a cautious reply implying that he was infact right. He then proceeded to tell me something along the lines of "You will have a women like this someday then". Which I find was a releaving end to this more than awkward exchange. My aunt just made some remark like "Why did you draw them all with (fat/chubby) legs like mine". 3. My grandma (from my father's German side of the family) This part part of the family only lives around 1 hour away so said grandma comes to visit far more often compared to my polish relatives who live a 7 hour drive away. Up to the last exchange I'm about to tell, she was always very supportive of my art and asked me to pursue this hobby further (like job wise even). This brings me right to the latest visit for a family get together/BBQ at my parents place. As she was about to leave I decided to show her some of my new artwork (both traditional (urban sketching with watercolors) and digital). Upon opening my mega cloud drive she was greeted by paintings (Pics related) of four chubby/fat women back to back. Also upon trying to switch the folder I messed up making her the only person to ever see my painting of Japanese female sumo wrestler Miki Satoyama, which I had purposely put in a another folder as I deemed this to revealing of my true likes. Then resulted into her saying "Anon, will bring back a chubby (the German euphemism she used can also refer to fat women) home." To my big releave no one else heard this comment. My grandpa and my other aunt and uncles from that side of the family thankfully never made any comments in that direction. 4. Family friend To preface this: This female family friend of my mom does not visit often so this was the first time for me to see her in quite some time and thus also the first time she learned of my hobby. So after the obligatory act of me showing her my mega cloud drive with some select drawings (same four back to back fat women to start with), she just said "Oh, you like Nana's". At that time I had a bad feeling about the exact meaning of the word Nana in this context, but I believed that she might just be commenting that I mostly draw women and must thus like them (aka I'm not gay??). Come to find out that Nana's are sculptures of plump female bodies with overly large breasts/buttocks (pic related) Lastly I will finish of with some general remarks and questions by my parents and my younger brother not related to the hobby. My mom asked me and brother a couple times about what kind of women we find attractive i.e. classmates, friends or celebrities. My brother seems to genuinely be attracted to skinny conventionally pretty women, nameing Adriana Lima as ratty much ideal partner. I on the other hand have been very reserved about this topic mostly just commenting on rude remarks about fat women made by my mom (my brother and my dad seem to share her believes). My brother even going so far as to show me fat acceptance cringe content online, from time to time, which always leaves me at a loss for words. My dad was never really talkative but as I visited a local wine festival (with a bunch or carnival rides and food stalls, he asked the following questions: - I wonder who (what kind of woman) you are going to bring home... - (jokingly!) Are you on the hunt for some women today? (obviously alluding to the fact I never dated anyone in my life) Do you find any women attractive here? I just started the conversation into a more general direction instead of spilling the truth and revealing I found a 350lbs around 5ft 9 female there very attractive. Same thing goes for my mom and everyone else. So the part that I like 600lbs+ women and get off to them eating, walking out of breath, burping etc. does not concern anybody and stays private. Same thing goes for more revealing artworks like the one of Kasstheblast (r.i.p) or the sumo one which I will attach down below. Drawing attached on mega, as they didn't fit into the post: https://mega.nz/folder/PN4QjQhB#DHIEnLX184RiWLZrxcUxpg Ps.: info on the pics: 1. Girl in yellow on purple background goes by @11espi on IG 2. Girl on the beach goes by 3. Girl in blue jeans goes by @itx.anna on IG 4. Girl in red was a random find on r/redditgetsr Dawn 5. Girl sitting b/w goes by @ellanabryan on IG 6. Sumo girl is Miki Satoyama competing in the heavyweight division at the Japan women's sumo championships in Sakai city, southern Osaka on October 3, 2010 7. Girl with bunny ears is r.i.p Kasstheblast

>>54604 Basically this. As I look to marry in a few years, I'll hone in on slimthick girls who I anticipate will put on enough marriage weight while still giving me plausible deniability. It's a social class, social circles game I have to play.

Two ways I get around having a "double life". 1. On rare occasion where dating and fat chicks or weight in general come up I always make it stated that I have no weight preference whether it be a really skinny chick or fat chick. 2. I am a loser incel who has no luck with women so my family and friends never see me with the living waterbeds that I would date if I could.

Fat girls are like mopeds. They're fun to ride, but you don't want anyone seeing you riding them.

>>57479 Get some new material bro, this and the 'throw flower on em joke and fuck the wetspot' are like the only two jokes y'all can come up with for like the past 30 fuckin years. It's pathetic.

>>57511 i think it applies in this case

>>54226 Kind of. I keep the full extent of my fetish on the DL since it just feels weird to talk about IRL. I am not really that into feederism and just like fat girls. I also don't want people to think I am into feederism because I am pretty sure most people would just assume that I am a death feeder and I don't want friends or potential partners to assume that. I do keep up on digital art since I can find art of basically whatever waifu I like drawn however big I feel like that day, and rarely hold out on how big I want the woman to be. And I keep that a secret since it basically is porn, and is probably easier to just not have to explain why I fantasize about to having sex with a woman who is so fat that she literally takes up an entire bedroom. Most people in my family and my friends know I like bigger girls. I am positive I got caught checking out larger women. Its also just not really something I can hide when I am holding hands with someone who is well beyond just being obese. I am sure people in public think that I am either settling or that I have a fat fetish.

I've definitely been living a double life of sorts, but its really just me not been fully open to my preferences and seeing it as a "shame" for a good part of my childhood and teens. I've only recently come to terms that liking fat women isn't really the weirdest thing out there and started to be more open about it all with close friends, but only after a few drinks. Couldn't imagine how the folks will take it, but I'll cross that bridge if I ever get to it.

My wife knows. She's just over 200lb and has known my preferences for a long time. She doesn't want to gain, but she also is pretty content at her current weight, so I don't think she's going to lose either. She teases me with her belly. Her mom is pretty overweight, and we're still young enough that she could get larger with age, but I have mixed feelings about that because I sincerely don't want her health to suffer and I want her to be happy with her body. I once showed her a picture of Boberry and her reaction was sort of "huh! interesting. I've never seen a naked body that big before. enjoy your porn." I've told her I don't want her to be that big (which is true) because I'd be worried about her health, she knows it's just a fantasy. My best buddy knows also. Aside from that, I'm not shy about mentioning "I like bigger women" if it comes up in conversation with other friends and family, but it rarely does. And I don't think anyone imagines the SSBBW/USSBBW stuff I get off to when I say "bigger women", and I am content with them not knowing. No reason to deal with that conversation and the weirdness that comes with it. If I was somehow single again, I'd probably go after some larger women just to see what it was like, since I never did when I was younger and had the chance (missed opportunity). 400-500lb. Hard to say if I'd hide it from friends/family or not. I think it would depend a lot on the specific woman and how serious we were. If she had a stable career, pretty face, and good hygiene/fashion (visually I'm thinking about Foxy Roxxie for reference), I'd be fine having her a part of my regular social life. Friends/family might raise their eyebrows but I'm old enough that I wouldn't care as long as she fit my overall vibe/lifestyle. If she fit in less with my lifestyle (more trashy, less fashionable, neurodivergent, maybe more extreme like riding a scooter or something) I'd probably have fun with her temporarily but be uncomfortable introducing her to my social circles long-term. Super long term though, I wouldn't really want to settle down with anyone north of 350lb. I like my life partner to be able to live life with me - travel, hike, go to concerts, raise a family. I don't want to be a lifelong caretaker just because of a kink. It's why my wife and I work so well together. Great sex, she knows what I'm into, but we can still live a relatively normal life together.

No one in my life knows. My GF might have some suspicions tho. I have hinted that I would find her attractive at any size, even if she was a lot bigger. I said yes to basically any size she asked about. She’s been frequently asking me every time she sees a fat girl, asking if I would still like her at that size. And one time when Boberry had one her videos go viral, the airplane seat one, she got it in her feed and asked me if I found her attractive. Of course I couldn’t tell her the extent of my attraction to Boberry, literally a woman I have busted way more nuts to the last ten years than my GF. So I just told her she had a pretty face and I said something like, see you can still be pretty when that big. I don’t think I’ll confess my fetish any time soon, but she knows my attraction, not the full extent of the degeneracy tho lmao

>>58318 You must be young, My wife is about 200 lb, had a knee replaced. No more long hikes. She was pretty healthy up to 240lbs until mid fifties but now has mobility issues. This fetish sucks after you hit 60. We still have great sex and i love her body. But i worry about her a lot.

>>58318 Good post and one of the sanest takes I've seen on this board. Not dissimilar from my own situation. I wish my wife were about 50 pounds heavier and happy to stay there, and I wonder what it'd be like to be with a truly huge girl, but I have no actual realistic complaints.