My mum was slightly overweight, but never fat fat. My parents were overprotective/ helicopter though, and as a result I am a bit controlling. So that's almost certainly a part of who I am. My childhood babysitter had a really fat daughter, and I wonder if that imprinted on me at all. Like this girl was easily 300 lbs in high school, and it maybe 400 lbs today. Spent a lot of time with that chonker in my formative years.

My parents were typical of upper middle class: fragile narcissistic bullies. If they were overweight, it’s a low bar to insult someone’s body. The second they got in shape, no limit to fat shaming. They’d be mortified to be called anti-fat, or anti-working class, or racist…but it’s basically their first impulse for all issues is to double down on enforcing the dominant culture. They’d have a really hard time finding out they’re the epitome of the counter-counter-culture, just consumer minded numbskulls who let 1980s TV reprogram whatever was left of their flower child rebellion phase.

My parents were average to slightly overweight during my childhood. Didn't really have any properly obese relatives, and me and my siblings were skinny and active kids. My parents were flawed, like we all are, but never abusive and they loved me. I was never badly bullied, just the usual shit everyone got from time to time, and in general my childhood was pretty decent. I can remember my fascination/obsession with fat starting as young as 7 or 8 years old and intensifying during puberty. Always wondered where it came from, never found an answer ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Both parents were thin, and typical fatphobic Boomers. Rarely missed an opportunity to point out a fat person with disgust and/or ridicule. Then again there were a lot fewer of them when I was a kid. That said, they were cool with my GFs and wife and have mellowed out considerably in recent decades. Partly because 1) maybe they've figured out I'm an FA (they'd be in serious denial if they haven't) and 2) it's not cool to fat shame anymore. And they were the furthest thing from controlling/overprotective. I swear I'm starting to think we just have a certain gene sequence, like gay people.

>>54935 One of my earliest memories is being enthralled by my dad's secretary's fat ankles. Like 3,4 years old. If I wasn't born with it then it happened in the crib.

My mother is slim and my dad is fat. But I was mostly raised by my aunt for the first ~8 years of my life, and she was fat at the time. So there could be some Freudian shit going on there. >>54937 Both of my parents are pretty fatphobic but my aunt isn't. Again, I think that might have had an effect. >controlling My dad is pretty controlling/strict. I could probably write a whole book about this, but my dad has a really weird complex of trying to live vicariously through me, particularly (but not only) with regard to my sex life. He's been with my mother for like 40 years and has never been with anyone else. I'm much taller and fitter than him and I still have all my hair, whereas he went bald young. He thinks I should be out there fucking hot skinny broads 24/7, because that's what he'd do if he were my age with my physique. And it bothers him immensely that I'm not, especially because he finds fat women revolting (despite being fat himself).

>>54907 My mom was the only thin one, actually. I had a fat aunt and a very fat grandma.

My parents blew up after my sibling and I. Dad was consistently like “I don’t want you to end up like us.” I credit my interest in weight gain to it, that shame just internalized backwards. Dad’s whole side was/is big.

No fat parents here. I grew up very skinny and people commented on that. It made wish I was bigger. Maybe that has something to do with it, although I doubt it. I think it was just scratching something that was already there.

My mother was pretty lean, my father had a bit of chub, and I remember resting my head on his stomach as a little kid, that *may* be something, but then I find fat on guys disgusting. (even insofar as I like guys, it's a Reddit bisexuality for femboys) Don't think my parents were controlling, or called me lazy. But my fascination with fat is older than my sexuality. I didn't even know what sex was, but when I first got access to Google, I was already searching for fat related stuff. I am pretty autistic, so this may have been a a hyperfixation that just stuck. I also don't see it this of this fetish as controlling or dominant - the whole appeal is thay a girl is gluttonous and fat of her own impulses. At best I like controlling in a submissive enabler kind of way.

>>54924 >My mum was slightly overweight, but never fat fat This, but it's clear that my interest in fat women stemmened from a fat milf that worked at the nursery section of the school I went to when I was younger.....and the gym teacher too. Both milfs

>>54907 Me!

>>54961 𝑴𝒚 𝒇𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒍𝒚 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇-𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆 𝒐𝒘𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝑩𝒆𝒍𝒈𝒊𝒖𝒎 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒍𝒐𝒘-𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒅𝒆 𝒏𝒂𝒓𝒄𝒐𝒍𝒆𝒑𝒔𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒃𝒖𝒈𝒈𝒆𝒓𝒚. 𝑴𝒚 𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒂 15-𝒚𝒆𝒂𝒓-𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝑭𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒉 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒕𝒖𝒕𝒆 𝒏𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒅 𝑪𝒉𝒍𝒐𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒘𝒆𝒃𝒃𝒆𝒅 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒕. 𝑴𝒚 𝒇𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒛𝒆; 𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒅𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒌. 𝑯𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒈𝒆𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒄𝒍𝒂𝒊𝒎𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒉𝒆 𝒊𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒌. 𝑺𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆𝒔, 𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒂𝒄𝒄𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒏𝒖𝒕𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒍𝒂𝒛𝒚. 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒈𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒂𝒊𝒔𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒈𝒆𝒏𝒊𝒖𝒔 𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒂𝒏𝒆 𝒍𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕... 𝑴𝒚 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒅𝒉𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒕𝒚𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍: 𝒔𝒖𝒎𝒎𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝑹𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒏... 𝒍𝒖𝒈𝒆 𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒐𝒏𝒔... 𝑰𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒘𝒆'𝒅 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒔... 𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒐𝒍𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒂 𝒃𝒖𝒓𝒍𝒂𝒑 𝒃𝒂𝒈 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒃𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒏 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒔 — 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒚 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒂𝒓𝒅, 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚. 𝑨𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒈𝒆 𝒐𝒇 12, 𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒅 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒔𝒄𝒓𝒊𝒃𝒆. 𝑨𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒈𝒆 𝒐𝒇 14, 𝒂 𝒁𝒐𝒓𝒐𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒏 𝒏𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒅 𝑽𝒊𝒍𝒎𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒖𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒅 𝒎𝒚 𝒕𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒔. 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒂 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒓𝒏 𝒔𝒄𝒓𝒐𝒕𝒖𝒎 — 𝒊𝒕'𝒔 𝒃𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈... 𝑰 𝒔𝒖𝒈𝒈𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒓𝒚 𝒊𝒕.

My Mother was pretty overweight, the idea that she’s the reason that I have a fat fetish is pretty horrifying but possible. She has since lost all of the weight. She’s always been very touchy with me especially grabbing my butt and would gaslight me whenever I told her to stop and it made me uncomfortable. She’s also made comments about me that make other family members really uncomfortable. She always told me if she met me when she was my age she’d fall in love with me, makes me feel sick but I’ve learned to just ignore it. It’s very likely it played a large part in getting me into this fucked up fetish. On the other hand she was never really that fat, less than three hundred pounds at her biggest. However ever since I was literally like 5 I’ve had an obsession with extremely morbidly Obese women. So perhaps quite a bit of it was built into me. I’ve had some friends and family members say that my preference in women is because of something Freudian with my mother and it makes me want to throw up because it may be true.

>>54907 I really believe is something you are born with. I like fatness and the idea of weight gain but never could dominate/control someone over using this. controlling" does not interest me.

I’ve been thinking a lot more lately that my mum might be part, or all, of why I’m like this. She’s always been overweight, and I would always see her naked when I was growing up. Not in a weird way or anything. Idk, that’s how it’s always been, and still is even now when I’m 24. I’d always see her before/during/after a shower, and when she’d get changed. I have no memory of ever feeling anything sexual towards her. Maybe her being the only naked adult I was exposed to during my formative years, it wired my brain weird?? Idk. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a thing for fat people, even before I knew what it actually meant. Never felt that same funny feeling when looking at my mum though. The psychology behind all of this is whack. I’m a female feedee too

I did not. In fact the opposite: my mom had something of an eating disorder and was always quite skinny.

>>54937 This about matches my experience.

>>55042 Same, honestly! I had pretty fat-phobic parents; my mom was especially bad, with terrible confidence, and very obviously had eating disorders, despite weighing MAYBE 125 lbs. She would call herself fat, drink hot water, take diet pills, and would fat-shame my older sister, who was just as thin as she was. Definitely a lot of mental illness there. She fits the 'almond mom' stereotype exactly. My mom's best friend? Massive. Total ssbbw status. Like, had a build like Juicy Jackie does now (big everywhere, but particularly big belly and ass) way back in the 90s. Why she was even friends with my mom, who would call herself fat right in front of her 500+ lb self... I have no idea. She was my first experience of a woman who was happy and comfortable with herself. Would always shrug when weight was mentioned saying "I just love food, I can't help it!" and I would swoon even then. I can't remember a time I DIDN'T think she was beautiful, even when I was young and small enough to weigh less than one of her buttcheeks. Poor lady ended up trying and failing every 90s fad diet you've ever heard of, and rebounded heavier every time. It was great. That early life experience combines with this: I think the sentiment that fat-admiration is something that we're born with carries some weight... I know for a fact that my father and my grandfather like 'em big too, despite being run of the mill fatphobic (fatphobia is just learned behavior, so I understand why and how people get caught up in it, though I think those people seriously lack critical thinking skills) and not marrying women who were outside the beauty ideals of their generations. That said, I know both my dad and grandfather have always treated and spoke about my longtime partner as an ethereal beauty unlike they've ever seen, despite the fact that she weighs 400lbs. But I've heard them both in disbelief talking about how beautiful she is, and I see it in how they pay attention to her makeup/hair/outfits like schoolboys with a crush. I think she makes them go face to face with their internalized fatphobia, vs. their very real feelings of finding her appearance appealing. I can tell they're honestly both happy for (and maybe low-key a little jealous of) me, to just be living my truth with the exact kind of woman I want to be with, despite society (and my mentally ill mom) wanting me to be with someone a few hundred pounds lighter. Maybe there's also something to be said about spite? I was partially raised by a woman that hates herself because she has a human body, who thinks the concept of being/getting fat is more terrifying to her than death itself. Maybe fat women are my equivalent of girls in the 50s rebelling against their parents by dating dudes with motorcycles, or something. I don't believe any of this, but it is funny to think about. "You think you're fat? That's nice. Meet my wife who weighs almost 4 times as much as you."

Aunt-in-law only

>>55057 My mom was rail thin, as in 5'7" and 115 pounds, then she had a health issue that required those 90s meds that plumped her up to 180 pounds. She ended up going onto extreme diets, etc. that brought her down to the 130s range, but she could never get much below that. One of her close friends was extremely obese as well. My mom would call herself, at 130 pounds, fat in front of her extremely obese friend all the time. Let's fast forward to me as an adult. My first wife was obese, around 260 pounds when we married, and 300+ pounds shortly after that. My mom always tried to get her to lose weight. She would drag her to the gym, order for her at restaurants, make endless comments, and even paid for her WLS. My second wife is around 300, and my mom has never made a single comment about her weight, nor has she tried to do anything to get her to lose weight. I think maybe she realized that I like fat girls?

>>54924 Just curious, do you still talk to said fat girl

>>55072 I have her as a Facebook friend. I haven't communicated with her directly in 15 years. She is still very fat -- but dumpy in the way some big women get as they age. Not curvy -- just a blob.

>>55057 >Maybe there's also something to be said about spite? I'm >>54944, this might be a thing for me too lol. In my case I think (on a subconscious level) I like pissing off my dad. The same kind of thing as a white girl with daddy issues who fucks black guys to piss off her racist dad. Although this: >"You think you're fat? That's nice. Meet my wife who weighs almost 4 times as much as you." Applies to me too, but with my coworkers. I work with a bunch of women who call themselves fat but wouldn't even register on an FA's radar. Like 20lbs overweight at most. And they are every bit as annoying about it as you can imagine. I can't stand listening to a skinny/barely chubby girl complain about being "fat", it drives me fucking nuts lol

Fat father and mother.

>>54907 It's biological. People that like smelly feet don't have parents with smelly feet. People who cut their dicks off and LARP as females didn't have fathers who cut their dicks off. Males have greater variation, hence these atypical behaviors are more common in males (and also it's somewhat explained by males being more focused on physical attractiveness).

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I was not good in sports when I was little. I sometimes like to think how unfit some bbw girls are and I find it real hot (to imagine that they cannot run and how thry struggle). I might be doing some projection in that regard. Aside from that, I am not interested in controlling even if my parents used to be very controlling when I was little. My mother has never been fat, but was pregnant when I was young (probably gained some weight there plus she had of course a pregnant belly). I find girls with big bellies really hot, so it might come from there (but I am not attracted to pregnant womem). I do not mind bbw's in their 30's or 40's. (I am in my mid 20's), so I could have had some influence from my mom.

I am studying psychology, I guess thst this would kind of make sense from what I learned so far. Great question op

sorry for the typos, new keyboard here

Interestingly, subverting most responses here, I had a mildly overweight mum, but incidentally also I hate her and we’re not on speaking terms, shortly after becoming a full time employed worker

>>54907 Yeah, I think about this sometimes. My friends often suggested it was the reason. My mom is 5'4, and when I was little weighed around 350lbs, maybe more or less. She got gastric bypass when I was 8 or so and I just remember looking at her and being pretty scared or uncomfortable for a brief moment. It's very possible my mom has something to do with the physical attraction, and I've probably projected my own reason and logic unto the fetish. Laying with a girl around the same weight as her is a fucking strange feeling. It's like feeling the comfort of my mother, in a strange sense. I do feel it. My mom has since lost all the weight like others here, and it's probably for the better. But fuck.

>>54937 I'm ^^^ and I want to thank everyone for discussing this in a sane way. I've been interested in why I'm the way I am since I was a kid and never found a decent explanation... or really any explanation at all. (The only academic/scientific paper I've found was so tangled up in non-size-related identity bullshit they basically sidelined the question.) We all know it's a bit deeper than a preference, if not quite its own sexuality. But while I realize this "survey" is not scientific, the range of responses and lack of any discernable patterns otherwise tells me it's gotta be biological, not something that was learned or imprinted.

>>54907 My mom was a heroin junkie and lost custody of me because of neglect, but was not fat when I was growing up (she did have a fat phase while she was away though). I did have an ex-stepbrother that was massively obese for the time (90's) who SA'd me (for reference, I'm male) but it felt wrong even when I was 5yo, so within a month I ratted him out. I got split up from my mom shortly after that, but I later found out my mom lost it because she was OD'ing not for the SA, so go figure. I still have fond memories of her because I didn't understand drugs at the time, but I could see why my dad was upset when the cheating was that blatant by my mom. She never tweaked near me, so she was always comfy, pleasant. My dad on the other hand was a stereotypical blue-collar guy, often jumps the gun and sometimes solved his problems with violence. Grandpa was somehow worse so he had his limits, but his temper got him into a lot of trouble in life. He somehow remarried to a filipino nurse whom was even more angry than him and also manipulative (likely from her upbringing and familial jealousy). She did have 2 older daughters though (one was a weeb) so I did have a few older sisters in my life. None went past chubby, though. However my dad's 2nd relationship went south eventually and we almost lost the house, I had to move in with my grandma for a few years before I got it back to continue my previous school. My grandma was pear-shaped and a bit chunky, but was mostly preoccupied being a bus driver and doing housekeeping. We did get along well though, and although growing up with dad was rough because he expected everyone to be good at sports, she was a sweetheart and even gave me spending money for chores. By that time I did hit puberty, I was more interested in cartoons. I think my first moment was the Passion Patties episode and noticed Clover was looking hotter when she shouldn't have. I then found an article from a tabloid explaining the obesity health paradox with a picture of a fatter Mona Lisa and a picture of Kirstie Alley, which I held in my room for some reason. After the Family Guy episode with Fat Lois, I videotaped it so I could enjoy the sensation in my pants, but I didn't know how to jerk it until the internet. When I got it in HS I looked up Kato Hayabusa on e-hentai and my fate was sealed - I could only get hard to fat girls. I tried to explain to my immediate family my problem, but they didn't take it seriously and forgot about it, where shortly after I formed a complex about it. I tried having a relationship in HS with a skinnier girl and I even went to prom with her, but it was awkward without the sexual interest and she eventually lost interest in me. I hit a low point in my life during college, but after getting my life back together I talked to my great aunt about this for more perspective (she's religious, nearly nun-tier). She said she was a bit flattered as she believes it's within God's plan, and she even shared that she got fat on purpose while growing up to stop getting hit on by guys (she also commented she got a strength buff, which was a plus for her). Meanwhile my dad had an episode when I got a second LDR gf that was into this lifestyle and wanted me to stop the relationship, but it's mostly because she looked too mannish and was an enby (my dad doesn't understand it's the new tomboy). tl;dr Don't beat yourself up if you only like fat girls, you can still live a pious life if you tick all the other boxes and take care of your girl. If your friends or family comment and she's in good health, screw 'em and rock on.

yah my mom is actually close to ssbbw and I finally got nudes of her after years of trying.