Man I know it’s embarrassing having this fetish but unless you’re into that death feederism shit you’re fine. This is one of the most common fetishes and it’s ultimately harmless. If it does harm someone, you can always just lose weight. There are sick fucks out there into genuinely depraved shit, most of us are just a little cringe and most of got the tism. You’re fine. Most of us are fine people. I’m a well-adjusted and sociable person outside of this fetish. You can’t choose what you like, you just got to shrug it off. Basically everyone has got their weird fetish.

Yes, considering obesity is a disease having this fetish is a disease that celebrated and enables people with a deadly disease. It also makes you a sexual deviant which isn’t normal even if it’s not wrong. No sensible moral code should accept you as moral.

Having the fetish doesn't make you a bad person. Manipulating someone into gaining weight to satisfy that fetish is bad.

not a bad person or retarded. like others have said, just don't manipulate someone else to gain. Personally I think immobility and death feederism should probably stay in fantasy and not in actual relationship. Death feederism the problems are obvious but the problem with immobility even when both are consenting is ethical issues come up if the relationship doesn't work out. They may have trusted you enough to get them to that point and thought you were going to stay and support them but if you leave then their lives are kind of fucked. Also I know this is kind of weird but I read the book Supernormal Stimuli a while back just because I'm into evolutionary psychology. I ended up realizing some stuff about myself and feeling more "normal" about it.

>>55887 I see, funnily enough I’m actually not that big into feeder/feedee stuff as like a lifestyle like I’ve seen others do it. Maybe as like an occasional bedroom thing but constructing your life around a sexual interest seems all kinds of fucked up. I’d much rather meet someone who’s already big with a large appetite than try to manipulate or coerce someone to be larger.

>>55809 Not at all. I think it's a wonderful thing to have something so close to us that we find attractive and desiring. Especially when it's something as innocent as liking your partners big and soft and wanting to feed/pamper them to be bigger and softer. When it comes to the health part, I like to think of it like a lot of things in life that are pleasurable may have negative consequences. Eating too much, drinking too much, smoking too much, etc. Even when it comes to fetishes. Knife/blood play isn't "healthy", choking play isn't "healthy", rough play isn't "healthy". But people still practice them consensually and ethically because it's simply enjoyable to them, and the potential negative side effects are outweighed by the pleasure they experience. Same way I am with feedism. I am with a partner in a happy relationship where we both consensually embrace the lifestyle. She gets pleasure from being pampered and being soft and jiggly (her own words), while I get pleasure from feeding her, watching her gain, and getting to make love to her beautiful body. Sure, she still tries to be healthy as possible given the fetish, and I like to be mentally ready if any issues do arise. But I never make myself feel bad for it. This is ultimately what I enjoy, and I would be living a lie if I judged myself for it and tried to push it away.

>>55828 Also, fuck this guy. Obesity is not a "disease" IMO, it is a condition/state of being. And one is not a sexual "deviant" by virtue of liking obese women. That's an absurd claim with the puritan dog whistle of whatever they mean by "deviant". Hint hint, there is no such thing as "normal". And fuck whatever "moral code" you follow as well. In my opinion, no sensible moral code would justify calling an entire demographic of people "diseased" and calling people who innocently like a certain attribute of those people as "deviants".

>>55938 For me, obesity is a multifactorial disease whose manifestation has the potential to be attractive to me; not because it's a disease, but because how it makes some women look. Considering it's the manifestation what makes some women atractive instead of the disease, I can't see anything deviant about that.

Everyone has kinks. In the grand scheme of things, this is pretty far from other fucked up things out there

Feels good someone said this out loud. The answer is “no”, as long as you understand what it’s like to be fat in this culture and put your significant other’s experience first. I’ve been in multiple long term relationships with women who are at least 300ish and it’s a hard life for them in some ways. They’re made to feel “fucked up” by having to constantly watch weight loss ads, clothing is a pain in the ass, and friends and relatives are always judging/prodding/suggesting weight loss. My current GF wants to go on Ozempic. Biggest boner killer of my life but guess what? Her happiness in life is more important than my coomer ass desire for her to look as round and wide as possible. Just be good to whoever you’re fucking/cranking your hog to and help them have a good life and you’re fine.

>>57526 >Just be good to whoever you’re fucking/cranking your hog to and help them have a good life and you’re fine. truer words have never been said

>>57526 I like where you're coming from, seems genuine Look into the studies that have been coming out about ozempic, particularly the one showing heart muscle loss as a side effect. Could help discourage her or at least sway her to look into diet/exercise as a different weight loss option

>>57955 At the end of the day this is retarded and gay. As a man, understand women WILL exspext you to earn money to pay for their lifestyle. This stress results in about 10 years lost life expectancy for those men. Just accept that the world exists as a constant state of battle, predators hunting other predators. Relationships aren’t made of victims and abusers, the only reason victims stay in relationships is because they’re receiving more value as a mooch than they could earn for themselves.

>>57977 Where did you get that? Married people live longer than unmarried people on average with men being the ones that get the most benefit in terms of longevity.