Love this thread idea.
My longtime partner recently entered into the 400 club maybe in the last 6 months or so, and it's been amazing to witness her gain and changes over the years.
A recent phenomenon has been her appearance; not necessarily how fat she's gotten/is still getting, but, how she used to style herself in her "off-time" at home, vs how she does it now.
For context, she's like a Faye Daniels/Zoey Deschanel type, just a very high-femme & stylish fat lady. Think a pale, goth Roxxie, and you're basically imagining my partner. Really gorgeous face to accompany the amazing bod. Always with amazing style, makeup, and never a hair out of place.
As she's gotten bigger and more comfortable in our space, she's been dressing/styling up less, and is wearing more comfort clothes around the house, like, straight-up Kaftans and muumuus. She also cut her hair recently to be much shorter (which, I love short hair on women, kill me), and it looks amazing when she styles it.
But, when she doesn't style her hair, and is wearing her muumuus, I swear I've walked into the living room before and thought she looked less like a fat femme fatale, and more like a circus/sideshow fat lady, or Bonnie Grape from 'What's Eating Gilbert Grape'. And honestly, I loved it.
It made her appear so much fatter than she actually was (and she's already a BIG girl ~420lbs), and it felt like she let go of caring about making herself look fatter, or appearing like a "fat stereotype" and is finally letting herself be comfortable. (which, if you date a high-femme fat girl, that's WHY they put so much effort into their appearance; to socially compensate for being fat, everything else about her appearance has to be on-point and inscrutable... it's exhausting.)
I love it, it's not like she can't look high-femme anymore, this is just another look in her roster, and I'm glad she feels comfortable enough to just let it happen. Though, it's an extremely jarring (and hot) image change to see first-hand... Now, whenever I see her like this, I think "Damn, you're officially card-carrying, gold-star FAT now" 🤣