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Anonymous 01/15/2025 (Wed) 17:19:55 Id:0dcce9 No. 59279
>Is my size really not a problem to you? And >what is it about big/fat girls do you like? If a fat girl asks you either of these questions, how do you respond without creeping her out?
>>59279 second one i have literally no idea. but for the first one, it depends on how confident i gauge her to be. if she seems like she's not just tolerant of her weight but is confident in her body, i'll maybe say something along the lines of it being a plus. insert cringey "more squishin for the pushin" one-liner here. but if she seems less confident, (i probably wouldnt be seeing her if this were the case, but for argument's sake) i'd probably say something along the lines of "no of course not," "omg you're so beautiful" yada yada
>>Is my size really not a problem to you? I would usually just say no and leave it at that. If they ask me if I like it (as opposed to just not caring), I reply honestly and say yes. Which usually leads to the second question. >>what is it about big/fat girls do you like? Here are things I've said without getting a bad reaction (none of which are lies): >I like how soft and cuddly you are >elaborating on the previous point: big girls give the best hugs, I really love hugging you (sometimes leads to a hug then and there) >I like feeling your weight on top of me (note: I do not recommend saying this but I've somehow gotten away with it) >I just like the way a big woman's body looks and feels Here are things I don't say but would say if I were being honest: >I hate it when skinny girls fuss over their diets constantly, I want a girl who'll eat a nice meal with me without worrying about the calories >I really love playing with chubby tummies (I have never actually said this but girls usually pick up on it pretty quickly during sex, and they will let you know very quickly whether or not they are okay with it)
Easy. “Yes I like fat, the size shape and feel of it. In fact I’d like it if you were fatter”. If she doesn’t want to play ball, leave. End of story. There’s nothing to be gained from women who haven’t ever questioned the social superiority of skinny women. If she doesn’t at least get that some men prefer a fat ass and big tits over the body of a teen-boy she’s not anything but a fuck buddy, never will be.
>>59279 1) "No it isn't." If she pushes: " You're beautiful. I wouldn't be here with you now if it was a problem." 2) "I'm not really sure, I've just always found bigger women attractive." If she's asking stuff like that right off the bat it's potentially a red flag for jealousy issues so keep your guard up. It's not a guarantee of issues, some bigger women have just gotten burned by bad dates so they're trying to weed out issues early on, but if she keeps asking that insecurity could cause trust issues, and that's when things get ugly.
>>59330 >There’s nothing to be gained from women who haven’t ever questioned the social superiority of skinny women. I love the unfathomably quotable one-liners the threads on /gen/ produce at times. Too bad I'll never be in a situation I could reference a bbwchan thread.
>>59279 >Is my size really not a problem to you? I would say that I have a preference for ‘plus size’ or larger women. I wouldn’t say ‘fat’. Women get really weirded out if you say ‘fat fetish’ it implies something untrusting and dark I was once asked straight out by a girl in the bedroom if I have a fat fetish or something and I was like a deer in headlights. I played the dumb card and was like “no, what do you mean?” 💀 For context we just finished sex and I asked if I could lay my head down by her thighs and gave it away completely when I couldn’t stop grabbing everything, kissing her thighs and burying my face in them. I touched on the subject a month or two later and told her I hope I don’t make her feel like I am fetishising or objectifying her and she told me no, that she really liked how I loved every part of her body enthusiastically and made her feel super sexy. I also said I had a ‘preference’ for larger women so she definitely knew Is it a ‘fat fetish’ at the end of the day? Probably, but I think women stop caring and don’t really get you to spell it out if you make them feel good and care about them personally. The only reason it's called a fetish is because it’s not mainstream. It’s only really seen as a fetish if you just want to fuck and nothing more, no emotional connection. Only fat activist radfems would say even if you love them while being attracted to them being fat are you still a piece of shit and a fetishist. It’s like the whole “would you love me if I was a worm” type shit. I can’t help what I find attractive so stop shitting on me Also I was once asked by a girl on a date what kind of women I normally go for and I probably shouldn’t have said this as it wasn’t directly related to but I said I have a preference for larger women. Then did a super beta move and was like “not to fetishise you or anything, I just have a preference for larger women”. She didn’t seem fazed and was fairly confident in herself it didn’t matter >what is it about big/fat girls do you like? Most of these have been said already but Things I would tell them: - I love the softness and warmth that comes from larger women. There is something so nurturing and loving about it. I just get this immense feeling of satisfaction from cuddling. I think this softness and warmth from the fat compliments their femininity that just makes them so feminine and sexy - The extra weight compliments a woman’s natural curves - More woman = more to love - (This could be seen as a backhanded compliment so be careful) Larger women usually might have a better sense of humour or personality (to compensate for their size, just like short men do). This means I literally get the best of both worlds Things I wouldn’t tell them but definitely think: - I get turned on a bit by the idea that they are a bit gluttonous and hedonistic. I love seeing them eat and not care, being a bit greedy and lazy. I also find it super hot when I see them having immense pleasure like them masturbating, fucking them or fingering them. Seeing them in so much pleasured and living a life of pure hedonism like royalty or a goddess just bricks me the fuck up. I guess seeing them like that lets me live vicariously through them in their life of pure pleasure. I’m stuck here having to try and be a man “struggle, be hard, suffer” etc and they then get to just lay back and be worshipped. This is more fantasy but someone did use the word ‘worship’ when she talked about how I made her feel - I love just being entirely consumed by their bodies when they are on top. I think I might be a bit of a sub in that regard. I just like how the woman is bigger and heavier than me and I just see it as powerful and such a turn on. I like how she could probably kill me just by sitting on me - The fact that liking fat women is seen a bit as taboo probably adds to it as well. It’s like you are just giving in to your sexual desires and letting go. It feels kind of shameful but so good at the same time to just give in and to admit that you find all that fat which everyone else views to be disgusting as so sexy and beautiful - >>59329 I agree with you on the belly. I never say it too but they quickly pick up on it when I keep grabbing and kissing it. Thighs as well, and arms, and tits, and ass, basically every part that has meat - A bit of extra sweat or body odor that sometimes comes with larger women is nice. Not stinky or anything but pheromones and shit. A bit of extra natural smell is really nice. This can sometimes be the opposite as there is a stereotype that fat women are smelly so these women can sometimes go to great lengths to make sure they always smell good. The same can also be true for how they present themselves. They might make extra effort (kinda like some trans women) to appear more feminine or dress well to kind of compensate a bit for them being big. This, while unfortunate and a bit sad, is a huge bonus for me because I really like it when she is very feminine in appearance I honestly feel bad for people who don’t feel this way a bit. Apart from the social ridicule you get every now and again (people will eventually stop caring if you just embrace it and laugh it off plus you are seriously missing out if you don’t) being with a large woman for me is like heaven on earth. I get so much pleasure from them. I can’t keep my hands off, I feel so much warmth and embrace, their body is so incredibly attractive to me. I get bricked up just holding hands. I get turned on by every inch of their body and just have this incredible calming and content feeling when I am cuddling them. To them I’m just like some 4/10 that was the best they could get but to me they are as sexy as Megan Fox is to most normal guys, I be so rock hard it's unbelievable. Again good for me, unfortunate for them. I can’t imagine most normal guys being this stoked about their partner's body, but maybe I’m wrong Lastly, I never got my head around people who like fat women because to them it’s like a controlling or security thing. That they date fat women so that they can manipulate them by feeding them and getting them fatter as a domination thing and getting pleasure from controlling their lives or having a fat girlfriend to get away with lots of other stuff because they know their partner will think this is the best they can get. Doing it as a way of getting pleasure from keeping them down instead of raising them up. And also fuck the guys that are just indifferent to their fat girlfriends bodies. Leave them to the people that actually find them sexy (me *cough *cough). Rant over
The whole 'preference' vs 'fetish' thing is a distinction without a difference and it is caused in large part by cope. If you didn't have a fat fetish, you wouldn't be posting on BBWChan. Preference is a gentler word and it's the better word to use when pressed about it by a partner, but if you actually believe it's some how different, you're lying to yourself.
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>>59379 I agree with most of what you've said, but as >>59380 said (or at least that's what I inferred from his post), you may be inviting trolls with the length of this post. You've gotta let go of that "I'm just a 4/10" shit though. >I can’t imagine most normal guys being this stoked about their partner's body, but maybe I’m wrong You would be surprised. >>59381 I agree but I think the cope goes both ways. Men might say they have a preference instead of a fetish as a cope, but I think fat women also make that distinction as a cope, if that makes any sense. Most of the women I've been with would've been horrified by the notion that I had a fat fetish, but most of them were fine with me saying I had a preference. I only ever met one who was okay with me having a fetish. More than that, she was turned on by it. She even chastised me for using the word "preference" instead of "fetish", if you can believe that. But girls like her are definitely the exception rather than the rule.

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