>>60568
>I’m 6’5 and good looking so that’s not a problem, of course I’m not everyone cup of tea but my looks shouldn’t be what’s holding me back
Same here.
But in my case I think what's holding me back is my autism and reclusiveness more than anything.
I have dated a few BBWs and SSBBWs. Most of them were pretty insecure about their weight, which I find annoying, but you can deal with it depending on how bad it is or how desperate you are.
>But I guess you’re right I should be more upfront about it
Being upfront about it is a double-edged sword IMO. It depends whether feedism is an absolute necessity for you in a relationship. If it is, you should be upfront, because otherwise you'll never be satisfied. But you have to be able to deal with the fact that you're going to scare off 95% of women that way.
I am an FA rather than a full-on feeder. Feedism is kind of hot but it's not something I require or expect in a relationship. I am very upfront about being an FA. Even that scares some women off, but that's a price I'm willing to pay, to be frank.
>>60600
>Lower your standards until you get the results you want
I kind of disagree. I mean, I tried that and it didn't really work for me. I lowered my standards for the last two women I dated and I regret dating them. But again, it depends how important feedism is to you. I lowered my standards because I wasn't having any luck with girls in general, not because I was desperate to find a feedee.
>>60601
>Insecure women who want to be thin, want to date men who validate their ability to fit into the skinny-hot-girl box—normies like this aren’t worth dating, they’ll never not see “fatter” as “worse” unless you’re a good cut above every guy they’ve ever had a chance with.
I would simplify this and say that (in my experience) the vast majority of fat girls want a boyfriend who'll basically just pretend she's thin, rather than a boyfriend who actually likes her fat. You are right that if you're "out of her league" it contributes to that feeling for her. But if you're an FA it kind of backfires because: yes, you have a hot fat gf, but she won't let you touch her belly while you're having sex, so what's the point? In my experience they kind of pretend to be okay with being fat in the beginning to lure you in, then the insecurity rears its ugly head after a few weeks or months.