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>Yeah, so about the cancer story...She did say she had cancer on TikTok but that was in her crazy bopo pre-WLS phase, so who really knows...??
Aha! I knew I wasn't misremembering; she did say it. Who knows indeed?
>I am contemplating writing them a long E-Mail full of criticism/feedback about misrepresenting the community as a whole. Any thoughts??
I don't think that's a good idea but I do think it would be funny.
Once again there is a lot here but I'll just give my thoughts on a few points.
>Pretends she is unsure if she really wants to gain, as she is unsure about the negative health effects => Tries to get something like "You're totally right about the health risks, I've never thought of it that way" out of the men on feabie; which obviously doesn't happen
This is hilarious.
>I like it when a woman goes from attractive to unattractive
What an odd thing to say. I know it's not unheard of, but still. I think most of us would agree that it's the other way around, going from unattractive (skinny) to attractive (fat).
>Is currently only being fed by Max (the Feeder in the Documentary), but is looking for more feeders.
This is interesting because Max (if I'm understanding this correctly) says that they do have a sexual relationship beyond just feeding. I wonder how he feels about her looking for other sexual partners?
>Feeders are mostly men, men of which most are manipulative jerks who don't care one bit about the health and wellbeing of their feedee
On one hand I think this is a negative stereotype, but on the other hand I think it is a stereotype with some truth behind it. I am reminded of all the sexist comments I've seen on this forum. Honestly I'm not sure if the "toxic" feeders are the majority of feeders, or just a vocal minority. I don't think there's any way to find out for sure.
>Feedees are oftentimes helpless victims to the mastermind of a manipulative feeder who does nothing short of a Loverboy scam on them, to try and convince them to cross personal boundaries when it comes to wg
I think this is a bit extreme / a bit of an exaggeration, but again there is some truth behind it. I think it is a problem with men in general not respecting women's boundaries / being pushy about sex, which is exacerbated when you add this fetish to the mix. On the subject of "manipulation", it's important to remember (as in the Geparke story) that many of these girls have low self esteem and only gain weight because they want to please their partner, so again, there is some truth to this. In other words, there often is a power imbalance.
>Feedism is very unbalanced as only the feedee gains weight and gets health issues.
Honestly this is hard to argue with. The only argument I can think of is that the feeder has to pay for the food and (ideally) care for their feedee if/when health/mobility problems happen, but I think that is an admittedly flimsy argument.
>Also sexist(??) because most feeders are male
You might be surprised but this is actually a pretty common argument.
From Wikipedia's article on fat fetishism/feederism: "According to The Routledge Companion to Beauty Politics, "the gendered, raced, and classed power dynamics of many of these subcultures often mirror, reinforce, and even exaggerate existing racial, gender, class, and sexual inequalities." Sociologist Abigail C. Saguy has proposed that by objectifying women's weight, they are reinforcing the cultural importance of women's weight to their physical appearance, therefore also reinforcing gender inequality."
A bit too "woke speak" for me, but I can understand the point they're making (even if I don't fully agree with it).
My final conclusion / personal thoughts on the documentary:
This is about what I expected, honestly.
I think we all need to remember that this is how most of society sees us. It's hard to argue with the reality that being fat and gaining weight is inherently unhealthy. That is just facts and logic (and not in the bullshit Ben Shapiro meaning of that phrase). When someone presents us with that logic, we don't have a logical counterargument because there isn't one. Our feelings aren't based on logic, they are based on what makes our dicks hard.
However what most of these documentaries ignore/downplay is that "it takes two to tango", so to speak. In many cases these relationships are also driven by the "illogical" feelings from the woman too.
But it is easier to present a sensationalist narrative where the men are the villains and oppressors. However it might be easier to present that narrative because these men might actually very well be the majority in our community, or at the very least a vocal minority. So there might be some truth to it.
Also I think that while male feedees and LGBT feedists do exist, our community has become very much dominated by heterosexual male feeders and female feedees (and I think the former greatly outnumber the latter, but that's another conversation) so I am not surprised that this documentary only presents this perspective, nor am I surprised by the viewers' comments to that effect. I will admit my bias as a slim heterosexual man who is attracted to fat women and has zero interest in fat men or fat transsexuals, though.
Finally my personal thoughts on this community and my personal experiences with this lifestyle:
I am one of those people who struggles with the "morality" of this kink. I identify as an FA rather than a feeder, but I am still aroused by feedism as a fantasy, and I do watch feedism porn. I have dated plenty of fat women but I don't know if I would ever have a serious, real feedist relationship. The closest thing I have personally experienced is that I have dated some women who were very fat but adamantly refused to lose weight (even at significant risk to their health), and their attitude was that they were grateful that I wouldn't force them to lose weight.