The easiest way is to just be blunt about it. Your not settling and that fat chicks are what you're into. Even if they can't wrap their head around it everyone knows what a chubby chaser is.

>>78308 Ur right, I should stand by my woman and my attraction to her instead of just letting people think im settling for less. They think i can do better but I already have what I want

Family has spoken up saying they are concerned about her weight given the basic tasks she cannot do with ease.

>>78316 I feel that. My gf got a job that keeps her standing all day and works out once in a while so shes actually gotten alot more capable lately so I think my family just literally hates that she has a belly.

>>78316 My family was the same way with my ex (mid-300s). Not out of anti-fat sentiment, but genuine concern about her health. I had a relative whose knees ended up basically being bum due to the sheer amount of pressure his weight put on them on a day-to-day basis. She had medical issues which were already straining her knees to a point where even a quarter-mile walk could an impossibility, depending on the day. Nothing to say of how a number of relatively minor tasks felt like major endeavors due to a combination of physical and mental issues.

I have the other problem. My family is too rehearsed. They had to notice she was bigger this Christmas, I wish I got a tiny indication though. I mean, I don’t want them to say anything to make her feel bad, but I would’ve enjoyed seeing their expression break for just a second while looking at her stomach or something. Her mom is starting to get a little prematurely senile though, but I’m hoping a comment might pop out one day

when i was 16 i had the first serious gf i ever had and before my mom met her I said look mom she is a heavier girl so don't be surprised or caught off guard- its just what I'm into. Nobody ever said a thing. But I did also come from a family of larger women so, it was probably just seen as normal.

My mum has always been very judgemental towards fat people and makes comments about them when she sees them along the lines of "how could anyone let themselves get like that" and "They are killing themselves" It ruined my confidence for a long time and I was never confident enough to bring any heavier women home and any potential girlfriends she would make comments about Well jokes on her because as soon as I left home I ended up way fatter than any of those women she shamed. Then after enduring years of mean comments about my weight, the shame went away and I brought home a bbw (around 300 lb). She never made a comment about her weight once - she's always too busy focusing it on me. Life hack.

Every now and again when I catch a glimpse of certain fat women, if my mom is with me she'll say "TOO BIG". I've clapped back at her a few times with "Not your choice", "I'm the one who has to find her attractive". I've also received many comments from my family about they don't want me dating/marrying any woman who could be a candidate for 600lb life.

My family don't even bring up my girlfriend's weight. They just love her, I swear my grandmother likes my girlfriend more than the old dear likes me! Granted, they are also encouraging about her trying to lose weight, but I think that's A-OK. If we hit the gym and we get an extra thirty years together because we're both in better shape, that's worth more than going, "cor what a lovely fatty."

Gen Xer here so I came up in a fatphobic society. No such thing as SA/BP and it was open season on fat people in the media — truly the last allowable prejudice. My mom was a classic Boomerexic, proud of how little she ate and she'd point out every fat person with disgust and/or ridicule. My dad was less overt about it but made his fatphobia known here and there. Meanwhile I was basically born an FA, hiding "before" pics from tabloids under my mattress, drawing fat women compulsively, mooning over Mamas and Papas album covers lol and so on. My first GF was in junior high. She was fat for the early 80s but "curvy" now. I was terrified to tell my mom about her or bring her around. Then one day my mom dropped me off at a friend's house and my GF was out front with a couple other friends. She ran up and hugged me before my mom left. I figured I'd get some kind of blowback when I came home but my mom was shockingly cool. Some light teasing — "I didn't know you had a girlfriend", etc but nothing about her weight. Later on my mom soured on her but that's because she thought she was trashy lol, never said anything about her being fat. That said, she continued making comments about other fat people so I was still a bit on edge. A few years later I had my first real GF. She was the second fattest girl in our class, which back then translated to 5'2" and 180 or so. Again I was worried I'd get blowback or they'd treat her badly but no, everything was cool. We dated for two years, went out to dinner with my parents (separately, they were divorced) and so on and there were never any issues. Both complimented her on her looks (she was actually very pretty), and my dad told me privately he thought she was hot lol. (Yes, she was 16-17 at the time. Boomers.) I did take some shit from friends when we first started dating but then when the relationship got more serious they backed off and she became "one of the guys." Granted, teen boys will pounce on pretty much anything and I dished out my share of insults, appearance-based stuff as well. I went to a very liberal college where even in the 90s no one would dare insult or ostracise someone over weight. I had a close friend at the time who told me my being an FA was related to low self esteem, which kind of sucked, but otherwise I can't remember friends ever having an issue with my partners. Ten years later my wife was the next woman I brought home and she was much bigger than the others, 5'3" and 230-260. There were no big issues but a few minor ones. My wife picked up on my mom's incessant diet talk, which I explained was normal for her, sadly, though my wife insisted it seemed kind of pointed. Unfortunately I didn't take it seriously until the first Thanksgiving we had together, at my mom's house, where my mom served her notably smaller portions than anyone else (except herself). My wife later told me this was backed up by more diet and "health" talk. Granted, she'd gained a bunch of weight the year prior so she was extra-sensitive herself but still, it was obvious. The next day I took my mom aside and told her to cool it. Of course she insisted she was being normal with her, and that "women generally eat less," but she got the message. We were married seven more years and there was no more BS from my mom. There have been fat partners since then and while my mom hasn't met them, she's seen pics and will say "very pretty" and so on. No insults. And FWIW, with societal changes recently where fatphobia has been elevated to bigotry like racism and homophobia, she's toned her shit WAY down. I haven't heard her comment on someone's size in years at this point. Dad was super-cool throughout, though once he realized the pattern with my partners he would joke around with me here and there. Thing is we're more like friends as adults so it's like the ballbusting male friends do with each other, and never directed towards a specific person in my life. More like we'd be walking down the street and my dad would see a fat woman and say "there's one for you." I think he's actually kind of fascinated by it but it's too awkward to bring up directly. So I guess the moral of the story is that despite their rhetoric my parents put my comfort and happiness and that of my partners over their own prejudices. I imagine people say shit behind my back but that's their business. I do the same lol.

>>78335 Ive dated or at least talked to a good few fat girls in my time but out of fear I never brought any of them home or let them meet my friends and family until I met my current gf. Im honestly just amazed by how many of my fears and worries from my teenage years came true exactly. None of its gonna be enough to shake me but it got me curious how other people handled their relationships. Shes not the biggest girl ive been with but it mostly annoys me that every time someone talks down to me for thinking shes hot theyre shit talking her just as much. I can handle it but i don't know how much she can take. I do have a few supportive friends but I think I just happen to have alot of fat phobic people around me. Maybe my family will come around but at the moment they're actively trying to split us up over her size alone which is crazy to me. Im glad your parents came around to support you maybe mine will someday too

>>78303 Not in a relationship, but Im pretty open about my preferences to my mother about women, im 20 for context. I've never explicitly said i like big women, just told her I like thiccness . Anyway, she doesn't seem to care just wants to see me happy, and hasn't ever really said anything negative about plus-sized people. So I guess im in a winning situation

>>78303 >>78310 >>78318 >>78340 You owe us pictures bro. We cannot determine without them

>>78349 Can't, love her too much.

>>78340 Ultimately it's about respect, and IMO trying to break you guys up over her weight is unacceptable — worthy of suspending or ending contact until they start treating you and your partner better. I'm very serious about this. I don't know your intentions with her, whether you want to go the distance, but if she sees you can't stand up to your parents in defending her she's never gonna trust you and it's gonna ultimately hurt the relationship. Same goes with friends. It's one thing to be fat phobic — I've had fat partners say blatantly fatphobic shit — but if they insult your partner, or you for being into them, then that's a big red line. I'm not saying cut them off forever but make your feelings known, then stick to it. Unfortunately some people need to be trained, like dogs.

>>78577 Thats good advice. I plan on going all the way with the relationship so I need to not listen to the people hating. Ive already had to spend the few days since I made this thread defending her and comforting her over the whole thing so I think im headed in the right direction.

My gf was slightly over 2x my weight and 2" taller when we started dating and the gap has lessened since I've put on close to 30 lbs. I don't know what the reaction at home is going to be when I bring her home one day. Not like they'd tell me to end things with her or something but I hope no one makes any snarky comments. Half my family being doctors doesn't help.

Looking at it from the other direction, I've always wondered what my sons think of having a 350+ lb mom and if any of their friends have commented on her being so fat.

>>79498 At least one of your sons friends has a secret crush on your wife and she may even be their awakening

>>79504 Doubt that (given their choices to date), but they certainly would be genetically predisposed to loving fat women.

I feel your struggle.I was always too scared to ask a fat girl out, because as a shy and introvert person, the last thing I wanted to do was stand out from the crowd and being out of the norm. That's also why I stayed single for a long time. When I finally met and got together with my first girlfriend, my family and friends were of course anxious to see her. I immediately got those comments from my mom that she was big, and that I could do "better". She kept on making comments from time to time and remained negative about her. I think also one of my friends made some comments. Now, she had BPD and my family and friends were right that she was not good for me, but at some point it is difficult to differentiate between them being negative about her because of her appearance or because of her character. When I finally divorced her, their was a sigh a relief from my mom (and me!), but soon after she commented that she was glad that we divorced and that she knows that I don't mind if a woman is a bit bigger, but that she hoped that my next girlfriend would not be so big (she was about 5"5' and 300 lbs / 1.68m & 135 kg at her peak). That's when I told my mom very firmly that she could be glad for the divorce because she was an evil person, and that she can comment (within reason) if she really thinks someone is not right for me, but that what my girlfriend looks like is my choice, that I prefer that they are a bit bigger and that I don't want her to comment on that ever. My next gf was less big, but still BBW, but also had some mental issues (mainly depression). I could tell that my mom was not always happy with my choice, but she never made any comment. My current wife was quite big as well, but well educated, respectful job and mentally stable and my family really embraced her without comments. With regards to my friends: I have one really alpha male friend who is very vocal about his taste of women, and I think he may have made some comments in the beginning about my first gf, and she could feel how he didn't like her, but then again I can't really blame them for not liking her, I was just too binded myself. But shortly after me, another friend in our group showed up with a big gf and by now this alpha male has just accepted that his to closest friends just like a totally different type of women than he does. Long story short: tell your family and friends that they need to back off. They should judge her by who she is, not what she looks like. Tell them you like what you like, and that is some softness to cuddle. If they love you, they should be happy that you are happy, even if it is not their ideal.

>>79504 Seriously. When I was a kid, I absolutely remember the classmate with the fat mom. At Cub Scout events she’d chaperone, I used to keep tabs on where she was and would choose where stood in the group so I had a view of her lumbering around. I also remember all the parents discussing a potluck after the pinewood derby or some shit, and going a little crazy inside because there was a part where she was telling the others what food she was planning on bringing. I think I finally even asked the kid if they had a bigger toilet at home, which he didn’t seem to mind answering (no).

>>78303 My family and friends know I’m into fat girls, and they think there’s something mentally wrong with me and that I need help. They tell me I could be a supermodel, and they don’t understand why I would go for fat girls when I could get a skinny model.

>>79605 >honest in a normal way >dates various women until finds someone physically and socially ideal >happy This is the way

I'm almost 40 and my family still thinks my fat girl fetish is just a phase. Got married last year to a huge blob. They still couldn't get over it. Even at he weeding. So when they're old and alone and have no one and need help and I live a thousand miles away and they're wondering why they have been "abandoned", I'll tell them it's just a phase and they'll get over it eventually and start frolicking around fields again real soon. Real soon.

My family has never said anything. That said, I wonder what their reaction would have been bringing home someone truly huge - 500+ lbs - or someone who needed a mobility device due to their size.

My mom and dad were Fatphobe (my dad died in 2020, and my mom and I are no contact due to her insane behavior). My girlfriend met my mom but she was thinner back then. My friends love my girlfriend and don’t care about her weight. I dated a lot of horrible people before I met my girlfriend, who treated me awful, so they only care that I’m treated well. One of my best friends tells me how he thinks she’s the best thing to ever happen to me (he’s had my back during some real dark times, and always supported me). She’s gotten pretty fat, but all anyone cares about is how she treats me (very well, she’s the sweetest person, who just happens to be a greedy goth girl).

My wife isn’t super big but I’m skinny, there’s a 100 pound difference or so between us. Lot of body contrast. My family loves her and doesn’t say a word, but her mom(who’s even bigger) always talks shit about fat people she saw at work or if someone random gained weight, it’s like an obsession. My lifelong friends have always known my preference and just joked “It’s always the skinny guys, eh?”

I just don't really like the idea of people knowing you are a chubby chaser and it becoming part of your identity because it carries over into personal life like for example if a fat waitress serves your table there's just going to be implicit thoughts and jokes etc because everyone assumes you want to fuck her for being fat. I really hate that. I'm happy enough dating skinny to mildly chubby women even if my fetish isn't perfectly satisfied because there are more important things in a relationship. I don't think the perfect woman will ever come round, unlikely a 300lb woman will also share the same interests and way of seeing life as me, so I'm yet to really face this dilemma. Casual sex is a different story, bigger the better lolz

>>86618 Pussy faggot. You do not deserve the perfect woman. Cowards don't get their perfect woman. They spend their life in touch less isolation, timidly living their pathetic life the way other people think it should be lived. Never gaining anything but a false sense of security. You think you'll gain acceptance living life like this. But the only thing you've actually purchased for yourself is a false sense of security... A temporary state peace that is only maintained if you diminish your own inner flame. Not worth it. Never worth it. Only literal faggots think hiding their true self is worth it past their high school years. I mean for fuck sake, you little bitch, you're willing to deprive yourself of a fulfilling sex life so you can avoid the very minor and brief discomfort of people assuming you might be attracted to her fat waitress? Yeah, of fucking course the perfect woman is not going to come. She gonna be too busy coming to a real man.

>>86639 > you're willing to deprive yourself of a fulfilling sex life so you can avoid the very minor and brief discomfort of people assuming you might be attracted to her fat waitress? You clearly don’t get it. The waitress was just an example. These sort of jokes would be constant from the people who are comfortable with you and weird awkward silence with your mom when the topic of velveeta comes up. Probably you have no real life experience or real friends but whats being described is just the tip of the iceberg

>>86641 If you can't handle some basic ass ribbing and joking, you're the one with no life experience. Your friends and family are gonna make jokes regardless of who you date

>>86641 >>86641 Oh, I get it completely, you sad pathetic little bitch baby. I live with it every single day of my life with my 550lb girlfriend who I take with me in public everywhere. My mom doesn't like it either. Guess what? She doesn't get to be a part of my life anymore. I moved 3,000 miles away from her, and if she wants to stop being a fucking hateful bitch, my doors are always open for her. But until then she don't get the time of day from me. Nor do the "People who were comfortable with me" who thought they could make fun of my life partner like she was a joke. Boy you gotta be pants on head retarded if you think you have more life experience than me with the way you're talking like a freshman in highschool. To quote Roy Batty: "I've seen things you people wouldn't believe".

>>86661 lol what are the things you wouldn’t believe? That state of the toilet after your 550 pounder has too much milk? I actually get where the other aus guy is coming from. Some of us don’t want to become estranged from family. Fatties tend to be boring moaning mentally ill partners outside the bedroom so they’re better for one night stands. Rather be with a skinny or bbw who’s cool to hang with and can share my hobbies than a blob who’s obsessed with pop vinyls or binge watching some retarded cartoon. YMMV

>>86668 Blob or socially acceptable and active bbw... the OP is too scared to date either.

>>86639 Lol, my fetish desires not being satisfied isn’t the same as my sexual desires, I have been in sexually satisfying relationships with skinny women. Worse comes to worst pay a fat escort to eat donuts for you lol. Why would I trade a good relationship for pure sexual gratification with all the other problems that come from dating a fat woman. Hollow. Maybe I’m not ‘dedicated to the game’ but structuring your life around your sexual desires like becoming a committed feeder or whatever is low vibrational

The intelligent thing to do is find a girl whose company you enjoy, ideally slightly overweight but not necessarily even near BBW, and inflate her once you're comfortable together like every normie with a fat wife inadvertently does. This may be more challenging in the Ozempic age, but it's the only reliable way to mitigate against calamity.

>>86661 >NOOOOO YOU CANT MAKE FUN OF MY 550LB GIRLFRIEND I LOVE STOMPING HER SHIT DOWN THE DRAIN I LOVE LIVING 3000 MILES AWAY ITS COMPLETELY WORTH IT

>>86716 Definitely spoken like someone who has never fucked a fat girl. Why are you even here.

Im in my early 20s and have a huge 400 lb gf who I've been with for 3 years now but never introduced her to my family. I'm athletic and thin so her family loves me but I had nightmares about my mom knowing how she really looks like and all shes seen is pictures face up of us both. Recently she found her profile on facebook and made comments to me about how big she is and how she needs to lose weight to be healthy but that as long as she treats me right shes happy for me. I knew this would happen and I made up some lie about how shes trying to lose weight and has lost 20lbs since we first met to make my mom happy but I dread the day they meet face to face.

>>86739 Congrats man. You will get over the mom thing eventually. That's natural. But you're doing God's work by dating through it. Your future self will thank you. The older you get the less moms feelings will feel important to you. And I'm glad to hear your girlfriend's family is chill. Thats also rare. So for someone with fat phobic parents, this is very nice to have in a relationship. Your girlfriend's parents could get as easily write you off as being mentally unwell for wanting to be in a relationship with their daughter. That's happened to be quite a few times.

>>86739 And for what it's worth, the "she's trying to lose weight" line pretty much never stops working with moms like these. Just keep saying that. Your mom hasn't earned the truth.

>>86738 Fucking fat women and living with them are two different things m8

>>86782 Yeah, and waffle stomping is included in exactly 0 of those situations. I bet you also roll her in flower to find the wet spot, eh big boy?

>>86748 Today was her graduation and my family asked to see pictures of us and I share one full body and all I could see was my mom zoom into her face and look at her double chin. She immediately talked about how im going to help her lose weight and already i was getting annoyed and wanted to leave. I dont know how much more of this I can deal with and still do not look forward to the day she meets her in person.

>>86926 Might have to distance yourself from your mom bro

>>86797 > Yeah, and waffle stomping is included in exactly 0 of those situations No but if your going to bring your 500 pound wife to social events it’s good to plan for the bathroom before and after because a lot of people’s apartments aren’t going to have a handicap able stall, being smart enough to use the shower is a pretty good life hack in these sort of hard to reach areas. Totally agree these guys are making a mountain out of a molehill, fat women are just people and anyone who has a problem with who you date should get cut out of your life.

>>86948 No, the shower is never a pretty good life hack. You got a take all your clothes off and put then back on. And then completely dry off after getting wet which is a nightmare for these blob women. Bidet, plus travel bidet. There you go. Now you know how to actually live with a super fat women instead of just parroting memes that never fucking happened

I've always been outspoken about my preferences, which is the only way to be. Women in my life knew to steer their fat friends my way (I'm 6'1, athletic but not ripped, decent looking and fun, which helps). There's no reason to be ashamed of liking big girls. Being closeted is a faggot move. That being said, my bleeding-heart, tolerant, respectful, loving, east coast parents did NOT approve of my short, 450lb 10/10 smokeshow ssbbw girlfriend. It's caused both myself and my girl a ton of heartache. My siblings can bring literal crackheads home and they get more acceptance then my intelligent, creative, compassionate girl ever has. I had talked my parents up forever to her about how great they were, but they irreversibly burned the bridge with the most important person in my life and thus with me. I've had to forcefully tell them to shut the fuck up, smile, and never make her feel an ounce of discomfort again or they're dead to me. If they want to be involved in the wedding, kids, future, they need to learn to play nice. Never compromise the woman you care about for venomous family members. Big girls have it tough enough without the men that are supposedly attracted to them turning out to be pussies.

>>86951 > No, the shower is never a pretty good life hack. Are you one of those sick SOBs making their girls shit themselves? Travel bidet doesn’t solve trying to fit a 400 pound ass in a NYC apartment potty while the walk in shower is right there.

>>86957 Nope . My girls got a prerry clean butt. Travel bidets are game changers. NYC. Well there you go. NYC apartments and super fats do not mix. In fact, NYC in general is pretty unaccommodating for super obese people. It's a novice move trying to live with one in that city

>>78303 That is wild to me. I'm forever alone, but my sister's dating someone who's pretty freaking massive and neither of our parents have said a thing about it as far as I'm aware. >>86618 The worst thing about this story is the part where you actually go to a restaurant and pay their ridiculous prices. You probably tip too, you sick fuck. >>86639 Normal people date obese individuals too y'know. It's not exclusive to fetishists. You can just be with someone who's fat as fuck without telling your parents you want to feed them until they're about to explode.

>>86970 > My girls got a prerry clean butt. Travel bidets are game changers. I tried to buy my girl a bidet and she called me gay. We live in a freedom loving state that isn’t all about this trans shit so I get it. But I’m not a fartfag or into any of this poop shit and she 100% can’t reach.

>>86956 Why didn't you ask her out after moving out?

>>87007 I can tell what kind of person you are based on this weird autistic view of restaurants

>>78303 Feel like I hit the lottery on this kinda thing all the time. My parents found out I was into huge women in high school by accident (walked in on me and my phone screen was still on, rookie mistake). They've never really said much outside of some jeering from my dad, but he was also a pretty big guy and his family had some big people in it. Went out with a couple chubby girls, they were honestly more surprised with the one skinny girl I was with for a bit. Current girl is 400 lbs, I brought her home to visit for the holidays last year and everyone absolutely loved her. Helps that she's conventionally attractive (I've gotten comments from people that I know are not into fat girls that she has a pretty face or she's cute in general) and pretty damn smart. Probably helps that she works a standing retail job so she's fine with walking all day, hell we've gone on light hikes before. Definitely has a lot of family issues that lead to her current size but pretty tame compared to stories I've seen here. To be honest I'm more curious how they'll about me getting bigger. I opened up to my girl and told her that I wanted to be about her size, and while she's not specifically into it she's more than happy to encourage me. I get pretty frequent "you need to get bigger already" comments referring to things like clothes she can steal, or so I stop walking too fast for her (I forget sometimes). We've both been very overt with each other that we'll be engaged as soon as Ive got the spare money for a ring, so it's a "big" future for me I suppose. Never give up lads, I bumped into this girl by accident and ended up in the perfect relationship

>>87012 I haven't lived with them since I was 18. I live several states away but we still see them for family shit.

>>87069 Yeah, factually correct. That's the type. Restaurants use tipping to justify underpaying their staff in spite of overcharging on food. idk maybe they don't have issues with tipping culture in New Zealand since the managers just get Kangaroos to wait tables intead.