From the moment the narcissist met you, the narcissist was playing a game with you. Nothing was serious. The narcissist didn’t really want a relationship with you, he didn’t want to invest anything in you, the narcissist wanted to manipulate you. The narcissist manipulated the situation in a way that was neither fair or honest. The narcissist copied and imitated you. The narcissist used manipulation to reflect your own characteristics and values. He showed them to you, but he’s not like that at all, and he knew perfectly well that he wasn’t like that. The narcissist deliberately deceived you, made you believe something that was not true.
He did it for his own benefits. The narcissist created a false impression - he presented himself as a victim, someone hurt and exploited. He portrayed himself as a loyal, wonderful and supportive person. He presented himself as a trustworthy person. He presented himself as someone who understood you, someone you could count on, and that was very attractive to you. This would be attractive to anyone if only it were true. It’s very flattering to meet someone who is interested in you, someone who understands you, especially if you have already had bad experiences with toxic people. Then you want to believe that maybe this time it will finally be different, maybe this time you will finally meet someone who is on your side, maybe this time you will finally meet someone who won’t want to take advantage of you. And the narcissist plays his part. The narcissist plays the role of someone supportive and helpful. Secretly, the narcissist plans how to take advantage of you, choosing you as a target to take advantage of. The narcissist thinks you are gullible, he thinks you are naive. The narcissist thinks you lack knowledge, experience and common sense. In his opinion, if you are stupid enough to believe what he shows you, the narcissist thinks you deserve everything he does to you.
You deserve to be taken advantage of. That’s what a narcissist thinks. The narcissist sees it this way: if you were smart and cunning, the narcissist wouldn’t be able to do it, he wouldn’t be able to take any position in your life. However, if a narcissist manages to gain access to your world and your life, he believes that he is entitled to everything you have to offer.
The narcissist believes that he is entitled to everything. The narcissist believes that it is a privilege for you to be around him. The narcissist believes that he is investing his time and energy in you, but for this you will have to pay a high price. The time the narcissist spent with you may have contributed to many of the difficulties in your life, it may have made your life much more problematic. You may have experienced all sorts of health and financial problems, but the narcissist thinks he’s doing you a favor.
He thinks he’s helping you where in reality the narcissist chooses you as a target so that his relationship with you will bring him specific benefits and make his life more comfortable. The narcissist presented it completely differently, as if he had come to save you, as if he had come to help you, as if he had come to support you. But this is nothing more than a trick. The narcissist left a false impression on you. When a narcissist gets involved in a relationship, he is always playing a game. He acts as if he wants to create something important with you, but the narcissist has nothing to invest in.
A narcissist is always a parasite, a leech who only robs you of your best your time, your energy and your money, even though he plays as if he is helping you.
The narcissist has provided you with nothing. A narcissist will never sit back and let you speak without having to interrupt, comment, or judge. A narcissist will always interrupt you, he will always add his opinion as if his opinion was more important than yours. You never feel heard and understood.
When a narcissist targeted you, he pretended to understand you. The narcissist placed blame and responsibility on you and you believed that you had left out some important things or that something was unclear.
Whenever something is wrong in a relationship, the narcissist will always focus on the other person. A narcissist is incapable of self-reflection and will not accept that it is his fault because he does not want to face the consequences. The narcissist didn’t choose you because he wanted to create something with you. The narcissist knew from the beginning that he didn’t have the right tools to build anything with you. After just a few weeks or months, the narcissist completes the tenth floor, although there is no foundation yet. The narcissist saw that you had the right tools, that you could build something, and that’s what attracted him to you but the narcissist didn’t intend to use your tools to build anything, it was just a role, just a game, just a simulation. The narcissist didn’t want to build anything, he just wanted your tools for himself.
From the moment you meet a narcissist, the game is on and the narcissist is ready for challenges, ready to turn the situation to his advantage. This is not difficult for the narcissist because in most cases his partner is not even aware of it, does not realize that is participating in the game, does not realize that is participating in a fraud where you are exploited, where you are a victim of crime. This is what a relationship with a narcissist is, the perfect crime. It is an unfair, repeating pattern that continues in a circle, a cycle of narcissistic violence. You are not aware of what is happening, whereas the narcissist has a lot of experience because he has done it many times in the past. The narcissist targeted you for specific reasons, he knew you had no support, he knew you lacked experience and that’s what he used against you.
The way the narcissist sees it is that you deserve everything he does to you, because if you were smart, he wouldn’t be able to do all of it, he wouldn’t be able to take advantage of you. The narcissist doesn’t think he lied to you and doesn’t think he used a trick to take advantage of you. The narcissist thinks this is normal, he thinks he has unique qualities that make him better than you because he can do what he does without others noticing. The narcissist thinks he has outsmarted you and gotten the best out of you by being clever, cunning and deceitful. The narcissist thinks he was faster than you. It’s like a game of chess. The narcissist sees this as a complicated situation that requires strategy and thinking.
The narcissist’s goal in this game is to move his pieces to eliminate your pieces until checkmate and ultimate victory are achieved. Even though you no longer have the ability to move, you no longer have pieces to play, there is no longer a way to avoid danger, the player who attacks wins the game. And you were constantly being attacked by the narcissist, even though you often didn’t notice it. The narcissist will never stop playing this game, it is a form of entertainment for him. For him it’s his whole life. This is something the narcissist engages in to have fun. It’s a cat and mouse game that requires constant pursuit and always being close to the victim.
The cat allows the mouse to escape only to chase it again. It makes the narcissist feel powerful, it makes the narcissist feel like they are in control and that is what the narcissist wants most. The narcissist will play this game for the rest of his life. The narcissist’s game is not good for you, it only destroys you if you play it. You have to make the decision to stop playing this game. You need to end this game by no longer agreeing with the narcissist. You must end the game by not submitting to his tasks. You must end this game by not wanting to take part in his game. This is the only way this game can end. Otherwise the game will never end.