>>86852 No one will lead us to their treasures op. We have to find our own way

>>86985 It's not even that. Legit feedees willing to go all in are such a rare breed, if you bag one, it's a one off event. Not repeatable. Even if you have everything in life lined up and are hot as fuck ... It's just such an obscure taboo niche, there is no formula for this shit. I'm dating a feedee right now. She messaged me on feabie. So I can say feabie worked for me. But if we ever break up, I can confidently say I could spend another 15 years on the platform and not score like that again

>>>>86985 I already have a Feedee lol. I just like hearing happy stories of people finding their person in this kink. I met mine through social media. She was an online friend I made over Covid. Started off as flirty long distance friends. Cute curvy/chubby goth girl. Didn’t think anything would come of it. Started getting more flirtatous, but also closer. I let it slip I’m into Feedism, describing it as bdsm with food. She’s immediately interested. She ends up coming out to see me, we try force feeding out in person, she’s instantly hooked. Fast forward 5 years later, I’ve moved to be with her, she’s gained about 80ish-lbs, and we’re really happy together. Accidentally flirted my way into having a fat goth gf lmao.

I met my girlfriend by trying to befriend her. She was already very fat when I met her, but I didn't let that influence me, I primarily wanted to be friends. We became best friends and she had a crush on me for a long while until I realized I had a crush on her too, in which I asked her out. For the first 6 months or so of our relationship, I didn't tell her because it would be a bombshell to just drop on her after we just started dating, and I didn't want to seem like a creep who was just dating her for her body. But at some point, the guilt crept up to me and I felt more like a creep if I kept my attraction to her weight a secret. I didn't want to make it seem like I was grooming her into feederism. So I told her one day and explained that I primarily cared about her health, didn't want her to gain (she's already morbidly obese as is lmao) nor did I love her just for her body. It went very well and she was willing to try it out for me too. That was 3 years ago and now she's legit just into feederism because of me. We do stuffing sessions every once and a while and she loves being a helpless obese pig. I'm literally living a dream.

>>87145 Congrats, having your girlfriend be your actual best friend sounds wonderful. Just how heavy is she if you don't mind sharing?

Eating disorder group therapy. I’m in at least three groups meeting in different places (church, clinic, etc) and different days of the week

>>86852 She's 5'2 at her weight is somewhere between 250 and 260 pounds, putting her at a BMI of 47 and well into Class 3 obesity. What's crazy was that she was like that before we met just by being herself. All i really did was make her proud of being fat. She maybe put on 5-10 pounds due to my influence at most. I also don't want her to gain weight because she is surprisingly pretty healthy despite her weight and I care about that more than this fetish. Plus, she's fucking hot as hell and has just enough fat to be an SSBBW without being too big and suffering the consequences. And before anyone asks, I won't be sharing any photos of her.

1. english class. went from 5'7" 190 to 263 over 3.5 years. wasn't into the kink at first, super turned on by it by the end. broke up bc long term compatibility 2. friend's roommate. hot skinny girl. 3 years after meeting her, saw her on FF. 5'3" 110 to 160 over 5 months. legit feedee fetish but parents shamed her into losing. she fantasized about "someone forcing her over 200 lbs" but i was in a relationship so she was more of a friend i just secretly went to in n out with. pivoted to feeder after losing it and dated a huge guy. 3. okcupid. went from 5'4" 170 to 180 over 3 months while nonchalantly talking about 220 as a reality. wasn't into it at first, VERY into it within a month. broke up due to her emotional fragility/trauma constantly seeking things to fight or be upset over. 4. (current) bumble. 5'4" 110 to 150 over 4 years. not super into the kink but warming up to it. loves teasing me about things she's outgrown and getting out of breath, but isn't naturally too turned on by the kink like the others. still loves playing into it, telling me new experiences she's noticed, and saying how she can't wait to get fat and become a fat chick, during sex. gets self-conscious every 10 pounds or so, then gets used to it, then lets me fatten her up with "squish potions" (half heavy cream, half some soda). currently down to keep gaining and exploring, so should hit at least 160 soon

>>87172 How did you manage to convert all these girls into the fetish? Are you simply hot or...?

>>87151 as a feedee who lurks, this is genuinely so evil but I respect it LOL would've worked on me I won't lie

>>87176 >as a feedee who lurks as always, pics or gtfo

>>87145 Lucky you! How big was she when you first met? And how did you first meet her?

>>87176 Feedees all have one mental disorder or another. My advice is find some girls with ocd, autism, slight retardation, pcos, prader Willis, or another disablement that makes you a fat looney.

>>87195 Already explained more here >>87168 We met after being acquaintance in college after I asked about what backpack she owned since mine at the time was cheap and slowly falling apart. That was until I saw her again at an event where we were both alone without friends, so we ended up bonding a lot that day.

>>87203 That sounds really sweet. How was it that you realized you had a crush on her? And how was it that she reacted, when you confessed your kink to her?

>>87205 Another Finnish Anon spotted asking the same question i did :D Quite unusual to see other people from my country on this board >>87168 Very nice, best of luck to you both!

>>87206 Tbh we need a nordic community, sure it wouldn't be huge, but things just work differently here compared to north america or contintal europe so it'd be nice talking with like minded people in the same situation. Our population simply isn't big enough for sites like feabie to be useful for dating.

>>87203 We really do, somehow, but we'd. have to get women onto it too. The tragic thing about the nordics, I've found, is that with how rare fat girls actually are compared to the US and such, spaces for this kink often end up full of male feeders (and feedees) with nary a girl in sight

>>87208 I actually saw some fat girls when i was in a somewhat sizable town for college, a couple students could have been over 300 pounds, but i actually saw some young and pretty SSBBW's occasionally waddling around town, working as cashiers etc also. And yes, Feabie is a desert. I briefly used it after turning 18 and noticed that there aren't any fat girls who could be easily approachable because that site naturally tends to put the rare women on that unreachable pedestal as objects of lust. Feabie as a whole just felt like a political echo chamber and it drastically made my mental state worse. For Finland, i feel like the big girls are more shy and insecure in general than other western countries, and finding someone who actually enjoys or is neutral about being fat instead of hating themselves for it would be something.

>>87209 Yeah, the state that the Feabie community is in really is tragic. I feel like it's all too often that girls on there just ghost me and vanish for no reason despite the conversation itself having been perfectly normal and pleasant up until that point. I'm just never certain whether the problem is me or whether it's them, when that happens And also yeah I feel like it's really rare for me to see truly fat girls just out and about over here, especially ones close to my age. I did actually meet this one very large girl who's a few years younger than me at a party a few months back, and I'll be seeing her again at another party around the start of next month. I really want to approach her and idk ask her out or something but I'm both really shy and terrified that she'd think I was some sort of weird pervert. Does anyone have advice on how I should handle things, whether I should ask her out then or wait until later?

>>87210 I get that feeling, been dealing with autism and social anxiety myself so i'm not really charming with people anyways, never truly attempted dating due to it. I too have the problem of feeling sort of intimidated by facing my obsession face to face, in that situation it would be best to try to forget the obsession with her size and remember that she is a human being just like you also. If your first meeting went alright, i'm sure you can handle meeting her again. Best of luck, i'm rooting for you bud :)

>>87210 And i think a tactic that could work is to try to get to know details about her by asking some everyday questions (generally people like being asked how they have been, opinions on appropriate timely topics you suspect she could be aware of), that could help build trust and let her know your interest and care for her, take it slow and easy without jumping straight into the deep end if you don't have much experience in these situations yet.

>>87209 I agree, I'd say if you go to any big event or somewhere with lots of people you'll definitely see a few huge, pretty girls. I'd say seeing someone at 150 kg isn't out of the question, but bigger than that things get raaare. I've spoken with a handful SSBBWs myself so it's definitely possible also in our corner of the world. But the secret to having people like you is just to ask follow up questions every time she tells you something about herself and act interested, no matter how boring it actually is. Just keep cool and I'm sure things will work out, just don't try to hide her or seem embarrassed by being seen with a big girl. Fat girls are used to dudes wanting to have sex with them discreetly and they will notice if you appear embarrassed by them. Talking to one itself isn't weird or perverted. Ugh just today a few hours ago I saw this really big girl at campus, I go to a quite small tightly knit university so I have no idea how I haven't seen her before now; the last week of school before summer break. She's the 2nd biggest girl I've seen on campus, about 140-150 kg and had a really pretty face. I had a perfect opportunity to strike up a conversation with her but I just had a brainfart and just stared at her like some creep instead.

>>87211 Yeah, got autism myself as well. I have been on a small handful of dates, but never been in a proper relationship. And I asked a number of basic questions and such from her and the rest of the people at the party when I got there, I felt like I got to know her on a surface level at least, but at least for me I always feel like I don't know what to do when I run out of the surface-level questions. Do I just let the conversation die and hope that she picks it up? And how do I ever get to like a deeper level than just the surface-level questions with someone, let alone asking them out? idk I hope I'll be able to gauge the vibe when I see her once again but I'm still worried. >>87218 And I hope you get to see her again! And when you say that she's the second-biggest girl you've seen on campus, who's the biggest?

>>87220 How old are you? I'm 20 myself. You seem to be handling socializing just fine compared to me.

>>86986 I'm the same story. We met on feabie, I messaged her first. She's gained about 100 pounds with me so far. If we broke up, I would definitely never be able to repeat this. It really is just pure luck imo, right place right time kinda thing. I'm very grateful

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>>87220 Thanks! Sucks that there's no more parties before break, I could've told her how I was supposed to ask her something but zoned out but instead looked like a weirdo and we could have laughed about it. For the biggest one, I guess about 150-160 kg. Unlike this one I see her all the time at school. We actually talked a bit at a party about a year ago, but nothing more came out of it and I havent seen her at anything social since then. A while later we match on a dating app but I don't dare writing her anything. I haven't talked with her since, I've tried giving her a smile whenever we pass by but she doesn't even look at me. I'm very attracted to her body but I don't find her very pretty otherwise so while I'd love to sleep with her because of her size I'm not interested in anything more serious. We have some mutual friends and I don't want people talking about me playing her or whatever if I approach her purely for sex.

>>87196 I met my first feedee in special ed. They put all the grades in together cause we’re a small school so I was in with 7-12 and met her when she started and I was a year from graduation.

Hoping to find one when I start college. I just need to get the hell out of my bubble and get past my awkwardness/anxiety. Advice would be welcomed.

>>87241 This has to be bait

>>87267 Advice is make male friends first. Walk up to guys at college and start yapping until you click with people. Do that all freshman year. Then next year when you feel confident and settled you can go whale hunting. If you try to skip the male friends step, then from any girl's perspective, you're just another lonely loser creeping up to her from the abyss. You gota have friends first.

>>87241 Game respects game. I think half the feedees posting content have a similar story for how they met their feedee. >>87268 Jealous dudes with dry dicks. Crabs in a bucket. He can’t get laid so no one else can.

>>86852 Hello fellow feedists, I consider myself a very lucky man because I happened upon my feedee one day at Uni. She was walking up this set of stairs (it's a very hilly campus) and I could tell she was struggling... I'm a fast walker and was trying to get to work so I'll admit she was testing my patience lol I eventually stopped to smoke a cigarette in a shady spot behind this building, and as soon as I looked up from my feet and took the first drag I saw her walking over to me. She was already chubby... when we met she was a solid 230, 5'7. She says, "Can I get a hit off that?" We hit it off from there. No feabie (fuck that), no fantasyfeeder, no magical tricks to bring two people together. After three years of trying to have one decent feederism experience, nine months ago I was finally convinced that feedees are made, not found. As we talked I found out she had an appetite. She loved to eat. She's pretty lazy. She has bad knees. Sore back. Etc... Her father was pretty heavy and her family was a bit poor, so naturally she loved cheap, processed food. As any woman is, she also happened to be submissive, expressing how much she appreciated possessive, dominant, controlling qualities in her partner. Lastly, she was insecure, as most chubby people are, from a lifetime of being the "big kid" and a string of relationships with conventional men who didn't even acknowledge her weight, like it was taboo, let alone embrace and cherish it. All these things, coupled with the fact that we were just really compatible personality types and loved to smoke, made for a cocktail of feedist qualities I just couldn't ignore. I had to bring it up, at least mention it to her. In doing so, I determined the best approach would be in bed. She'd already made comments about her weight before, so I introduced the idea to her as "i see fat as a manifestation of how well I take care of you", which she LOVED. It was a win win for her. Eat, be lazy, don't lift a finger, and be more attractive to me. And it's easy points for her to feel like you care about her. Once you have your foot in the door, you'll learn it snowballs very easily. She's now sitting at a very comfortable 337lbs with a daily McDonalds breakfast (god bless the app), gets winded going to her room on the second floor, uses an inhaler, and just recently started using the little motorized scooters when we go grocery shopping. Things are going good. She'll also start to love it herself if the signs are there from the beginning. She'll get deeper in it with you as you introduce ideas. February she couldn't imagine me calling her a pig. She oinked for me this morning. Long story short find her yourself, if she's on feederism apps already chances are you don't want it :-) good luck!

>>87275 This guy gets it My gf isn't necessarily a feedee, but she loves to eat and be taken care of. She knows what I like and will say sexy things in the bedroom and loves pushing her belly against me. She and I have been together almost 3 years and she's gone from 270-330 at 5'11, and it's all gone to her belly, ass, and thighs.

>>87174 i'm not ugly but i'm not some gigachad. i'm honestly beta af and was a borderline incel for quite a while pretty much, once we are into each other and pillow talking and talking about kinks "what are you into", i vulnerably confess with a disclaimer that, "it has a horrible reputation because of manipulative sociopaths, and if it disgusts you, i'll never bring it up ever again, but i think its hot when a girl gains 5 lbs for me and has to carry it around for everyone to see the mark i made on her, that being said, I've had partners that have wanted to lose weight, and i was the first one to support their goals, invite them to the gym with me, etc" yada yada. all of them have said they were initially thinking, "that's not happening" and then 2 weeks later say that they couldn't stop thinking about it and actually found it kinda hot. then i just start to ease into larping about it gently during sex. girls typically get off on you getting off. you find themes in it that are adjacent to their kinks, (marking, dependence, submission, embarrassment, transformation, permanence, etc), then it just becomes a regular part of sex. first girl got turned on by fat talk pretty quickly, but wasn't into it when she was alone until a few years in. 3rd girl got hooked pretty fast and LOVED larping (and living) it. she once said during sex so genuinely, "WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO ME??" about her new sexuality text snippets attached from the first 3, you figure out which one's which

>>87272 Is it wrong to feed a mentally incompetent women into a diabetic coma over a single fortnight? Is it so wrong daddy?

I'm just too ugly and awkward for it to happen. Not to mention black, that tanks my chances for the most part.

>>87506 nerdy/gamer black dude is actually OP in progressive cities

>>87506 Also, there's a stereotype that black guys like to date fat girls, so fat girls are more likely to think you might find them attractive.

>>87541 >there's a stereotype that black guys like to date fat girls I get that that's supposed to be a joke, but nearly everybody on bbwchan is white, and so are pretty much all the girls posted here. Just like on Curvage, just like on FantasyFeeder, DeviantArt, and basically every feedism space on the internet. They all skew heavily white, vast majority American. Notice the abundance of USA flags and the lack of Jamaican ones? Obviously there's nothing wrong with that, but you would think people would see all this and conclude that "white dudes have a thing for fat chicks", or "Americans have a thing for fat chicks" but apparently that's just not how this works.

>>87631 That's because the black dudes out out in real life actually meeting, dating, and fucking fatties. A lot of fat while girls end up getting into black dudes cuz they're the first and only men in real life willing to give them attention. The white dudes are usually too pussy to approach em openly

>>87631 Do you think black americans don't exist lmao

>>87631 Irl, white men in general have a huge fixation on only being seen with conventionally attractive women and white people as a whole put a huge emphasis on being conventionally attractive. Most white people act like it's the end of the world that you like fat women, to most black people, you're just a nigga that likes fat bitches, and its no big deal

>>87669 Of course they exist, doesn't mean they're posting here. These spaces skew heavily white, often to an almost absurd degree. This reflects in the camgirls too: you're generally not going to find many models who aren't white or fair-skinned Asian unless you're specifically looking for them. Plus in the off chance you actually find a black woman: they're probably light-skinned, straightening their hair and using makeup/selective lighting to look as white as they can because even they're compelled to cater to the preferences of white people. It's not exclusive to feedism either. Shit, they might as well call OnlyFans OnlyWhites. That top 1% is like a sheet of printer paper! 📝

>>87631 the stereotype is just plain wrong and simply used to insult both fat women and black men. it's a 2 for 1 for a lot of people. >>87642 >>87673 and this is total nonsense. both of these patterns do not exist.

I do have a weight gain fetish, but I have not intentionally tried to make my wife gain weight. She did it all on her own, and I love it. I wouldn’t call myself a feeder and her a feedee though. It’s a bit more complicated than that. She’s Vietnamese and immigrated here for school. Super short, about 4’11. She was stick thin when we met, due to Vietnamese beauty standards and family pressuring her to be as thin as possible, she weighed I believe 90 pounds when we first started dating. She’s always wanted to be a mother though, and noticed that a lot of mothers, at least in the US, tend to be kinda fat. So she decided she wanted to gain weight to have more of a “motherly figure”. It wasn’t so much of an intentional weight gain as much as just her no longer restricting herself when it comes to eating. Fast forward four years and she’s 220 pounds and counting now, after one pregnancy. And a lot of it isn’t even pregnancy weight, she was already like 190 pounds when she got pregnant. Again not even done through me pressuring her, although I have always told her I will love her no matter her weight. I do find a lot more attractive now that she’s bigger compared to when we first met, though

>>88007 Have you outright told her you prefer her extra curves?

I have by now, though I waited until she started to compliment her own beauty first. She thinks she looks better with more curves, and time my phone brings up older pictures of her she gets upset because she says she looked so frail and unhealthy back then. I don’t think she was quite that bad, mostly just really skinny. But she definitely seems much happier and confident in herself now, which also contributes to me finding her more attractive. Doctors post-pregnancy have been trying to encourage her to lose weight and start exercising. She’s started doing some exercise (mostly walks and squats for about 30 minutes a day), but is adamant that she doesn’t want to lose her curves, so she’s not going to overdo it.

>>88004 I suppose it just goes back to the age old question: why is the other man in cuck porn always a black guy?