/gen/ - General Discussion

For me there's no line. I've repeatedly sabotaged my wife's diets and routinely tempt her with food. I know she doesn't actually want to lose weight and when left to her own devices will put on about 5 pounds a month. At this point I'm sick of her song and dance about needing to diet, feeling bad about herself for a few days/hours/minutes, and then going on to eat the same shit that's been fattening her up. Once she talked about going on a diet and ordering pizza for dinner within a single sentence. I try to erode whatever hangups she has about her size too, praising her for her looks, playing with her fat all the time, etc.

Wife has always been SSBBW tier and has gained weight on her own. We've watched porn together, all my porn is stored on my NAS, and she knows what I'm into. But I have never asked her to put on weight. In fact, I've asked her multiple times to lose weight because I want to travel more and she doesn't fit on planes. I don't have a problem with couples who are open with each other about what they want, if you both agree to it you can do what you want. But unidirectional non-consensual feedism is absolutely abuse. You're getting sexual gratification from a non-consenting party. I'd have the same problem if people were starving their partners to get them to lose weight.

>>92104 Calling it abuse assumes the partner has no agency. They are choosing to eat the food, skip the workout, smoke the weed. If as a feeder you show love through food, it's not a secret. Your partner is receiving love through food. There is implicit consent. Same with encouraging medical care that leads to weight gain. If they have a problem and the doctor is on board, get after it. That's part of the attraction. Care and feeding. I think the line is a size beyond which you're not prepared to share the fallout. If you're gonna split when she can't hike anymore, chasing that size is bullshit. Otherwise, game on. Both partners have needs. You're aren't suddenly invalid just because they're unusual.

It’s not much different than your partner having big issues with excessive alcohol or smoking or drigs and encouraging them to drink beer, wine, cocktails or have a smoke or do pills. It only feels less bad for food because you can give up alcohol, smoking and drugs altogether but not from eating. Reality is, girls have food addictions and eating disorders, coupled with a ton of mental health problems that led to the eating habits in the first place. Feederism / fat fetishism is at its core is basically enabling and encouraging of those addictions and eating disorders and issues. People say they have agency over their diet, but for food addicts and eating disorders, it’s not simply or any more agency than someone with issues with alcohol, smoking and drugs. The health problems from morbid obesity, especially once you start encroaching 300 lbs and above, are tremendous. Pushing someone to lose weight and being critical on it doesn’t necessarily work either. So best thing you can do to be a good partner is enjoy while you can but not push on food (unless she’s a consenting feedee herself) and be supportive when they want to lose weight.

>>92111 Didn’t you read about Lindsay Clancy or Cornell. Women have no agency, anything bad that they do is the fault and liability of the nearest male caretaker.

>>92370 damn, I can smell the incel loserdom wafting from this post. seek help

>>92376 Yeah and feedism being enabling of eating disorders ? Sure that certainly can be the case but, I don't actually see that to be for everyone. I personally don't want a woman who has a disorder I can worsen by feeding her. But hey that is me.

>>92097 difficult one. the gooner in me says 'as big as you find attractive', which tends to be pretty large, but really more dependent on proportion than total size as I'm just not into huge bellies or complete blobs, but girls like Kayla or Boberry at 400-something or 600-something lbs respectively are hotter than a lot of 300-ish lb women who carry it all in their belly to me. But realistically, somewhere between 250 and 400 it just has to stop, depending on her fitness routine, height etc. You want to be able to do fun stuff with your woman if you're actually in it for the relationship and not just for the fetish fulfillment alone, and if she can't fit onto a plane seat or has trouble walking more than a couple steps it's just no good. Very hard to spend quality time outside of your own home at that point.

>>92098 This is the only correct answer. This thread is now complete and needs no further comments. Everyone just read this guy's post. I might sound sarcastic here but I'm being completely serious.

>>92376 >Lindsay Clancy Are you the female holdout juror who let her off the hook for strangling her 3 kids to death with her bare hands? I can smell the lesbian misandry wafting from this post. Seek help. I'm surprised you didn't work a "folks" or "they" into your post somehow.

I'm not into feeding per se but I have found with my current girlfriend I do like the hedonism aspect of her gaining weight. When she gets home her ass does not want to get up from the couch unless absolutely necessary, and I am basically up every 30 minutes getting stuff for her, getting her a drink/snacks, or doing chores. I don't mind, I love her and acts of service is my love language. >>92098 yeah I pretty much agree with this, except I don't go out of my way to sabotage her. I go on walks on the daily and she refuses to come with. If I try to make something healthy for dinner and she's in the wrong mood she'll pout until I go get her fast food. I think she feels a certain sort of way about it. Before she had gained so much weight she was like "thick/fat" and dated guys who liked her because she's funny with a pretty face and fat ass, I am the only guy into fat chicks to ever date her. At first she did not like and thought it was "fetishy and gross", and a couple times she really insulted me to the point I almost broke up with her because I'm not about to be made to feel bad about finding my girlfriend attractive. I think she has grown to like it, at night she'll grab my hand put it on her belly or fat rolls so I can squeeze them and sometimes umprompted she'll just come over and sit on top of me with a full weight for a bit. She has also talked about how fat she's gotten and has said "thank god I found someone who likes that". I think her confidence in her fat body has gone up as well, she finally caved and let me buy her some cute clothes and lingerie in the 3-4x range. She doesn't get self conscious going out anymore because when she's with me because she likes showing off her "hot skinny boyfriend" while being pretty and fat, instead of feeling like a fat gross loser all the time. tbh I think she enjoys that I enable her bad habits. She said the guys she dated before would have shamed for her for asking to eat out as much as she does, I just go and get it for her.

>>92384 Money solves most accommodations like flying or even walking. See boberry traveling the world. Life's too short to compromise on this stuff. Especially counting our years of sexual prime. Don't waste them on half solutions. Also IMO there's but much hotter than seeing a partner get too fat. To the point they are out of control and overwhelmed by it. Over the years it becomes crystal clear that's what you're into. And so stopping means losing that attention, which with all the weight, is now the best thing in their life. So they can't stop. It's incredible. Peak feedism.

>>92440 I’ve always thought about just going all out with the feederism and getting a good life insurance on my girl while she’s healthy. Could be a good paycheck if her body can’t handle the lifestyle.

>>92097 > >10.00 MB max · 6 files · PNG·JPG·GIF·BMP·WebM·OGG·WebP·TXT I think when gainers cross the line into immobility, it goes from 'maybe unhealthy but somewhat survivable' to 'literally fucking killing yourself'. The human body starts breaking down when it can't move itself or change position much. About the only hobbies more dangerous hobbies would be hard drugs, freeclimbing skyscrapers, planking, or base jumping. At that point it stops being a turn-on, unless you're a death feeder or some other type of sick freak. Boberry is one example of someone who wobbles on the line. As long as she's able to move around a bit, it's possible she could live to a decent age. It's unlikely that an 800 pounder could live much past 50.

As much as I’d happily have a super big wife, mine is not. However, one of the few nice things about having a wife on the smaller side of being fat is that she still has a sense of “too much” that the real big ones have long lost, which means I don’t have to draw my own line. I can just be a pushing force knowing that there will be some restraint coming from her. Also, she knows exactly what I’m doing, so it’s not nefarious.