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partner that resents your fetish? Anon us
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027122 10/29/2026 19:21:42
by No. 93266
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Has anyone dealt with a partner that has started to resent your fat fetish? To give some background, I started dating my girlfriend a couple years ago, and she put on over 70lbs from that time to a peak weight of 350lbs. In the beginning of our relationship she had never been with someone into fat chicks, her previous partners had been into her because she was "thick" and pretty after she had lost weight after highschool (she was around her peak weight then). She was really surprised that I was into her body, she told me that she thought that the only people like that were straight feeders, which I am definitely not. She was kind of weird about it at first, sometimes shoving my hand away when I was grabbing her belly, but she said she learned to really like it because I grabbed at her fat so "lovingly". I made sure never to use fetishy language about her, and to compliment her on things other than her weight that sort of thing. Another time I busted a nut all over her back fat, and she said she remembers in highschool crying after seeing all her back rolls in the mirror, and that I'm finally healing her body image issues About six months ago something changed. She started getting upset if I complimented her and saying stuff like "yeah you like that I'm this disgusting now" and being like "oh so I suit your fetish now, or as you call it your 'preference'". She then dropped one that really hurt "if we ever broke up, I'd never date someone into fat girls like you are, I really prefer someone who likes normal girls and I'm pretty enough to pull them anyways" I'm just kind of at a loss. I think it is coming from a place of insecurity obviously, that I'm only with her because she's fat. She started a GLP-1 though, and I have tried to help her lose weight by offering to cook high protein meals, go to the gym with her, and she flat out refused. She still tries to eat around it as much as she can because binging is how she destresses, and then makes herself sick and doesn't know why she isn't losing much weight. I think maybe there's resentment at play too about that. It's really starting to wear me down to the point I want to break up with her. Has anyone dealt with this, or maybe think it's just a temporary moment of insecurity? I am not going to be with someone who makes me feel bad about being attracted to her, but I don't want to jump the gun if this is temporary
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8efd8d 10/29/2026 20:06:03
by No. 93270
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Dude that chick hates your guts lmao. You're definitely right about the insecurity thing imo to fix this youd either have to help her with her self worth somehow or just find a different girl. Maybe you can even get one that likes you. Its pretty likely she used your kinks as an excuse to pig out and not take care of herself and now that theres some consequences shes gonna deflect and blame you for liking it in the first place. Wait it out and see if its just the glp1 destroying the way she feels joy tho
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37bea3 10/29/2026 20:32:57
by No. 93273
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You gotta figure out what changed, then puzzle or how to defuse the impact on her life. Something external is causing her to feel bad. You don't turn on a dime from gaining 80 pounds to shooting up a glp1. She's unrealistic about her dating market at this point. Someone without this preference sees 200 pounds as big. She's gonna look melted at that size. There's really no going back. I wouldn't say that obviously, but it's the reality.
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8efd8d 10/29/2026 21:16:16
by No. 93275
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>>93273 This is so true. With my girl moving in with her and making sure she knows how much I like her along with whatever i can do to shield her from the impact of our families making her feel worthless over her weight. Whenever its just us for a while she gets more ok with her body and can think about what she actually wants(shes only like 260-270 and people are terrible. this isnt as manipulative as it sounds) Also right about the dating market thing. IRL any girl over 200 is a 4/10 max to any normie. Hell my own family has told me my gf is a 2 and that its purely because of her weight because she "still has a cute face" and again we're talking like 260 with good distribution
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3d0f92 10/29/2026 21:35:17
by No. 93276
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Fat girls will always overestimate their chances in the market, particularly because there will always be gymbros who see a diamond waiting to be polished and want to "fix" her. Otherwise they're just like us and girls will tie themselves into knots explaining how it's different because they can bench press almost their full weight.
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40324c 10/30/2026 06:39:48
by No. 93282
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Bruh, I feel you. My wife started with Mounjaro which I fully support. My wife was about 350lb too and carrying that shit all day is hard work. Mounjaro is expensive af here in Australia so financially I support, but our sex has dried up (so she thinks I don't which is probably partly true). Anyway, my wife said to me that I "put 30kg on her". Like yeah I like shit food but I'm not a feeder. Nice in videos, too much work IRL and to me there is more to life than making someone fatter and working around the difficulties that come with that (no hate to the IRL feeders, god speed). I would say the real reason for the wife's gain is emotional eating. Eating when she's upset or sad or had a fight. I would say your girl needs to deal with her emotional eating if she truly wants to lose weight. Maybe up the dose on the GLP1. My wife gets more food noise (her words) as it starts to lose effectiveness and needs to be increased. I would say don't focus on your girls body. I'm sure you find it sexy, but she probably doesn't. She's probably feeling insecure about herself and that you are only with her because she's fat (I know my wife did and probably still does). It might be a conversation to have that you don't feel this way and you need to reassure her that there are other things you love about her. Maybe she's funny or smart or makes you happy idk. Maybe don't nut on her back rolls for a bit. You should stick by your girl if you love her. You will have rough patches in any relationship. Definitely have a conversation with her about how she's feeling and that you love her for not her body. If you keep showing her that I think she'll feel better. Sorry for the ramble. Just got home and have had a few beers.
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594b6c 10/30/2026 06:48:35
by No. 93283
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maybe only semi related, but i found the hostile and aggressive reaction (too) many BBWs gave me once I told them about preferring fat women to skinny ones so thoroughly off-putting that it kinda lowered their appeal to me. many fat women are incredibly neurotic which makes them unpleasant to deal with. normal sized women tend to be more relaxed and easy-going, they're just more pleasant to be around in general. the hard truth. self proclaimed feminists and "body posivity activists" will call me a right winger now and an incel. this is their level of "discourse", getting personal. fine. but whatever they say will not discredit the fact that BBWs tend to be so insecure it can make them totally unattractive. picture only semi related unfortunately. it could be this simple and beautiful but it ain't.