>>85499
You have to learn and *accept* what you can and cannot realistically compromise on, so that you can avoid making similar mistakes in future.
It'd be nice to be able to be fulfilled in relationships with people you're not highly sexually or personally compatible with... but if you can't be, then you can't be, and refusal to accept that will only continue to cause suffering for yourself and others.
This may result in spending a lot of time single. That seems better than spending a lot of time deluding yourself in unsustainable relationships. I would much rather be single than compromise.
But at the same time, you have to develop some degree of perspective regarding your desires and impulses. Some level of acceptance that you are not going to get everything you want, and that this is natural. Life is always full of unsatisfied desires. The alternative to viewing them skilfuly is being dominated by them, resulting in a lot of suffering and stupid behaviour.
> I could never stop thinking about it when we were out and a bigger girl walked by or something like that
Like, this is not a problem unless you make it into one by torturing yourself over it. Checking people out seems very natural and I never expect to stop doing it, but it's also just a passing impulse/desire. Viewed in that light it can just be fun.
I assume you have at least tried not viewing porn with superfat women all the time.
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